Met him as a client three years ago.....  quite a special kinship we have with a ridiculously passionate connection, full trust, and all the same interests, beliefs, outlooks, hobbies, backgrounds....

Such a passionate relationship, can't imagine the same thing again, yet he has commitments I understand and respect.

We still communicate occasionally/ run into each other too strangely in the oddest places, flirt with the idea of meeting again, but equally deem it not wise.  Funny how it's so hard to get over a great love!!!

That way you get the best of both worlds.  It breaks my heart when two people who should be together aren't.  I have felt this way about a number of providers.  Just the fact that I can look forward to seeing them lifts my spirits.

Its hard to keep distance when you have a real 'click' I know there is one woman I've seen (see) that I have trouble at times remembering that this is not a 'relationship' but just a relation$hip.

If it's meant to be, it will be. You know that old saying,"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's meant to be"? As gay as that sounds, it's really true.

Her fighting for it can no only cause her life to get badly damaged, but will damage many other lives in the process. Often the love of one's life is not really, there will be others for men or women that have something going for them.
I suggest that she work to understand what makes her special and then focus on enhancing those qualities. If she does that I am sure that many loves of her life will come along.

apparently the love wasnt that strong to break off other commitments..

And even if he did.. would he eventually call off the commitment with you after falling in love so deeply and losing tons of money ?

for escorts that are truly into this hobby I find two varieties... those driven to excell in whatever they attempt - and those who are good because they can actually get into the role of true lover and ENJOY the romance and thrill - in other words... a romantic....  and all the rest are unequal imitations....  You, dear lady, are the romantic....

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...and you know we have spent quality time together, I realized there was so much more life had to offer me in a relationship than the one I was in.
When you accepted my proposal for marriage and the ring, it was a simply a confirmation of the fact that we were both moving down a path we BOTH expressed desire to go down. I didn’t think this was an issue, especially after last week in the mountains together.

As far as transitions go, why if some feel we are all transitions for each other, that we (the transitioned) are being helped/moved to someplace other than were those helping us through the transition, are? I was hoping, and I’m not shooting from the hip here, that we are in this together.
Money? Never really been an issue for me. Leave a marriage after 20 years and the friends and relationships developed during that time, see both your parents die from cancer, watch many of the things you ever felt secure about disappear, and then tell me that money is the most important thought on your mind? We have all been with and without at times.  It will return, especially since I desire to give you the world!
I understand a woman’s need for security, trust me when I say that the man you at one time put your faith in will bounce back.  

My papers are signed, the divorce will happen; the question of you remaining in my life is in your hands. No matter what happens, you are the most incredible women I have ever met and as the original posts states, I “can't imagine the same thing again” ever in my life... “Painful on both sides!”. Yes. But certainly a pain due to situation, not the puppets involved.

We’ve kept this relationship off of the boards for over 3 ½ years; I guess it was about time to put it out there...there is sooo much more than meets the eye, I hope never to be seen.

BTW, I never demanded/harassed you to leave the business, I simply have bitten off more than I knew what I was getting into and have had to bleed in your presence (who’s left?). I certainly can’t blame you for having to have to make a living while I get my affairs in order, just hurts a bit a times.
It’s who I am...found that out about myself.

Love you more than I can say here....

Bird out!

Stealthmode
Aka/youmaykissthebride


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I have been in your shoes young lady...I also respected all parties involved when I discovered his marital status. I knew I didn't want to be a part of such a hurtful sitation (even considering she never "knew", a woman can tell something is going on)....couldn't help but think "What if I were the wife"?
Also, came to realize "we" might be clouding his issues at home, and that I could have been anyone, he simply needed someone to help him feel all the energy, intellect, and sensuality he's missed-but also that he's responsible for making that happen as much as his spouse! I finally had the strength to say, "Go love her like you do me"...amid too many nights of tears!
He reminded me again of just how it's supposed to be when you can love and that it's ok to lean on someone from time to time, and I believe I helped him remember he's still a very very great man, very lovable, and not just a breadwinner....lessons!
We had that kind of connection to end all connections...the intellect,the same wonderful energy level and passion-but then we didn't have to deal with the real issues of life day in and day out! And if he'd go outside his relationship with her, he might be inclined to do the same with me.
We were so refreshingly honest about it all, and that was our saving grace...and it sounds like you are too-way to go!! It's so hard, but imperative to keep one's mind when following one's heart!!
We still talk business from time to time, he knows how he's such a mentor in that area for me. In fact, we are considering partnering for a new business I'm thinking of buying!!! If necessary, we'll have appropriate meetings for those, say over a lunch table at a restaraunt. His intellect is truly what grabbed my heart!! And his silliness in the midst of being "Mr. Successful"!!
Everyone comes into our lives for a reason, and we must keep that in mind!! Then there's always the saying, "better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved again"...yes I'm a sap when it comes to such issues! We've both said, even though we met each other in an unusual way, neither of us regret it. He'll always be my rock n roll boy scout...and it's best left that way!!!

Great wishes for your heart, and his too!!!

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with that sort of thing, and I wasn't suggesting she do anything stupid like out the dude or boil his bunny. All I meant was what I said. And I really do believe what I said. I fought for the greatest love I have ever known, and I'm glad that I did. I've tried to live my life by the rule of,"How will I feel looking back in 40 years if I take this course of action?" To look back not knowing what could have been is a crime, to me. If you try and fail, at least you know you did what you could do and you can sleep at night.