What's is the likelihood of a hobbyist to be able to book a provider when at any point during the email, or phone conversation, the guy asks: how much?  

Don't get mad if you don't get paid.  

Never ask a provider ANY questions of this sort until AFTER you've been verified and only then, respectfully and tactfully. And never to negotiate. That is something that would warrant a successful liason and a synergy that merits it's consideration. AND THAT DOESN'T MEAN I DO THIS AFTER A DATE OR TWO OR THREE. OK? 😎 I'm not saying I've never broached the subject, both successfully and not so. But the result never put a strain on the relationship, either way

correct me if necessary. Do you wait until after you've been vetted

But I had good reason to, and I used better words.

i also like to confirm the donation.  but i never ask how much.

then I ask. It has never been a problem. I am not going to set a date with a hooker EVER if I don't know how much I am paying upfront!

I tend to mostly shop on BP, and if the girl doesn't specify a rate in her ad, and doesn't mention it, I will usually ask "donation?".  Usually there is no real vetting before this.  But I also don't discuss service details.  Date/time, location, duration, donation, that is all.

And not a seasoned hobbyist.

may I ask what is BP,I am new,thanks  

If its someone I haven't seen before (and even if it is and there could be confusion about which package we're talking about) I'll just confirm that the donation for ## is as per the rate on www.???. Has never been a problem and once I've even had a lower rate quoted back to me. (I paid her the higher rate, in part because of her gesture and in part because that was what I'd been prepared to pay.)

how else are we going to know how much to bring???? i am always respectful when asking, so i am sure that helps.

I have an appt this week where the provider has THREE different prices listed online. I will ask.

...there's a high chance they are hoping you'll say something lower.
I re-direct them to my ad which ALWAYS included some rates (or my website).
If for some reason they ask again I'll ignore because by then i'm pretty sure they care more about fucking with me than fucking me and I got other people to do.

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I have never been turned down for a date because of asking how much. Maybe it is 0% for you, but you are not "all providers."

Like I said in my other post, if the rates are clearly stated I have no Readon to ask and will not ask. However if the rates are not clear and I need to ask, then it will be one of the first questions. I'm not going to bother wasting time on screening etc., if I am not going to see her based on rates.

Don't you want the item that you are purchasing to have a price tag on it?