sounds as if your brother fought the good fight...and you gave him your last full measure of devotion.  In the case of us writers, and you obviously are one, that last full measure is... we write, and we write with our souls.  I'm sure there wasn't a dry eye in the house if you gave the eulogy.  Again, regrets for your loss.

What a beautful story!  You should be very proud that you were there with your brohter at the last. I deal with death all the time (medic) and I can tell you that death is a part of life.

Disease (the worse is the one you witnessed) robs those we love of valued time.  I admire your raw courage (you should not think you have anything but) to take care of your brohter and be there with him at the last. I an also tell you that your brother is without pain...without suffering....and awaits you on the other side...you will see his beautful eyes again.

You have a wonderful talent to write. I stand in awe at the talent you have to show inside your heart even at the expense of such a sad time in your life...and the life of your Brother. Keep up the this gift.....you will go far!

It is never any of my biz...but I sometimes wonder why so many beautful woman enter into this. Your story is sad, but at the same time....uplifting. Thank you for a wonderful post!

Your new friend,
Ozzy

I can see why you are a writer

Your words were expressive and beautiful.  They reminded me very poigniantly of the death of my sister last June.  Thank you for sharing that.

Your post was not morbid at all...how we deal with death is often as important as how we deal with life, and death is a part of life.  I hope that whatever you have hoped to experience out of this direction you have taken with your life has furthered your appreciation for the love you and your brother shared, as well as your own apprciation for life.

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I know pat answers are easier but the truth leaves open the option of real communication and true connections (something you obviously value).  Thank you for sharing.

LJ

Sometimes we do things in this world for our love ones or for us to survive. But we still need to thank the preciousness of our lives and that we must enjoy why we are here. I think your brother died peacefully. And your eye connection showed that both your souls opened up to each other and he is still very much alive in you. As I read your letter, your brother's presence is here. That's really great and his journey will continue pass his mortal body. We need to rejoice instead of feel sad or morbid, because that's what he wants - he does not want you to be sad


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me shed a little tear. Thanks. I'm sorry for your loss.

Dearest Dana...

I feel you pain and your loss as it brought back very sad memories of the loss of my older brother and best friend, several years(in July) earlier than your loss under similar circumstances(Cancer and way much,too much too soon/ quick)

Unfortunately, the heartache never goes away but the fantastic,happy memories live on... as life goes on...so I do not dwell on the sad times but try to celebrate the great times I spent with him while he was alive.

The lesson I learned is to live each and every day of life to the fullest as one never knows what lies ahead for us.... here Today and maybe gone tomorrow.

Live and let live!

Cheers!






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Hugs xxoxxxo

Then I had tears in my eyes when I reread it.

It's so close to the reason I became a hobbyist.  Except my story  doesn't have an ending.

/Zin

for what you did and what you stood for with that look in his eyes. May whatever powers you believe in - bless you.

It's 4 years later, what keeps you in the biz?

Although you confided the truth behind your entering "this biz" to me many months back it was no less moving now than the first time. You truly are a cut above Dana and I will always consider myself blessed for knowing you as well as I do.

  My love & respect

   FR.

This story is as touching now as when your first told it to me.  I wish you all the best and hope your find what you seek in this journey called life.

I'll have someone like you!

In this day and age when so many people don't want to be inconvenienced, and so quickly dump others into nursing homes, your care for your brother is so refreshing! I assure you, you will never regret having done this.

Thank you for what you did!