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justahobby 4346 reads
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When I'm with a provider, I often feel like it is a mini-relationship, not just a sex act. When I review or recommend, I feel as if I am sharing the person I have connected intimately with (even though it's just for the duration of a session) with another hobbyist. It goes beyond the $$ or sex act issue.

I have to wonder what kind of people are out there when I read in some of their reviews "Show her Respect and she'll treat you right". I can't for the life of me think of why someone would write that. Do they know what it is like to disrespect a providor? Any idiot can realize that although they are spending big $$, the etiquette of how to treat a lady hasn't changed. Guys must always trat a lady with respect, especially where $$ & intimacy are involved. I myself could never imagine mistreating anyone, let alone a paid providor. I want them to know that I am a gentleman and a nice guy so maybe she will put forth a better session..

JMO of ocurse, but it reminds me of these geniuses that insist on blowing their noses in public restaurants.

Ferangi3313 reads

I am fairly new at this myself, it would be interesting to here from the ladies, because I take certain things for granted but here are my questions?
How many of the hobbyists out there are not really gentleman? I have always assumed that as the prices go up, that screens out alot of the jerks, and that 99% of the encounters would be pleasant, but I am curious if that is the case...

Here is another one I don't understand. Is the percentage of gentleman that show up really need to be reminded or asked to take a shower because they are not clean? I would think that most people would have the common sense to do those sort of things and it would rarely be an issue, but I see it over and over again as advise to the hobbyist. Maybe I am being naive but would be curious...

FreshFace6680 reads

"I like her". That really is all those phrases mean. You can read more into them if you want (she is a sweet woman, she is not mechanical, she is not hardened, etc.), but it is all really just saying "I like her". People, especially males, tend to want to protect those that they like. "Show her respect" is just a feeble attempt to try and dissuade those that may not treat women nicely to stay away from her. It is an innocent phrase. The real question is, why does it bother you? Have a nice day ... lol.

It is a phrase used over and over again, and is practically meaningless.  Why would you say "don't treat her right" in a review?  If it were a bad experience, you'd be advising people not to see the provider.  The phrase "treat her right" reminds me of the old Dairy Queen slogan, or the Pat Benetar song from the early 80s...

Perhaps this guy is lamenting the fact that many males are not very good or original when writing, and they opt to use "templates" for their reviews.  Such is life.  From my perspective, phrases like that add absolutely nothing to a review, so I skim over them and focus on the details.  Life is too short to begrudge people for something that dumb, and as long as they are correctly filling in the "what they do" sections, I am happy.

Ferangi3480 reads

I think you nailed it. It is a code for being nice. Maybe to take it further, don't just look at this person as a provider but as a person..

hkghost4469 reads

I understand why. I've myself been tempted to use that sentence sometimes. I did not do it because it's useless, guys will do whatever they want anyway. What I meant by that is, this lady is really great if you do not rush things, and please do not book 30 minutes with her, she's not the quickie type. That's all. I do not see the link with blowing one's nose in a plublic (?) restaurant.

Also when you talk to the girls, they all have horror stories of how terribly some guys treat them, try to bargain, try to break their rules etc. Let's not be naive. You are a gentleman but there are unfortunately many who are not.

The phrase sounds a bit korny because it doesn't require a brain surgeon to figure that if you treat the lady "right" and if you maybe hope to become a regular, that life could only get better in the future! If you sometime should have some down time, maybe you should ask the lady how often they have been ripped-off by a hobbyist, potentially takened advantaged of, or was down right rule in making an appointment. Maybe then you would understand and appreciate the phrase. Yes it is a code that saids that this is a very special lady if you treat her right. But you shouldn't believe that all hobbyists are "gentle men." Hmmmmm . . . .

I recently saw a very nice girl in SF who thanked me at the end of our time together. (I was thanking her profusley too).
I asked her "for what"? She said, "For treating me like a human being, not everybody does that. The last guy I saw roughed me up a bit".

So, I agree, treat these gems like you'd treat your sister or wife. The karma will get you if you don't.

justahobby4347 reads

When I'm with a provider, I often feel like it is a mini-relationship, not just a sex act. When I review or recommend, I feel as if I am sharing the person I have connected intimately with (even though it's just for the duration of a session) with another hobbyist. It goes beyond the $$ or sex act issue.

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