After reading GTM post about sugar daddies, I thought about my future in this hobby.  I am in my mid 40's, my career path basically set and just recently celebrated my birthday with a very lovely late 30's friend in the civvie world.  She hinted that she wanted more than our platonic friendship and she was going to see me less.  No problems, after two divorces and several bad LTR's, I have so far sworn off relationships.  Anyhow, as in every year around my bithday, I plan my future and I thought about being a sugar daddy once my kid graduate from college and I paid off bills.

My question, which is more economical- being a sugar daddy to one lady and taking care of her, while she become my travel, dinner, concert  companion or enjoying the variety of the hobby with 3 to 4 dates a week (as some of you enjoy)

I know its a silly question (before the flames) but hell you how nany times I argued who would you pick Mary Ann or Ginger - BTW I like Mary Ann more LOL

and having a sugardaddy keeps you from your own personal active self. Even though there is no real future in the relationship you are bound to some type of commitment which may stand in the way of you doing many things.You will never derive any security as it is what it is. I had many good years with my friend and yes I was free to see others but the hourly rate never was enough for the things I missed in my personal life.

Kisses Haley

I guess from the female point if view a sugardaddy is not the best option?

I just posted this on the Atlanta GA Board
"I posted on CL and BP the bunches of replies that I got back were mostly... "I should sex them first and if the chemistry is there they will think about being friends and compensate me later."

I want to semi retire for the summer so that I can play on the personal side more.

Tell me what you think?"


Haley, I see your point with what you are saying.

I have been a Sugar Babe 3 summers in a row and there is no longevity or security in the arrangement for long term. I do have a lot of fun and it's a nice break from the constant cycle.

Raquel

Well ... so far, only one lady has answered! Her experiences and views may or may not be representative. I'm sure that's a case-by-case thing.

Personally, I'd hate to be a sugar daddy -- but that's me.  (*grin*)

Actually my post was meant for the men and you are the only nan to answer my post, so why would you rather not be a sugar daddy?

LOL, if I was in the ATl, I already read your resume

nothing ever goes to according to plan.

You wanted a flame so I gave you one

Great balls of fire need not be the only one to have something to say. I felt what I offered was important to the post as others read.

I can't be a daddy since I am missing some very important equipment

Kisses Haley

Re: You wanted a flame so I gave you one

So the question begs, being a successful woman, would you be a sugarmomma?

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I have been on both sides, well in a private companion situation and this. I think they both have their pluses and minuses.
I still see him yet its not exclusively. I agree that its a trade off in many ways, but with the private companion deal, you tend to lose pieces of yourself in the shuffle. You need to be more available to someone elses schedule and with kids family and friends, when it comes to payingthe bills your companions needs come first.
I like my life the way it is and I had to compromise my needs for his more than I am willing to do at this point. This way its still an established financial agreement that works well for both of us and with seeing others as well I still have my much needed space and freedoms. If I had less obligations, I would still have a bit of uncertainty with if the arrangement would work well for me personally. Its very different from this, all situations have their own dynamics though. This is just what I have found.

Thank you Handsome!!

To answer the direct question asked...if the only two choices were sugardaddy or hobbyist, I would choose hobbyist. I have a friend who tried the other way and it was a disaster...she had no life to call her own and he wanted more an more of her and her time for less and less money. Maybe not the norm but an example I will steer clear of.

The hobbyist will leave and after the door closes etc. my life can resume. Nothing more, nothing less.

is to think that a Sugar baby is a girlfriend you are in control of ..nope a sugar baby is an escort period and to have a successful daddy/baby relationship is to treat her as such. to answer your questions if such relationship is more economical than escorts depends on what kind of agreement you have and what kind of daddy you are if you expect to  get everything just by buying few gifts or if you pay all her bills + a fixed salary. I found that in my case it is much more expensive.