We must "hate" you guys if we say anything other than to the effect of "oh my god you all are wonderful and I'd fuck you for free if I could"?
No. SOME of you aren't good customers. Same as every single other business. It has nothing to do with men or you or anyone other than the man the girl is complaining about right in that moment in time. Saying that SOMEONE forgot to wash their balls front and back and she hates that shit doesn't mean that she hates YOU.
And seeing as we almost never get to inspect clients first, and you guys have a seeming plethora of intimate information on us at your fingertips, it chaps my ass a little that some of you always get this "the nerve" attitude if any of us ever say anything. What? We're man haters for literally holding you to a tiny fraction of the standard that you hold us? If any of us showed up smelling or behaving the way some of you do, our careers would be over.
If you know for sure that you are not causing any of these problems, then know that she truly appreciates it. If not, then pay a little more attention next time. Yes, it is all about you, but you are never going to get more than "ugh it's ok I've been more miserable for an hour" service if you're not willing to present yourself as a decent adult who knows how to bathe and be polite.
These blogs are out there so that people can be aware of what NOT to do. Some people really don't know, and need some guidance. And that's ok. But if you're just going to read it and take it personally, or use it to judge a woman's whole attitude towards men, then just skip on.
i read this escort's blog last night and thought to myself "maybe this girl needs to get a different job:
maybe 20% of the time i truly hate the sex, 20% of the time i like it, and the other 60% is tolerating it, not minding one way or another but certainly not feeling overwhelmed with enjoyment. i show up willing; i don’t show up wanting.
do most of you ladies feel this way? i know that a job is a job, but if i truly was repulsed by my job 1/5 of the time i was there, i'd start thinking about going into another line of work!
i'm not saying you are expected to love every second of every client, but this gal talks about getting over her revulsion of her body's responses; in fact, she seems to want to not enjoy herself sexually, because it's too intimate.
i know you ladies sell us fantasies, and i don't for a second believe i've given the past 10 girls i've seen 3 orgasms each per session (or even one orgasm in 10 sessions, lol!).
but if it turns you off to do your job, you really need another job, imo.
am i naive? dont' answer that, lol, just give me your thoughts.
Bottom line...stop asking questions you don't really want answered. You would be very surprised at the percentage of women, who don't like fkin random strangers day in and day out, but as long as she makes you THINK she does, who gives a shit? This is not reality for the bazillionith time, and yea I made that word up.
If you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question. I have always realized that the hobby is a business transaction where sex is exchanged for money.
My feeling is that most hobbyists are not the most attractive, physically fit or young gentlemen in the world. On another note, the hobbyists that are younger and physically attractive probably are lacking in social skills and can't really find an actual girlfriend to fuck.
Guys, would you like to fuck the "female equivalent" of yourself? Think overweight, wrinkled with saggy breasts with yellow teeth.
The providers are incredible actresses if they make you feel like they enjoy having sex with you!
I guess that is why we must pay them for their time spent with us!
And speak for yourself pal...YOU have to pay. Don't speak for me. That asinine comment couldn't be further from the truth...for many here.
And I guess that STD thing is starting to show if indeed your teeth are rotting. Many of us tried to warn you. But you and Aces8 knew better.
Posted By: Udo
If you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question. I have always realized that the hobby is a business transaction where sex is exchanged for money.
My feeling is that most hobbyists are not the most attractive, physically fit or young gentlemen in the world. On another note, the hobbyists that are younger and physically attractive probably are lacking in social skills and can't really find an actual girlfriend to fuck.
Guys, would you like to fuck the "female equivalent" of yourself? Think overweight, wrinkled with saggy breasts with yellow teeth.
The providers are incredible actresses if they make you feel like they enjoy having sex with you!
I guess that is why we must pay them for their time spent with us!
Honestly, if that's the impression I left on a provider, I'd never see her again. Talk about jaded... Is that what you think of me LR? We haven't even met, lol!
and then write public posts under an alias bitching about it. Why not just confide in one person, vs. announcing it to the entire world, or is that the point? Somehow "freeing" your soul or some shit? If you don't like the work, and can afford to quit, do it.
If you can't, suck it up or at the very least stop whining about it. If you don't have a pimp, you don't 'HAVE TO' do this work. Most of us do because we are lazy and it's fast money we can't make at some 9-5, but if God came down tomorrow and said "Quit being a hooker or I will take your child," my ass would be gone, and working 3 jobs if I had to. I don't buy that anyone without a pimp or a serious addiction is "forced" to be here. I know women with 3 children who went to nursing school, whilst being a damn hotel maid. "Feel that sting? That's just pride fkin with ya (Pulp Fiction)."
No one likes their job 100 percent of the time, and sex work is certainly no exception. In her opening paragraph she admits that no other profession ever panned out for her, basically suggesting that she HAS no other appealing options. Well, me thinks she is a good writer, and should give journalism a shot...preferably something above the caliber of hooker blogs, that only johns and other hookers are going to read.
But we've had too many faux hookers on the boards this past year hating those johns just like this hooker posted on her blog.
Now the lead architect of the "I hate men" committee is leading the anti-semite parade.
You wonder why these people hate everything in life? They hate themselves...they hate anything that is good..those who achieve any accomplishments. And all they're left with is working the register at AM-PM. And I'm sure they hate the Pakistani's, Indians, and every other ethnic group in the world.
But foremost they hate themselves.
It shows in every post they put up on the boards.
Where is that rope and chair? Her cousin Uranus is willing to help!
Posted By: London Rayne
and then write public posts under an alias bitching about it. Why not just confide in one person, vs. announcing it to the entire world, or is that the point? Somehow "freeing" your soul or some shit? If you don't like the work, and can afford to quit, do it.
If you can't, suck it up or at the very least stop whining about it. If you don't have a pimp, you don't 'HAVE TO' do this work. Most of us do because we are lazy and it's fast money we can't make at some 9-5, but if God came down tomorrow and said "Quit being a hooker or I will take your child," my ass would be gone, and working 3 jobs if I had to. I don't buy that anyone without a pimp or a serious addiction is "forced" to be here. I know women with 3 children who went to nursing school, whilst being a damn hotel maid. "Feel that sting? That's just pride fkin with ya (Pulp Fiction)."
No one likes their job 100 percent of the time, and sex work is certainly no exception. In her opening paragraph she basically admits that no other profession ever panned out for her, basically suggesting that she HAS no other appealing options. Well, me thinks she is a good writer, and should give journalism a shot...preferably something above the caliber of hooker blogs, that only johns and other hookers are going to read.
She said she hates the "sex" 20% of the time, she didnt say she hates her "job" 20% of the time. There is a huge difference. Her job isnt just the sex. Its entertaining the client, pillow talk time, replying to emails, posting her ads, updating her website, prepping for her date, planning/buying her wardrobe, driving to and fro, etc.
So, really, what percentage of her "job" is really the "sex" when you boil it all down? 2%? 3%? Something like that? She backs up my point by saying she likes escorting in the article, that she's her own boss and likes the clients, for the most part.
Many, many people in their civie life HATE their job 24/7, 365, so even if it were, as you say 20%, that doesnt strike me as a high number at all. But when you do the math on it, it's far less than the 20% you think.
ok, i'll give you that the sex part may loom larger for guys than the gals, and yes, she does say that she enjoys some of the men and a lot of the job.
but to me it's rather like saying i love working in the insurance company except for all the paper work and numbers, it makes me sick.
the actual sex imo is the main point (tho granted if a lady is slack on the atmospherics and amenities i won't see her again).
but i'm still of the mind that she needs to switch careers.
"If you asked me if I like it, I would say, “yes, I like it.” I like the people I meet, I like the freedom of schedule, and I like the money I make."
That doesnt sound even remotely like a person that needs to leave her career. Very few people love all aspects of their job. And she is saying, with everything factored in, she likes it! I say, take her at her word!
Why would she change careers if guys are still paying her "high ahem (hourly) rate?" Sorry, but in an hour appt. it IS mostly sex. How much talking can you possibly do, before the reviews start saying you are a time waster? If she offered a min. of multiple hours, I could see saying she is not having but 2 percent of sex, but that's not what she said. If she charges by the hour (regardless of the rate), guys are not taking you to the opera in that hour. The ones who book longer dates are, certainly, but hourly clients are usually only looking for sex, or they would book LONGER. If you don't like "that" part of it, get rid of the hour. I have less sex on a 3 hour date, than I did charging by the damn hour...not my choice either, but the clients who are booking.
I find it comical that any time a woman in sex work expresses a part of the job she hates, she should "find another job." Nope...tell your Attorney or your Dentist that, and see what they say. If any of you think that a provider loves 100 percent of this job, I must call you naive. Only hookers saying that for marketing make you think that, and they are usually the same ones who retire 3 times and make a big announcement about "I just can't do this any more," only to return in six months lol.
My only issue are the public and anonymous posts about it...why bother? Why can't you do that under your real hooker name, and not worry about what others think? Afraid to lose business? Then, you really are a fraud!
But not if they only see NON-TER guys....hysterical.
How about we take up a collection to buy a hooker some new toys so she can hook again? Her other toys are now in evidence
Gotta love it LOL
Posted By: London Rayne
Why would she change careers if guys are still paying her "high ahem (hourly) rate?" Sorry, but in an hour appt. it IS mostly sex. How much talking can you possibly do, before the reviews start saying you are a time waster? If she offered a min. of multiple hours, I could see saying she is not having but 2 percent of sex, but that's not what she said. If she charges by the hour (regardless of the rate), guys are not taking you to the opera in that hour. The ones who book longer dates are, certainly, but hourly clients are usually only looking for sex, or they would book LONGER. If you don't like "that" part of it, get rid of the hour. I have less sex on a 3 hour date, than I did charging by the damn hour...not my choice either, but the clients who are booking.
I find it comical that any time a woman in sex work expresses a part of the job she hates, she should "find another job." Nope...tell your Attorney or your Dentist that, and see what they say. If any of you think that a provider loves 100 percent of this job, I must call you naive. Only hookers saying that for marketing make you think that, and they are usually the same ones who retire 3 times and make a big announcement about "I just can't do this any more," only to return in six months lol.
My only issue are the public and anonymous posts about it...why bother? Why can't you do that under your real hooker name, and not worry about what others think? Afraid to lose business? Then, you really are a fraud!
i read this escort's blog last night and thought to myself "maybe this girl needs to get a different job:
maybe 20% of the time i truly hate the sex, 20% of the time i like it, and the other 60% is tolerating it, not minding one way or another but certainly not feeling overwhelmed with enjoyment. i show up willing; i don’t show up wanting.
do most of you ladies feel this way? i know that a job is a job, but if i truly was repulsed by my job 1/5 of the time i was there, i'd start thinking about going into another line of work!
i'm not saying you are expected to love every second of every client, but this gal talks about getting over her revulsion of her body's responses; in fact, she seems to want to not enjoy herself sexually, because it's too intimate.
i know you ladies sell us fantasies, and i don't for a second believe i've given the past 10 girls i've seen 3 orgasms each per session (or even one orgasm in 10 sessions, lol!).
but if it turns you off to do your job, you really need another job, imo.
am i naive? dont' answer that, lol, just give me your thoughts.
"~I don’t want to have an orgasm from you, I don’t want you to go down on me, and I don’t give a flying fuck about your “performance”. It’s MY job to please YOU. Let me do my fucking job."
Is music to my ears. I don't pay my gardeners and then help them rake up leafs, I don't pay someone to paint my house then help him tape up the edges. In hobbying, I am paying for an experience and I expect to see an actress. I'm not rude or disrespectful, it's the basics of what this business is all about. I'm seeking out someone to provide A,B,C for me in exchange for $$$, fair trade and everyone gets what they want. This is what I pay for and I'm selfish that way.
However, I have been situations where I felt like the girl was being forced into this line of work. That I cannot stomach, I cannot find enjoyment through other people's suffering. I've left immediately and left the envelope behind. However, a well reviewed SP that has been doing this for a while has made a choice and always has one.
Despite all this, I have to imagine some of us ugly fuckers are easier to take then other fat-skin-folds, bad haircut, deformed ballsack, wonky-eyed, I-wash-myself-with-a-stick, mofos. You women should hold your own version of the oscars, where you show up with a picture of the nastiest, fugliest, man-boar you ever let slide his beef slime into your mouth/vag/ass/ear/eye-socket over the past year and then vote on the "best actress in tragic comedy" category. I can just imagine the acceptance speech, but that's for another post another night.
Ahhh, vaguely remember her. Never had the pleasure or displeasure or her company. I know the loathing has different scales for each girl, but at least lie to me and more importantly keep lying to me.
If you walked into a local bar somewhere .. I donno ... in Idaho (I am purposely excluding cities like NYC, LA or LV) .. would you find 100 percent of women there attractive to greatly enjoy sex with them?
Chances are you would find some women repulsive, some OK and some you would be very very attracted to.
Same here. Some of the clients we are truly attracted to, some we tolerate and some can indeed be repulsive.
If we were madly sexually attracted to ALL our clients we would fuck them .. FOR FREE
How do you do it? How do you lift up your head and look over the 20-years in the making beer belly, smile at his greasy face while he looks down, drooling over his double chins and then put that retarded baby walrus looking appendage into your mouth? Just how exhilaratingly happy is that happy place you go to?
I'm a bad person for being a guy who loves sex with women, hasn't had a lot of luck in the dating scene, pays a woman to have sex with him, and genuinely cares about her as a person and her enjoying the sexual experience as much as I do?
That about cover it?
If I'm off base, sorry. I'm not reading any more damn posts because I'm impatient and lazy. Don't like it, tough crap.
Care as much as you'd like about her feelings and O's, you're the only one that cares. You aren't bad, you just believe the fantasy and in the end that ain't so bad.
Care as much as you'd like about her feelings and O's, you're the only one that cares. You aren't bad, you just believe the fantasy and in the end that ain't so bad.
We must "hate" you guys if we say anything other than to the effect of "oh my god you all are wonderful and I'd fuck you for free if I could"?
No. SOME of you aren't good customers. Same as every single other business. It has nothing to do with men or you or anyone other than the man the girl is complaining about right in that moment in time. Saying that SOMEONE forgot to wash their balls front and back and she hates that shit doesn't mean that she hates YOU.
And seeing as we almost never get to inspect clients first, and you guys have a seeming plethora of intimate information on us at your fingertips, it chaps my ass a little that some of you always get this "the nerve" attitude if any of us ever say anything. What? We're man haters for literally holding you to a tiny fraction of the standard that you hold us? If any of us showed up smelling or behaving the way some of you do, our careers would be over.
If you know for sure that you are not causing any of these problems, then know that she truly appreciates it. If not, then pay a little more attention next time. Yes, it is all about you, but you are never going to get more than "ugh it's ok I've been more miserable for an hour" service if you're not willing to present yourself as a decent adult who knows how to bathe and be polite.
These blogs are out there so that people can be aware of what NOT to do. Some people really don't know, and need some guidance. And that's ok. But if you're just going to read it and take it personally, or use it to judge a woman's whole attitude towards men, then just skip on.
They aren't saying their clients are bad, just the emotional toll of faking it is unpleasant. This is why it's nice when clients don't pressure the performance or dock a lady's review score when she doesn't fake several O's. It's best when both parties can enjoy the sex w/out the pressure to come, scream or all of that jazz. Clients that just let me be in the moment are my fav clients.
"Our entire service sector provides smiles, cooperation, helpfulness, and courteousness in the execution of their work with customers. Service employees are usually expected to present these service qualities to customers, regardless of their actual feelings; and when well – executed, the customer hopefully will “suspend disbelief” and take the employee’s help as driven by genuine hospitality, instead of being driven by the employees need to play a particular role well innorder to get paid..."
"This is absolutely the most exasperating aspect of the business for me...The emotional labor going into pretending I’m having the best sex of my life is so exhausting that it affects me long after the date is over..."
"Unenthusiastic consent for heterosexual sex was such a fixture of my unpaid sex life for so long that the first time I got paid my immediate reaction was “Why did I ever do this for free?”"
"I used to [fake it] in my 20s quite easily. I just can’t anymore. I know I lose clients because I don’t bother to pretend the sex is anything other than what it is...I can do many things for money but I can no longer reconcile faking it. The idea alone sets up more internal conflict than I want."
enjoying the sex? I have a harder time faking being interested in wtf some of these guys are yapping about, but the sex? Hell, that's easy lol. I can't look at them or pretend to be interested when my head is in the pillow, I close my eyes during daty, and focus like crazy on the c*ck I am sucking. Other than that, no issues with the sex. I can pretty much have an orgasm with any man, who has even a little bit of skill, regardless of how he looks, but I CANNOT fake being a nice person lol. I either click with you, or I don't.
enjoying the sex? I have a harder time faking being interested in wtf some of these guys are yapping about, but the sex? Hell, that's easy lol. I can't look at them or pretend to be interested when my head is in the pillow, I close my eyes during daty, and focus like crazy on the c*ck I am sucking. Other than that, no issues with the sex. I can pretty much have an orgasm with any man, who has even a little bit of skill, regardless of how he looks, but I CANNOT fake being a nice person lol. I either click with you, or I don't.
Thank you for appreciating the efforts of men who care about making sure you're sexually satisfied.
Bravo!
London, you should write a book to set the ungrateful providers of the world straight.
how to have an orgasm regardless of who it's with. You have to go into this place where you just focus right on that feeling, and nothing else. It took me years to be able to do it, and at times it does not happen, but I think that emotional toll most are talking about is much MORE than just sex. I think it's that GFE shit...that is fkin exhausting. Having an orgasm for you, is like a damn break lol.
how to have an orgasm regardless of who it's with. You have to go into this place where you just focus right on that feeling, and nothing else. It took me years to be able to do it, and at times it does not happen, but I think that emotional toll most are talking about is much MORE than just sex. I think it's that GFE shit...that is fkin exhausting. Having an orgasm for you, is like a damn break lol.
Okay.
That GFE stuff. Meh...
I just want her to enjoy the time as much as I do. Unrealistic? Naive? Fine. Believe what you want. I just want her to feel like I'm making love to her than just using her as a cum dumpster, you know?
b/c she didn't have any dramatic O's, but then I stopped b/c it was too much. I can't come all the time like lots of women can't. I really appreciate men who are ok with that and just let me enjoy the journey w/out making a big deal out of having tons of O's.
I agree, and I am not faking shit. I have never had a guy give a shit if I was over the top or not...thank goodness. I can't deal with insecure types. If a man thinks HE is responsible for my orgasm, he needs to think again lol.
My thought was why post all those details about yourself. I would have to think that the provider in question does not have anyone else to discuss her issues with and that is her way to vent. Truthfully I hate my job sometimes too, other days I think its the best job in the world. I love my job, but I wouldn't do it for free. Sometimes I think I am getting the better end of the deal, and sometime I think I am getting a raw deal. If someone says they have a great day everyday I would advise everyone to not believe them.
Not a nympho or anything (only really have sex when providing), but I enjoy myself about +90% of the time. I like seeing how happy clients are when I open the door and still relish in all the compliments (yup, I'm vain). But I've always had a thing for older men, so there's that/ Even if they are not attractive, usually they are at least decent kissers or DATY. If it's bad on all fronts, I'll get a naughty fantasy in my head and just visualize, visualize, visualize to the point where I disassociate but while performing.
I've only had one client who I truly hated being with because he was a real creep* and my agency was very understanding and respected my request not to see him anymore.
Not to get sanctimonious, but if you hate providing or even dislike it most of the time, it will destroy you. I actually felt like providing GFE with the above client were wearing one my soul.
*And by creep I mean: pushing BBFS, bragging about regularly receiving BBFS, not respecting time-limits, making crude sexist jokes (if it's going to be insulting at least make it funny!), and, oh yeah, asking me if I was sexually abused as a child and then proceeding to tell me about child/rape and molestation stories he's heard from providers over the years WHILE we were in the act. *SHUDDER* creepy, creepy, creepy, gross, gross, gross
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