I was emailing a provider who is my one of my ATFs, but have only seen like twice, about a video she recently posted on another review site and how I we probably won't be able to see each other anymore, since she said before that because of the NCNS from other guys in my area, but then she then offered to come up one more time, but I told her that I'd rather not her risk losing money coming up and getting cancellations in my area than to stay where she know she can get business, but she insists we can make it work. I mean it's not like she's losing anything I've only seen her twice in the past year and a half, so I don't see why it'd be worth the trouble just for the chance to see me again lol.

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My head is spinning after reading that LOL.

you are so sweet..do you think she really cares?

Sounds like she enjoyed her time with you and she is risking the chance of low booking just to see you, but on the other hand of course she is hopeing for more, but you are the initial reason for the trip.
Sounds like you should maybe take a compliment. . Unless you feel you don't deserve it. Lol j.k

Times are really tuff.  She is scraping, trying to find some money. (and really nothing to LOL about)
She probably ISN'T making money where she is...  and she is willing to chance some biz in another location.  

Not at all which is why I am confused, she has stated time and time again how much she wastes money coming up, but is thankful for guys like me who can actually keep their appointments or have the decency to cancel well enough in advance for her to make another appointment. So when she said she won't be coming back I agreed with her and saw it as just a good business move. So it's just odd that she'd offer to come up knowing the same thing might happen again

There's no way to tell for sure if she is really sincere, or if this is some fancy guilt trip marketing ploy, or some combination of the two.

If she comes, and you like her, go and see her.

Don't over-think these things.

It's a pretty standard acronym in this world.  If you're ever confused by a term, it might be a good idea to check out the list of acronyms in the Newbie Self-Help Guide. The Urban Dictionary is also helpful sometimes.

That's the thing I don't really think I merit her coming up here to see me and the hope that she might be able to book other guys. I mean I guess I'm a nice guy and a lot younger than most hobbyists, but I figure she'd has just a good a time with her regular clients in the more metropolitan/urban area than to come out where there is not as much business to be gained

It sounds like you don't really want to see her again, if thats the case tell her. If you do want to spend more time with her and she is willing to come to see you, whats the problem? Enjoy it for what it is, you get to have sex with a beautiful woman and she goes home with more money than she had when she came. This is supposed to be fun, don't over think things.

book the appointment and see her. The financial ramifications of the trip are really not your concern. Trying to figure how providers think, is a loosing proposition.  

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I do want to see her again I just don't want her to go through to trouble of hosting an incall way out were I am on the off chance I might be there because chances are I'm not I have to hobby less because I've gotten more busy. And between her schedule and mine it just doesn't look like it's going to happen, so it doesn't make any sense for her to come up on a whim. I guess I know what Spock & Data felt sometimes. If it was an outcall that would be different, that would make more sense but she doesn't do outcalls. I had the same problem with another provider and I had to cancel a week in advance and she took offense to it. So to save myself and her the headache I'd rather she do so of her own volition and not have to worry about me, I'm just another client that's it nothing special about me save my age.

Not sure how far away she is might not be as far as you're making it out to be. I see a lady who will drive an 1 1/2 hours one way just for me. Book 2 hours get the place and just have fun. No illusions here she's not coming for free, but she says she likes to come see me because its not so much like work for her. I'm younger like you and not a weirdo so she genuinely has fun. Might be the same in you're case. It's kind of flattering but not that big a deal. Other than the gas not any expense for her if you get the place, I usually throw 30 bucks or something for the gas just as a nice gesture.

in your location.  A gal doesn't like to arrive with nothing booked.

Right if she stayed both days but she doesn't since she's a student and only stays for the afternoon or early morning, plus she has an SO, and another job. It just doesn't seem like a good idea. The only reason we ever met was because I used to live down in her area, but then I moved.

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I should have known that, but the confusing original post had my brain scrambled from making sense of the what he wantsd. Thanks for the advice lol Im sure I know most acroynms. HEY I HAD A BRAIN FART.

If she's happy to come to you and she gives you what you want then I don't see the problem. She wants your dollars and you get a good time, simples

If you enjoy her company, be thankful she visits your area.