recently had an overnight session. i had previously seen this provider a few times (all one hr sessions) and had solid experiences. she quoted me her overnight rate and told me i needed to cover hotel plus flight. i offered for her to stay at my home and she volunteered to cover her own flight since flights are dirt cheap due to covid. typically an overnight is 8 to 10 hours...so we discussed the details of the session. i had a list of things i wanted to do and she agreed to my list and at the same time mentioned that she wouldn't mind getting a tour of the city (i just disregarded her suggestion at the time). two days before the session she books her flight and asks if it's ok to book a flight that lands in the afternoon so that i could show her the city. i think about it and since it sounds like she is asking me to show her the city on her time (and she paid for her own flight)...i agree. fast forward to the actual session. i pick her up from the airport...all she has is a bookbag with her. i show her the city...we get back to my home and i only get one release...she kills a whole bottle of wine by herself and then refuses to do any of the stuff that she agreed to from my list. in fact she sets her alarm...falls asleep on me and snores the whole night...wakes up just in time for me to take her to the airport. she didn't take a shower and she was with me for 18 hours and not sure she even brushed her teeth. in this community we police ourselves...we can't allow this type of behavior from providers or hobbyists. before she went to bed...i calmly mentioned to her about what she agreed to and she blew me off. i am looking for suggestions to make sure she doesn't get the opportunity to pull this same bullsh!t on another unsuspecting client.

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Put her name and TER ID here and write an honest review about what happened

nothing, in which case you gain nothing and lose nothing. No consequences to her either. Everyone goes on like nothing happened.

Exactly.

I agree with MasterZen here:

My original (and possibly knee-jerk) reaction was simply, "Cut and paste what you wrote here into a review."
After reading the good advice of others, taking a calmer approach is much better, including the use of an alias of you want to go that route.
What gets me is that since the previous one-hours sessions you've had with her were all positive, naturally you were in the right track to build up a connection before advancing. Perhaps the leap from one-hour should have been baby steps, such as two to four hours the next couple of times, the four to six hours.

What's the point of the OP here? If all you're doing is whining about a bad time no one is getting helped -- not you (janet) or the community.

thanks debra. this is exactly the info i was looking for. i already started the conversation about a partial refund. she apologized with the typical bullsh!t line “sorry you weren’t happy with the time we spent together” but crickets about returning some of the donation. unfortunately i have to take this to the next level to get her attention and get some of my money back.

..... and expect a positive response.

But I would have replied to her request something like this: "I'd be delighted to show you around some cool places before we start our date, my treat!"  That should make it clear that you will be giving her YOUR time off the clock and expect that you don't start the paid portion of her time with you until after you finish the tour.

I recommend a little self-reflection before reaching out to her or posting a review. She asked you to cover the flight and hotel (perfectly reasonable in a FMTY), then offered to pay for her flight after you said she could stay at your home instead of a hotel. Your costs went down and her costs went up (regardless of how cheap the flight was). I can't imagine her paying for her own flight unless there was some non-work reason she wanted to visit your city and you booking her just made it possible. That part screams to me that the two of you were not on the same page in terms of expectations.

if we were not on the same page in terms of expectations it would be because she wanted it that way. in the original discussion about the activities of the overnight she mentioned she was willing to do whatever i wanted to do at the same time she mentioned "tourist stuff". i just continued the conversation talking about the activities i wanted to happen at my house. as i mentioned in my original post...she didn't book her flight until two days before the session. she sends me a text and says i can pick the flight that gets in at 2pm or the flight that gets in at 8pm. i ask her..."if i pick 2pm...does that mean i get extra time to entertain you?" she replies "yes you get 4 hours to be my tour guide".

Having read a lot of these stories and scenarios, plus real life. I think although crass, needs to be even more clear; "I'm happy to show you around, but that is on your time and doesn't count toward the paid time", or something to that effect.

I cannot remember ever seeing a lady for a multi-hour appointment that wasn't MSOG.  I also cannot ever remember a lady saying no to a request to go again in an hour or 90 minute appointment.  You are paying for time.  That would blow my mind if I booked a multi-hour let alone overnight and we only went once.  Her TER profile should say whether or not she is MSOG, which I have always interpreted as whether or not the lady is MSOG for 1 hour appointments.  In other words, every lady that I have seen that had no or sometimes for MSOG was still always MSOG for multi-hour appointments.

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These ladies are largely part of the anti-review crowd who object to anyone have ANY expectations of what type of service the client will be getting during their appointment.   This same group encompasses many providers who are non-GFE (yet claim they are) and want nothing to do with any site or forum where clients can report this.  

I have heard many mongers right here on this board complaining that they only got one pop in a multi hour or even overnight session.  

U gotta name names here.  Sounds like she cared more about a vacation then actually providing her services.  

she is a ter reviewed provider. i have never written a review before...good or bad. in my hobby life...i've had a pimp bust into one of my sessions and pull out a gun before...i've had a provider confess that she is a practicing witch and i still didn't write a review. it's been a few days and i seem to get more mad everyday...most likely i'll put her info in this thread...keep in mind it's all about timing and i have some other things in the works to get her attention.

First off love the advice from the "provider point of view here"..  

anybody willing to make a $6 gofundme donation for me?

i disagree with one point you made. there's much more i can do than name names. i'm going to make an example of her. zero tolerance for this type of sh!t.

If worried about any blow back. Either way sounds to me this provider doesnt seem to care as she got what she wanted out of the deal from everything you have accounted for.  Not saying you owe anyone anything as it sounds you got burned.  But you would be doing others a favor by warning all under an alias or not.  

anybody willing to make a $6 gofundme donation for me?

i'm using a basic account. please reply to this thread.

You pick the words that work for you.  I'm not suggesting the OP quote me, just suggesting the type of reply that may have helped.  Personally, I wouldn't say what you suggest, as I do think it's too "on the nose" and might make her think you are annoyed to be asked.  

anybody willing to make a $6 gofundme donation for me?

Since  you still haven't even wrote a review ( the hole purpose of this board) but now you want to "make an example of her"?  

which is usually $2-5000, depending on the Provider, but you don't have a TER VIP membership, which is about $19 a month if you subscribe for a whole year?  This makes me want to call bullshit on your entire story.  Sorry, but when things don't add up, I get suspicious.  

if you're willing to make a $6 donation to her gofundme account i'll prove i'm telling the truth.

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And I don't "send" money to hookers for my own purposes much less for anyone elses. and hopefully this will prove it's not the money, it is the principle. Whether it's sending a multi thousand dollar "deposit" to the Philippines or a lousy six bucks to some drunk hooker on your behalf, the answer is the same. HELL FUCKING NO!!!

so gofundme has an anonymous feature but even with the anonymous feature...the organizer and beneficiary (i.e. the drunk hooker as you said) would be able to see the name of the credit card used to pay the donation). not sure if she knows my name but she has been in my house. if there's somebody willing to pay the $6 donation (i can reimburse them). i need to send her a message and i can't have my name associated with the donation. that's why i'm asking for a volunteer.  

having your name associated with this sketchy hooker, but you want someone else here, who also sees hookers, to make a donation for you?   That's kind of a lot to ask of a stranger.  I wouldn't even do it if you sent me a deposit in advance, which I know you're not opposed to.   A charming guy like you that even writes a list of what sex acts you want her to perform should be able to figure out how to schmooze your way out of this.  Just sayin'.  

If you are on the up & up, which I'm starting to have my doubts given your whole "send me $6 for a gofundme scheme"... Name names, write a review or this is just one giant endless car crash of a sitcom you need to take off the site.

I guess that’s what you’re contemplating with the gofundme message.

his train wreck meme when we need him?  Lol

Frankly it's baffling.

making an example of her?  Care to share?