I am relatively new to the hobby.  But I have seen a particular lady 3 times this year.  It just gets better each time.  I mean not just the sex but the intimacy, the sensual touching, i am connecting with this lady.  My question is, Is this something that just happens or is it the hook ladies have to develop a client list.  Be honest ladies and jents, what do you think?

Bootzie: it's real for 60 minutes, after that it's memorex. That's what a good provider does, I'm glad you found one.  

Just a suggestion: bring her a nice gift the next time you see her.  Let her know you appreciate her.   --z

Chemistry is what it is, sometimes it's there more than others... and it sounds like you and her have it.  Take it for what it is, and that's all that it is.  Don't get yourself too wrapped up in trying to figure it out or make it anything more... just enjoy it!

into something that may bring you and / or herself pain and suffering. and yes we need to look out for ourselves as well as others even in a business.

it naturally just happens but i'd avoid the negativity of thinking of it only as a "hook". that seems to take the fun out. but then again you don't want to fall asleep and be a sap either.

as you get to know each other better it is only natural that you will each be able to provide the other a better experience, or a more perfect illusion. that is all it is perhaps. the question of whether it is "real" or "illusion" is an unimportant one best left to the philosophically inclined. IMO it is a bankrupt enterprise to labor over the distinction.

my take is that once one begins to think that it is "real" or "illusory" on one or both sides then there may be an attempt to control the relationship by possessing the other permanently (a "bad" or clumsy thing IMHO). or one might consider avoiding possible pain by cutting off contact with the other (which can also be done more or less clumsily). there are kind less kind ways of doing this. and although it is a business, that doesn't mean it has to be barbaric and harsh.

where does your question come from? you can only answer that to yourself. for me as long as i am content to enjoy the experiences as they unfold then i know all is well. i say this as an erotic role player all my life. i like dramatic play in the bedroom. i am collecting some thoughts and questions for advice about this recently.....

people talk about "the boundary" as if there is only one: the boundary between a purely provider-client relationship and one in which one or both sides are romantically engaged. fair enough but there are other boundaries: the boundary between GFE/BFE performance and the discussion of the business relationship.

so i see three boudaries between three roles: business, performance, romantic. the screw-ups and missunderstandings happen when it is not clear to both parties which of the (hopefully only) 2 of 3 roles one is in at any given moment. or when one is switching roles. there is a lot of emphasis about danger in crossing boundaries between the the romance and GFE/BFE performance roles. but i think there is also a great danger in not understanding when one is at the boundary between discussing business and GFE/BFE performance.

you can have a legitimate concern for the business relationship and discussing that can blow up in the performance area. i tend to repeat with folks. i get concerned if it seems i am repeating more than welcome. this can get misconstrued as negativity about the performance and not as positive concern about maintaining the health of the business relationship.

this is likely more than you wanted. sorry if so. your question comes at a time when i am thinking of these things and revising my approach.

Escorts are not strippers. Its not about the tease with these gals it is about giving you what makes you happy and keeps you coming back.  If you are with a good woman and you are treating her well it is not at all unusual for the two of you to look forward to your visits together. Just remember that you are alone in a room with this lovely lady because you are paying for her to be there. She may enjoy the time you two spend together but she is still doing it to earn a living. Don't lose sight of that...

Have you ever been to a really good therapist or masseuse...??(I Know *I* have! HA!) Escorts play BOTH those roles- together with that of *temporary* "LOVER," "FRIEND," etc! It is the JOB of a good escort to intuit your needs/wants and establish a personalized psycho-sexual raporte BASED on THAT, which is individual to YOU... They percieve what *YOU WANT* and REFLECT/MIRROR that back at you for an hour (or more)- whether it is chatty, playful and sensual interaction... or athletic, passionate, and intimate one...

Much like with a gifted therapist or a masseuse- you often find that the better an escort knows a guy- the better she can understand and can provide the type of "service" he desires!

This girl intuites that YOU DESIRE "intimacy," "sensual touching" and "connection"... and thus is doing a stellar job of meeting YOUR needs!  She's not doing anymore of "the hook" than a therapist is when he/she actively listens and validates you... or a masseuse does when he/she locates your muscle spasms and releases them!  Providing quality service does not = manipulation! Don't over-think it...

I compare it to the loving relationships I developed with many of my patients. No manipulation just the application of talent and skill by an exceptional and empathetic professional lady who clearly likes you as well.

and easy to follow.

that Spring has finally sprung.

About freakin' time too!

yep it is about time.....

and i have an intriguing new adventure lined up. just counting down until launch!

and when you leave from our first meeting you are on your way or we just don't click.

Why would you return to see a lady if there wasn't some chemistry bringing you back. No, it's not a ploy it's enjoying each others company.

Don't cross the line, one or both of you can get hurt. Depending on your situation only you know the price you'll pay. Could be a far cry higher than your donation too her.

Enjoy and throw passion to the wind for the time together and when finished walk out the door and on your way to being you again.

Kisses Haley

A) A service, combined with good "customer relations"

versus

B) "Real" but confined to the boundaries of the hour (really does enjoy you AS A CLIENT)

versus

C) "Real" and beyond the boundaries of P4P

Difference between A and B -- does it really matter?  If she makes you feel it's real, that feeling is your "truth."

The question of "is it real or is it memorex" only matters in distinguishing between A/B and C.  Be very cautious about venturing into the realm of C.  That way could wind up being marvelous, but it's also a gateway to potential manipulation and/or stalking -- both of those possible from either side.

I don't expect C and I would be very skeptical of appearances that it reached that level, even after a couple of dozen visits, let alone three.  I'm perfectly happy with B, even if B is really A.

This sequence of posts couldn't be more timely for me.  I'm about to see a provider for the 5th time.  I've never seen anyone more than twice before. Yes we click and enjoy each other's company and yes, I know that this is just a business transaction for her, but I can't stop thinking about her.  It is absolutely childish I know.  I have become infatuated and obsessed.  I've told myself this is the last time, but I suspect that's a bit like an alcoholic saying this is the last drink.

Maybe she'll read this and cancel

Well said and I am enjoy A or B with my ATM and you're right it doesn't matter.

Hello!  Calling Mr. Freud!

Did you type 'ATM' when you meant 'ATF'?  Don't you just love the way our thoughts sneak out despite our brains?

Although, the thought of literally applying your ATM usage in this context is somewhat amusing.  Basically implying you don't care whether the ATM is issuing you real money or counterfeit, as long as it spends the same!