from the menu the gal is offering.

No decent provider will ever hold it against you to avoid something you don't feel comfortable, to say nothing of happy with doing.

If she asks you to do something like DATY and you don't want to do it for whatever reason, just say that you'd like to pass on that.

Because it's a business, and the STD risks are much higher to the lady....

for performing BBBJ on a man, than on receiving DATY

I fully respect the right of a provider to make business decisions that she considers to be in the interest of her health, and those others she comes into contact with

Because it is a business, providers generally do not *expect* daty either - that is for you to decide, if you enjoy it.

My own preference is for BBBJCIM and daty. That's how I shop.

DATY is work for me and I love doing it only for certain providers. I would only do it if I like her and that she enjoys it.

As for BBBJ vs CBJ. I don't mind CBJs but I would not refuse a BBBJ. In fact, I prefer CBJ, or HJ over any BJ. The reason is that I love to kiss and I would rather not taste the cock of the guy ahead of me. But that's just me.

If you decide you want to do it that's your business.  No one is forcing you.