I met this provider about 2 months ago.  She was just my type and I started seeing her regularly, like once a week.  Each session started getting longer for the same price.  Now we are spending like 6 hrs per session, but still paying for an hour. And almost every day we text each other a good 5-10 times a day.

I'm confused to as what is going on here.  Are we attracted to each other?  It certainly feels like it.  This is the most GFE I've ever felt.  I doubt she is acting. I'm even starting to get a bit jealous when she got appts with other guys.

I'm so confused.  At first I was reluctant to allow the relationship to go anywhere.  But now I feel kind of addicted to seeing this girl.  

Guys what should I do?

If more sex, then definitely there's physical attraction.  If more talk, there's more emotional bonding being developed.

Don't get too attached. Because now your jealousy comes to play.  And since this is her livelihood, it may not end well if you ask her to sacrifice for you. I mean - hey dude, you're getting jealous when she sees other guys. And if you picture their hard cocks slammin in and out of her, you'd go crazy. Stop torturing yourself.

had a recent frontal lobotomy.

Sounds like you could use the same!

It's a paid relationship with someone you click with, a far cry from a real relationship.  You should immediately go out and fine another provider who will also rock your world.

Keep persective.

ask her about it and risk everything going down the toilet.

Most importantly don't forget this is still a business and don't try to read a woman's mind. If she really has feelings for you and wants a deeper relationship she will let you know but it may cost you more $$$ than you bargained for in the long run.

I have a giant shit eating grin on my face as I write this, you must understand, but realize my man that it is a thin line we walk here and there is a lot of grey.

I know providers who've gotten jealous seeing me with their co-workers.

Other providers couldn't have cared less.

Was my connection different with either of the two? Darwinism works in mysterious ways, and some girls get jealous.

It is hard for emotionally based creatures to look at the situation logically.

There is a wonderful movie by Steven Soderbergh that spends a great deal of time talking about this from a harsher perspective. It will remind you not to do anything stupid. And not to put your career at risk.

If you want to test it, see if it's crossed the grey into a real relationship, turn alpha. Be the oak tree, and see if she becomes the squirrel.

Personally, though, I am too old for that type of nonsense these days and would simply wish you good luck.

That's how I ended up here.

We will then see a post about falling in love with a provider. After that it will be the heartbreak post of a relationship that couldn't last. Then the "beware" post of falling in love with a provider because "I've been there".

OP, just think of it this way. You just asked a bunch of strangers how you should handle your feelings. Even when you are not too sure what those feelings even are. Does that seem like a good idea?

No one, ever, can tell you how to feel or what to do with those feelings. All they can do is tell you what they would do in your place. Bottom line, they are not you. Go look into yourself and figure this out.

b-

i had asimilar experience with a lady last year,it was really awesome how we seem to feel about one another.she would text me every day and tell me things, we saw each other quite often.the sex was threw the roof, we did things that i never thought of.
one nite she came over in tears,i tried my best to comfort her.later on she told me she loved me and left.havent seen her since.it really felt bad, i was worried about her.

all in all i should of known better.its a fantasy.

just so you know it does and will happen.

even if the lady performs unbelieble sex for the first time, repeat experience is probably a bad idea.

hobbying can be very emotional and tough to deal with at times.it works both ways.im sure the ladies run into the same sinario at times.

Having seen your reviews - if you're talkin about Asian women ... they might want marriage and a green card. That's a third possibility

It is possible that she likes spending time with you, but that she has no interest in a romantic relationship with you. This has been my relationship with my ATF for quite a while. We are best friends in real life. We chat at length almost every day, and we get together a couple of times a week to do something fun. We socialize with each other's friends and family. We travel together. But, and this is the key to our success, our sex is still P4P.

Things to keep in mind. There are many directions that a client-provider relationship can take, other than a romantic or committed one. Once you know the score, you may find that the potential for jealousy fades or disappears. The only way to know the score is to talk with her about what she has in mind. My friend and I find ourselves taking each other's emotional temperature every once in a while just to make sure that we are in agreement on what we are doing.

Talk to her - not us.

Enjoy the ride.  You have a good thing going and don't want to risk ending it.

I wouldn't mention it to her.  If you see other women, don't tell her.  She'll likely get jealous.  The last think you need is a jealous woman.

Accept the fact that she fucks other guys for money.  That's how she makes a living so get get jealous yourself.

1. got feelings for you.

or

2. enjoys your company.

or

3. she's killing time until the next appt.


Either way...it's a compliment.

Try and show some appreciation with a fat tip and/or gifts.

Don't get attached to it; it could be gone any moment.

time to write the LG on the Erotic Highway board.
My advice, time for some sport fuckin'  Go see a few new ladies and don't repeat with any of them!

You should consider the possibility of what doggie says because I had such an experience.

She likes spending time with you either because she enjoys the sexual aspect or the mental one or hopefully both.

It happens. I have clients that I do enjoy spending time with and we seem to run over in time to occasionally. That doesn't mean I want a relationship with them.

This is a P4P relationship and I suggest you go find another provider and have fun with her too and keep seeing your atf when you can.

Remember these are hard economic times and she may be giving you extra time to KEEP you LOYAL. That's how this business works. The smart girls survive.

Love Rae

Wiser words have never been spoken!!
And Rae's been the example of this truth for a while.

Just sayin'

Often things are not as we would assume.

She is the world's foremost expert on the motivations of her own behaviors; and is thus the most qualified to answer.

I agree with Rae!

As a provider, I would have to say I've been pretty lucky, so far! Most of the guys I date, I actually like and care about them and their well being. Yes they are friends in the hobby though. They understand that I'm a companion and date others.

If we're laughing, talking and/or having a good discussion about something interesting, I will stay til I feel like leaving. (Provided I or we have the extra time to do so.) Occasionally, this has been a couple extra hours, of my own time.

CONSIDER IT A COMPLIMENT! =D

There are a select few I talk to weekly just to say HI for a few minutes.

Just my 2 cents worth.


Hey, wait! Why is it a penny for your thoughts but yet ya give your 2 cents worth???

Eh, anyways HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE! =)

i'm a provider and I approve this message but I dunno a visitor catching feelings for a provider always kinda makes me go uh-oh *shrugs*