I just want to be safe?

But you're  not sharing your license pic so the exposure risk for the client is higher than you.  References and/or p411 should allow both parties sufficient anonymity.

intrusiveness and personal exposure that the screening requires.  I don't know how often you follow this board, but there have been many threads started by customers who were outed and and/or blackmailed by providers who required their personal information for screening and they were stupid enough to give it.  

you need to understand we have legitimate concerns too. I'm sure you've seen stories about goys who gave up their real-world info only to be doxed by a BSC provider. That can ruin lives. These are two sides of the same coin and it's not going to change.

I take p411  
I take references  
I take PMs from sites with history  
Screening from Adult sites  

So client is afraid of blackmail  
But yet the guy that said to me yesterday  

You get outed by some bad providers  

This is why I took time out to meet you Hazel when you visited San Diego and I bought you lunch in little Italy. I think if all providers utilized their resources by referring their friends, then we can all be friends. Whitelist on TER it’s kind of a big deal. We used to be able to whitelist other providers.

Thanks again for meeting me ☺️  

NO screening, only that it should be as unintrusive as possible.  The only kind of screening I will agree to is two provider references I have seen in the past 60 days.   There are a few providers that have wanted more, so I just draw a line through their name and move on to the next lady on my list.  

If you take all the above, you can't be talking to this crowd.  Anyone not willing to submit any of one of the above screening criteria is someone you do not need to see IMO.  Now if you were one of those that need additional info plus P411, references, PMs then I'd say it's a YOU issue.  

Yes, in general, this lifestyle is more dangerous for the women, certainly in terms of physical safety, for the most part with very few exceptions. But just bc it is more dangerous for you, that doesnt mean that a guy being outed wont have his life destroyed. Many of them have. There are countless examples on this board and others like it.
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I really dont understand why this is an issue. Ladies have to do what they feel comfortable with re: their verification methods. I will never try and talk you out of doing something that gives you peace of mind and a feeling of security. That said, guys should then be able to do what they wish. If they see a girl has more intrusve screening methods that they fee comfortbale with, they should contact a different provider who asks for less.  
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I just dont believe either side should tell the other side what to do or belittle the other side. None of us can possibly know the other person's risk tolerance, lived experiences and what they have to lose. This is also an illegal business so most of us our paranoid, and rightly so, to begin with. "You do you" is the sentiment I have about it and you shouldn't be mocked or derided for how you, or anyone, handles their decisions re: screening.

No I don't need a lot and don't ask a lot  
But it was guy trying to hide bad behavior before  

But short of that, losing your wife, your home, your kids, your job and your reputation is plenty bad enough.
Consider that.
And I'm not saying that means you shouldn't screen. Just that you might try to be a bit more understanding of why many guys are reticent to provide real-world info.

12 years ago who took his own life after being outed by a provider on social media.  (I don't think the term "doxed" was in usage yet, but same thing). For a guy who has a wife and family and is cheating on them, being outed can be worse than death.  A double life is not for the faint-hearted, given what can happen if you trust someone that you shouldn't.  

Being the proverbial lurker I have seen Hazels, posts, ads etc and she has a point that we know with as much certainty as possible that we will have a great experience and be safe with her. Having said that we need to provide something that will make her feel relatively certain she will be safe.....just not RWI. References, P411, which I believe is all she is asking for. I think most will agree.

Way too invasive the information you want. I’ll stick with the ones who are well reviewed that don’t want a deposit and tons of none of your business info.

I don't require just real world information  

I don't require that information  

Most serious mongers who don't go for cheap hookers and want to spend time with someone reputable presence will be just fine with one of the many options you have provided...

Didn't read closely enough. I agree that no real life info should be shared., as I said before. Re read OP and she's looking for drivers license etc. IMO not acceptable. Again references, P411 all good.

Same advise for mongers who don't want to provide this level of information.  
You have hundreds of reviews,  so why concern yourself with guys who won't comply. Spend your energy cultivating your regulars.

Exactly. Same shit about the deposits. If potential clients don’t want to do it just don’t see them. No one dies from lack of nookie.

Agree completely. For verification (and deposits and price range), whatever doesn't sit right for you just find someone who does.

They're not saying their privacy is more important than your safety.

I would really hope that no client would ever even consider contacting me to try and negotiate my rates or my screening requirements. Move on to another provider. It for sure weeds out clients that I would not want to see anyway. Thanks for the positive reminder!!

Now you have me rethinking forwarding my linkedin. Probably not the greatest idea going forward. Thanks for the added insight.

I was obviously speaking in generalities and I stand by what I said. For you to use that to accuse me of "defending a Rapist" is complete bullshit and makes you seem, well, not very bright.
I'll pass on the "Hugs."

I find it interesting how the convo went  

business and you get to run it the way you want to.  I'm just saying that in ANY business, too much rigidity in what it takes accomplish an acceptable screening for both parties MAY have some wiggle room for one of the other, and that possibility may result in a profitable transaction.  Buyers have more options than sellers, so looking for some common ground on which to do business is not always a fool's errand.  Communication is the key, but you have every right as the owner to set whatever limits you want, even to foreclose the possibility of any such communication.  If may cost you some business that you could have gotten, but if you don't care, that's okay, too.   Your pussy, your rules.  I have always believed this.  

Just to be clear you are not going to get any sympathy from most of the guys that post on this board. There are WAY more clients out there that will happily follow your rules to spend time with you, but most are not posting here. You are not leaving money on the table by not negotiating your screening requirements. You are leaving a giant egotistical dirt ball that will give you nothing but a head ache or worse rob, rape, or murder you. NEVER worth it.  
And also the whole case of "blackmail" is once again just another excuse, don't fall for it. The ones I have seen were guys that did zero research and were only looking at big tiddies when they sent all of their info over before they knew it was a scammer. Or another one of my favorites is a provider that requires a cancellation fee and our gent in question cancels last minute but then doesn't want to pay the cancellation fee and now she is demanding he pay. These are going to be the two biggest reasons a guy says he is being "blackmailed" and both are caused by stupidity and an inability for a client to take personal responsibility for his actions. In short, not my problem, or yours!!

All these discussions are amazing and helpful.  

The problem is that some of the private information that is being shared is being put on you guys' blacklisted sites. And mongers who are put on those sites are put there for little to no real reason at all. A monger doesn't even have to have met the provider to be put on those sites.

And when providers brag about this on twitter and reddit, most providers stay silent and don't speak up.