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"Why me?"
MintyFreshness 66 Reviews 2241 reads
posted
1 / 28
Ladies - every ask your clients "Why me?"

I'm curious if any of the ladies ever ask their clients "What made you pick me?"

I'll bet there are some more interesting answers other than "You looked like my type."
I know I pick ladies for a variety of different reasons.  I have a type physically but it's also fun to explore.  Sometimes I get a sense of a ladies personality from Twitter.  Or maybe they have uniformly phenomenal reviews.  It's not always "You looked hot on your ad."

CurlyW-NatsFan 94 reads
posted
2 / 28
Usually.....

"Why me" is the question that gets asked when something bad or unfortunate happens to us...  

 
Rarely people ask that question when something good comes their way.. How many times have we asked..."Why me..." Why do I get to live in America and not some impoverished country in  Asia or Africa?  "Why me.." Why do we get to live in the 21st century where technology has made our life so easy, and not in the 18th or 19th century? I could go on, and on and on, but you get the point !!!  

 
So far, in last 20+ yrs of hobbying, I was asked only once why  I chose her.. I told her that she was the 2nd best choice after someone else I contacted flaked out on me.. Never got asked after that.. Either no one cares or the word got out not to ask me... LOL

-- Modified on 11/17/2022 8:38:28 PM

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 102 reads
posted
3 / 28
Considering you have been . . . .

in this game for 20 years, "2nd best" is not really all that bad.   Lol

CurlyW-NatsFan 107 reads
posted
4 / 28
Re: Considering you have been . . . .

It actually just came out like that.. It wasn't trying to be mean to her or anything like that. LOL.  I must have been 25-26 at the time, and the person in question was too.  She ended up becoming one of my go-to girls and I ended up seeing her 10-12 times after that..

mrfisher 115 Reviews 98 reads
posted
5 / 28
Guys, be careful with this one...

It can be treacherous, like the question:  "Do these pants make my ass look big?"

 
So, accentuate the positive.

 
There are many good answers like:   I liked your posts on TER (or wherever) and thought we'd be compatible.

Or, just say that her photos turned you on.   If she says what about them, say it was the pose, or the look on your face, or just that it was a sizzling shot, etc.
Complimenting a gal's web site is also appreciated.

 
Saying that you were the back-up plan, or your rates were cheap, or that kind of thing is not going to get the relationship off to a good start.

CurlyW-NatsFan 129 reads
posted
6 / 28
Re: Guys, be careful with this one...

If the girl asks me if the pants make her ass look big, I will tell her.."No sweetheart.. It's not the pants"... LOL...

 
Then I can always blame it on ESL*, or some other lameass excuse should things get out of hand. LOL

 
ESL = English as a Secondary Language...  And no.. It's not a gdaddy100 acronym...

 
I miss gdaddy100.. LOL

inicky46 61 Reviews 104 reads
posted
7 / 28
You guys got the line wrong. It's "do these pants make me look fat?"

Answer: "No, you're huge ass makes you look fat."
PS: I have never been asked by a provider why I picked her.

impposter 49 Reviews 104 reads
posted
8 / 28
Re: Usually.....

I read your post and I wondered, "Why me?"

Posted By: CurlyW-NatsFan
Re: Usually.....
"Why me" is the question that gets asked when something bad or unfortunate happens to us...  
   
   
 Rarely people ask that question when something good comes their way.. How many times have we asked..."Why me..." Why do I get to live in America and not some impoverished country in  Asia or Africa?  "Why me.." Why do we get to live in the 21st century where technology has made our life so easy, and not in the 18th or 19th century? I could go on, and on and on, but you get the point !!!  
   
   
 So far, in last 20+ yrs of hobbying, I was asked only once why  I chose her.. I told her that she was the 2nd best choice after someone else I contacted flaked out on me.. Never got asked after that.. Either no one cares or the word got out not to ask me... LOL

-- Modified on 11/17/2022 8:38:28 PM

AnnaCoast See my TER Reviews 101 reads
posted
9 / 28
I love this question

I ask it frequently for several reasons. I truly want to know why someone chose me, what makes them think we would have fun together and how did I connect with them while reading my ad or website. It's also an ice breaker and gets them talking about themselves and most relax then.  
It's important to me as someone who is creating a business and a happy lifestyle to know what about me, or my website is resonating and connecting with the other person.  
Answers range from you're my body type to you are someone I want to spend time with, and I liked what you had to say on your website. From their answers, what and how they said what they said, sets the tone of our time together and I plan accordingly.

team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 106 reads
posted
10 / 28
Tricky question

It's not a question I like to answer, to be honest.
The reason being, answering truthfully can really hurt the session sometimes. Just imagine you're telling the truth every time.  

 
"You were the only girl who was available at 10:30pm, I've tried twenty others and they all declined".  

"I saw a review where a guy said he fucked you in the ass vigorously for an hour and thought I'd get the same mileage out of you"  

"PO said I have to see you first before seeing superstars of the agency"  

 

It's really more of an interview question. On repeats, sure. If you repeated at least twice with provider and keep seeing her,then after a few visits that's perfectly fine. For each new client? I think that's overboard.

CurlyW-NatsFan 96 reads
posted
11 / 28
Re: Usually.....

Sometimes its just the choices you make.. In this case you chose to click on my post.. LOL..

 
Wasn't really your best attempt at humor. Was it now? LOL

-- Modified on 11/18/2022 11:44:48 AM

QueenBia See my TER Reviews 93 reads
posted
12 / 28
Yes indeed I always ask it helps with marketing. Eom


END OF MESSAGE

CurlyW-NatsFan 95 reads
posted
13 / 28
Re: Yes indeed I always ask it helps with marketing. Eom

Would better question be "how" they found you than "why" they found you?

 
Oh BTW, I saw a few of my responses to your posts were pulled. Looks like you might have submitted a problem report.. How pitiful. LOL

impposter 49 Reviews 102 reads
posted
14 / 28
Re: Usually.....

I asked my writers what happened. They said they can only work with the material they are given to work with. But I still wonder ...

Posted By: CurlyW-NatsFan
Re: Usually.....
Sometimes its just the choices you make.. In this case you chose to click on my post.. LOL..  

 Wasn't really your best attempt at humor. Was it now? LOL
Why me?

girlfan1959 48 Reviews 127 reads
posted
15 / 28
On a first date be sweet; if a repeat, be honest

On a first date be sweet; if it is a repeat, be honest.

On a first date, just tell her she looked beautiful in her ads and her reviews made her seem like an interesting person.  

On a second or subsequent date, you are obviously into her so tell her exactly what attracted you to her initially and why you are repeating.

MintyFreshness 66 Reviews 98 reads
posted
16 / 28
Some odd responses here

I have never seen a lady just because she was available.  I'm not desperate or horny enough to book a date with someone if I don't find them attractive in some way.   If they're not my type, have terrible ads or websites, come across as rude or boring on Twitter, etc.,  I just don't book.

Even if they weren't my first choice at that particular moment, if they are on my list at all, there is a reason for it.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 68 reads
posted
17 / 28
Marketing research

I think it would be standard marketing research.  It's so expectedly natural that I can't even remember if I've been asked that.

Kitty76 See my TER Reviews 112 reads
posted
18 / 28
"Why me?"

Why ask such a crazy question? I mean this site is not a dating site for serious relationships. This is an escort site where Providers get paid to satisfy the Hobbyists. So think about that when you want to ask why you were chosen. Who cares why you were chosen. Just be happy that you were.

CurlyW-NatsFan 100 reads
posted
19 / 28
Re: "Why me?"

One of the rare times you actually made perfect sense.. LOL..

girlfan1959 48 Reviews 135 reads
posted
20 / 28
Sorting different kinds of relationships

FWIW, I have never been asked that sort of question on a first time visit. It does come up after a provider/client relationship becomes a friend-friend relationship in addition.  

On the first visit, I assume that it is more or less obvious what the answer is to "Why me?" (looks, reviews, services offered, website, ethnicity, etc.) especially with independents who have checked out my reviews.

On a repeat visit when their is an actual relationship, I have been asked more complicated versions of this question, but usually as a part of getting to know each other better such as exchanging real-name information, going out for non-sexual things together, and so on. If you are going to travel together, it seems like and unavoidable anyway.

-- Modified on 11/21/2022 3:08:46 PM

anony3274931 97 reads
posted
21 / 28
They are women

Just deflect their goofy questions. You deflect work around on how they make you feel. Throw chocolates or cash at them.

J0e_Fella 35 Reviews 108 reads
posted
22 / 28
Re: Guys, be careful with this one...

Posted By: mrfisher
...Re: Saying that you were the back-up plan, or your rates were cheap, or that kind of thing is not going to get the relationship off to a good start.
...Go wash off that cheap perfume, she said, after we greeted her in her hallway. The date was the most memorable ever, I recall!!

Black--Panther 98 reads
posted
23 / 28
Re: Usually.....

That's pretty funny

QueenBia See my TER Reviews 119 reads
posted
24 / 28
Some of us, do develop serious relationships…

I make friends for life & still have serious relationships with people I have met on TER. Not everyone pays you to leave. My longest relationship has been over a decade, and it has evolved into something never imaginable.

1980STT 93 Reviews 107 reads
posted
25 / 28
Re: Usually.....

Posted By: CurlyW-NatsFan
I told her that she was the 2nd best choice after someone else I contacted flaked out on me..
My ATF #1 in nine years was a drop dead gorgeous brunette from Russia/Ukraine about six years ago.  Only reason I saw her was because another lady "called out sick" that morning two hours before our appointment.  I looked around on TER and found her ad.  Emailed and within a few hours I saw her.  She was drop dead beautiful.  Mix of Jessica Alba with Ariana Grande looks and an amazing body.  I couldn't believe how hot she was.  Killer in bed.  I couldn't believe it.  Incredible two hours and then I booked another three hour meeting a few days later.  

She never visited again.  Very glad my first appointment cancelled.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 103 reads
posted
26 / 28
When you say, . . . .

" . . . . . .it has evolved into something never imaginable", does that mean he gave you your own credit card on his account?   Lol

QueenBia See my TER Reviews 107 reads
posted
27 / 28
We’re different.

Power to f Attorney & 100% beneficiary on life insurance policy. No credit card needed darling because I get monies. Plural with an s…

sdottaylor 19 Reviews 90 reads
posted
28 / 28
Why Me?

One woman I saw earlier this year, had the same name as someone I went to high school with. Obviously not the same person, different ethnicity, age, location.  

But they both shared the same meme on their social media. Figured that was a sign from above that I was to see her. Appointment could've gone better, but I will shoulder some of the blame for that and probably will try and see her again the next time I am in her area.

But other than that, most of the time my answer is gonna be some variation of "you were hot/you were affordable/you had decent reviews/you were available"

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