This may sound like a silly question but I also want to find out if when iquiring to a provider via her email is it rude or offensive to ask on the email if she is open minded. I've always thought of myself as a person who respects people and thier feelings but I asked this of one provider "jude" of Victoria and she got really upset with me and said that if I had to ask that question I should see someone else. Was I that wrong to ask that question? I certainly don't want to offend anyone but i thought that was a common questiont ask. Thanks

My impression is that "open-minded" means she is willing to do lots of things, but I am never sure exactly what an individual means when he asks that.  Is he looking for something in particular?  

There are plenty of reviews of me, so I am not often asked such questions, but, when I am, I usually decline to see the man who asks, because it comes across as a sign of possible bad intent.

I think you just have to study the reviews of girl, and, if you cannot find any, ask other hobbyists about her.  If you still cannot find anything on her, and you and are feeling adventurous, just take a chance.  You might find a gem.

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I know that open minded can mean a lot of things, to both the client and the provider. to me, I just like ladies who are affectionate , kissing and who allow to recieve oral but I certainly have no bad intent. I have just had bad experiences where the lady was advertised as such at an agence for example and then you arrive your money is taken and then she proceeds to lay down the law about what you can't do to the point where you just want to get up and leave but without your money of course. I just want to have fun and for the lady to enjoy herself too but I don't want to get ripped off.

In that case stick to independent providers with consistenly good reviews, and you won't get ripped off.  Stay away from agencies if don't know the good ones from the bad ones.

Aside from the LE issues we all deal with and thinks about, many of us try to treat this industry with the same respect you would treat any other person you might do business with.  I feed it is odd that anyone else I do business with expects question about the products or services I am about to buy, but in our hobby you get shot down and they don’t want your business for asking an a very general obtuse question. I don’t get it.  Yes I have to admit I never get into details unless she goes there first and thanks to TER et al, I am pretty confident in the level of service I will receive before I walk though the door, but just because some guys are not the sharpest knifes in the draw is that a reason they shouldn’t get to play?

I would instead of asked for a list of her ground rules, if she wouldnt provide them then I would have looked elsewhere if it where that important to me.
Usually though i dont worry about how open minded they are since if they arent open minded enough I wont have to worry about it a second time.

but in case your answer to that question is "no" try these reasons.

-It is how we weed out the "not so serious" inquiries.
If I had a dollar for every inquiry that turned into an attempted email/cyber sex session I would be able to drop an appointment or two a month.  Experienced hobbyists don't need to ask leading questions.  They know the score.  The bulk of these inquires do tend to either deteriorate into "Come on I'm so good you would do me for free..." or "Thanks for getting me off have a nice day"

-I am not a "hobbyist coach".
When faced with these type emails/phone requests I tend to send them to either TER or my local board.  I tell them they should go and read the FAQs for newbies.  Do searches for newbies as well.  AND read reviews.  After they have done their homework to call back.  If they still ask those questions... lost cause...

Altho one of my friends and I did write and post a "Getting an appt with an Escort 101" page.  I have included a link below.


Rebecca

When approaching a lady for the first time I look for reviews,as most of us do.  But if I'm unsure whether the lady is open to kissing, something I find essential, I ask.  No lady has refused to answer.  It's just better for both parties to have a general understanding before we meet.  The good providers want you to be happy.  I will say though that I've been screened before we have the discussion.

if the person who is asking for something illegal then  I can
certainly understand a provider steering the questions toward
reviews and what not or just saying good bye, but I find that
most of the time that when a provider refuses to answer basic
questions that are related to a service that are not illegal
then I find that usually they are trying to hide behind the
fear of L.E. threat and attempting to get you to risk your
hard earned $$$ for less than you would expect. at least that
is the way I tend to feel, and yes I do study the reviews and
yes I have been doing the hobby for quite some time, but some
times the reviews are flawed or lacking details that are needed
to be known so as to help answer my question before hand.
and to add to this, don't some providers ask if we hobbiest
are L.E. when we meet? and like that is going to make any
difference if you get busted? what are you going to claim?
entrapment? just giving a flip side of the coin observation.

"Do you have an open mind?"

A lot of it is vibe too...

And no I don't ask if someone is LE or not.  But I screen before I answer ANY questions like that.


Rebecca

"Are you open minded?" What the hell is that supposed to mean, anyway? I've read it in many ads, and figured if they aren't saying GFE, open minded must mean something less than that.

You can't ask questions like that. We take a risk whenever we visit a girl. We never know exactly what the experience will be like. The reviews can give you a pretty good idea, but it's no guarantee that you're experience will match that of the reviewers. If you absolutely must have some particular experience, then you absolutely must know from a preponderance of reviews, that the experience with a particular girl is common.

Kissing has become a must for me, since a couple of extraordinary girls ruined me for all the others. But I've seen many ladies who did not kiss, yet the experience of time spent with them had it's own unique passion, the kissing was hardly missed.

The TER resources are available. Use them before you start asking incriminating or ridiculous questions.

The open minded question or the, are your reviews really true....it the fastest way to not get priority in my inbox
Hello..read my reviews there is serious consistency be thankful there are reviews(once upon a time you blindly visited a girl not knowing).
As for people who ask specific questions DELETE....also guys without refrences scare me...becasue I can tell if a guy has seriously never done this or is just pretending.  The guys who dont have refrences well lets just say that they know no girl is going to give them the ok!!!!!

to say that a client isn't goint to be seen if he doesn't give referrences and isn't safe because he doesn't is absolutely rediculous. there are a lot of reputable ladies who don't ask for your employer and boss's phone #.