One of the best parts of providers is visiting who you want, when you want.If they are harassing with pleading emails and you put up with that,you might as well be dating demanding civilians.

Not quite the situation described here, but I often find that two out of town ladies I have been following closely happen to visit town at the same time .... then I have the tough choice of deciding whom to see and skipping out on one of them!

Fire them all.

Two cardinal rules of this profession -

1. you aren't paying for sex, you are paying us to go away. If they keep buggin you then you aren't getting what you paid for.

2. Discretion. Contacting you out of the blue is NOT discrete in the slightest. Sure, some men are smart enough to have private emails and hobby phones, but not all are. I can't count how many guys call from their regular cell phone, or contact me using their work email. A provider should never assume that an unsolicited contact will reach the right set of eyes.

Last but not least WTF? This is not a cheap profession. We make an hourly rate on part with lawyers. If these ladies can't manage their finances well enough, they all sound like drama waiting to happen. I honestly don't understand how a lady can charge $$ or more per hour, yet somehow tell a sob story about how broke she is. It just doesn't compute.

Cut em loose and find ladies who understand the discrete nature of this business, and who have enough sense to manage their finances better.

Just my 0.02

That lets me know ahead of time, so I can decide whether or not to see them.  If I can't, I tell them, but ask them to keep me on the list.

Swim

One of my new favs ask when she could see me again, I said next week.

Then, I got a text from a regular who said "I Love to see you ASAP".  She kinda told me before that its back to school time for her kids.

Then today, I get an email from a lady who I've known 2 months ago, and she said a relative died and she needs cash, and wants to see me ASAP.

Goddamit. I just got tax bills for properties due this month.  Just need venting.  

Any of this happen to you - when your ladies start contacting you at the same time?
 

Remember their inability to manage their finances or budget their cash wisely is really not your problem unless you want it to be.

I would see neither and move on to someone else.

. . . asking me to buy stuff.

Any of this happen to you - when all the on-line stores contact you at the same time?

I have clients/friends who are single who I call and email we go out to brunch, we are friends as well and even more so. I would never contact any of my clients about work and only contact a select small few I have friendships with over the years. I have a client whos mother is so sick, we chat about that often, but never about an appt. If he wants to play he'll call me.
Its one thing if you told them to feel free to call, still not ok to call about work.

dont see any of them.. there is always a crisis, but you have to handle your business...

and if so, invite them all for a nice warm pile up. And don't forget the bubbly! May I suggest a decent bottle of Krug - and some *real* champagne flutes?

Oh - and bring at least a dozen party hats. They will want you to change often....

Back to school time is one of those high cost times for lots of people, especially single moms.

I'd bask in the nice feeling of being wanted and see the one I most wanted to see (I hate backing out of an appointment so for me it would be the 1st one the way yoiu describe it).  tell the other two, truthfully, finances don't allow.

I'd probably also fire my psychiatrist.  

I'm sure it could happen and I don't think it's inappropriate to ask if you have developed that kind of relationship with them, but they should also be able to handle you saying no. The thing I don't like is the one who says she needs cash (don't we all?) Are you an ATM machine?

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Has happen to me.  I fully understand the bond between me and escorts is $$.  Actually , that's the way I want it.  I really don't mind if a fave contacts me when she is in a rough patch and appeals for a little biz. Often, special attention comes with my special consideration. And i have had more than one occassion when babes I've met during my travel and encouaged to tour DC or ladies that happen to be faves all schedule tours in my area during the same time frame.  The only answer for me [ might be different for you] is to be honest. When you are not in a position to see anyone let them know...don't lead them on . If several are here and you can not accomodate all of them let the ladies you have to pass on know and simply explain you've already made plans with someone else and as much as you want to see her you honor your commitments.  If she has class she will understand and appreciate your position.

This is a problem?  Sounds to me like you're bragging!

It's not somethin to brag.  It's a serious problem if you know all three ladies and they want to see you on the same week.  I'm in a rural area and some of these ladies told me that there's not a lot of calls.  I'm in a state with 12% unemployment (officially).  But unofficially, it's more like 20%.

I have never been contacted by anyone. Maybe it's because I olny see 1 or 2 a year.

You created the environment that allows them to think of you as either of these 3 types of client.

1. White Knight (I know from where I speak) who is there when she needs a hand!  Now if the benefits cover the extra things you need to do to get there or get her the $$..This can be a good thing! However the reward should be more than just the standard 'Thanks.. POP... and go!!! You answered the call when needed THIS IS PREMIUM EXTRA MILE SUPPORT!  Re evaluate after reward!

2. She REALLY REALLY Likes you, as a person, Pal,  May I say LUVER? Likes having you around when things get gloomy.  She feel PRETTIER in your company. This we never complain of.. Try not to let her order all the TOP SHELF foods etc when out for a DATE! If she offers to PAY!  OMG you are in for a good time! BUT REMEMBER next time...

3. She is a troubled person who knows you are on the hook. If she is simply a TAKER and not listening to your requests.  This is a sign that U R The LOLLIPOP... as in SUCKER!  again RE EVALUATE!

Arrange all of them at an outcall, sure you'll have to pay for the room but the look on their faces when the three of them are in a hotel room staring at each other would be priceless.

I don't contact anyone for an appt, they contact me .....I always thought that was how it was supposed to work. No wonder I've had a few people call me and as when I wanted to see THEM and I 'd be like what don't you mean you want to let me know when you'll be coming to see me. Provider contacting a guy for an appt aka MONEY imo is begging.... begging is not sexy.