Need your advice or opinion guys and gals. I’m visiting Vegas and wanted to fly my favorite provider to Vegas to go to the shows and hang out for couple of days. Few days after I arrived in Vegas, I emailed her twice and called and leave messages without any response? One time I called, the phone was answered by mistake and left on for about 5 minutes and I can hear all the talks and laughing in the background. I have a hard time figuring this out. The good news is that I just save myself few extra thousands. Have this happened to anyone before?

Such things are common place and you just have to shrug them off and move on to another.

This seems like very rude behavior for a favorite.  I think you need to find a new favorite.

I agree with mrfisher that you might want to find another favorite. Did she mention she would be taking some time off? Maybe she was on vacation herself.

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Make an appointment with Nikki Avalon, or LaRue McCay or one of the other lovely ladies on lvdelight and I am sure you will forget all about your problems.

I'm with mrfisher on this one. she definitely could have been more polite and adult about Vegas. Human psychology is an interesting one, and it's weird what triggers a person to act in such a manner. Maybe it gives you a chance to meet that new favourite?

Let's see... You're offering a lady a paid vacation to Vegas with meals and shows, etc.  And you're paying her for her time on top of that.
If I were in your place she would have gotten exactly one call inquiring as to whether she was interested.

Consider yourself lucky to have the resources to play at that level. There are many "quality" gals in Vegas that could fulfill your needs. Move on and enjoy! Consider it her loss.

Welllllllllll I have to agree - in part - with the other posters. But I also need to ask if you had asked her to join you prior to your departure or was this a spur of the moment idea?  If you got to Vegas and decided at the last minute to invite her, you shouldn't be too disappointed.  But if this was something you had planned ahead of time, you need to move on. But regardless, at the very least she should have had the decency to respond and decline.

She still should have responded. How many times have you seen her?

Just because she is YOUR favorite doesn't mean you are HER favorite. She may be happy to spend an hour or two with you for fun, frolic and cash. But the idea of spending multiple days with you out of town is quite a bit differet.

You don't say whether you have traveled together before- if yes, it may not have have been as good a time for her as it was for you. If no, it may be as simple as she's just not into you enough to spend more than a few hours at a time with you.

Just a possibility-- but as always, I'm not very bright so I could be wrong.

With all the local talent, why limit yourself to just one.  The original poster just worded the question incorrectly, and it's amazing that you got the correct answer in spite of that.

Just because you don't hear from her right away doesn't mean she's ignoring you. If she's spending an extended amount of time with someone else, she probably won't be checking her emails/texts/VM's until she returns home. And if this was a last minute thing on your part, then you should plan ahead and get early confirmation next time.

Some women are just busy, and there's nothing RUDE in being unavailable.

Thank you all… I’m amazed how diverse and brilliant you people are. I can now draw my own conclusion from your inputs. Well, I have seen her more then a dozen times; dinner dates and each time has always been most satisfying experience for me. And yes, I informed her of this trip about 3 weeks in advance. But whatever reasons, it is ok, she is still a wonderful provider and I respect biz as biz. In the other hand, this has given an opportunity to meet wonderful providers here in Vegas…. I’m happy. Thank you all!

See what GFE is doing? Some of you guys are taking it far too seriously. We are NOT your girlfriends...it's a fantasy and we have another whole huge life with other people in it. Just today on my local board some guy was crying about a lady that just will not see him anymore...she's the ATF as far as he's concerned but obviously she doesn't feel the same way. I agree with Hardy5456(he has a post on the newbie board). In fact I am the ASP to Hardy's hobbyist. Guys stop getting so attached and mushy after the fact...you pay me to deliver a service, NOT to be your real girlfriend and after the time is up move on.

The reason I can detach and "play" the part keeps me and my private life very separate and allows me a healthy relationship with my SO. That's not to say that I don't prefer some clients over others...I do( my ATF's). Some make me laugh harder, some are just really interesting to talk to. But I don't get bent out of shape when I don't hear form them for 2 months or they see other ladies(a great idea...I don't like being the sole ATF).

That's the right attitude!!!  Much more constructive than some of the more defensive responses I've read.

This sounds about right. I've been telling guys ever since I got a TER username, to distance themselves from it. The idea of an ATF in this hobby is great, but you should always be seeing other women (just like dating in real life...)  I've been with a lot of providers, and have never gotten close to attached.

I think alot of guys use it to sub intimacy from their SO's and that's where that attachment comes from.

I do understand, but I keep it about the moment.

-M

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