all to have more $ for hobbying.

So, I should be getting some carbon tax credits, shouldn't I?

On a more serious note, I think I have become more sociable, in a manner of speaking of course.

Mostly, I just enjoy life more.

Positives:

*I sometimes get sex now.
*I've met some interesting people.

Negatives:

*It's expensive.
*It's risky.

Positive-

1. Since I've been married most of my adult life and have had no affairs, the hobby has helped me in distinguishing between lust and love. I'd have one less marriage under my belt if I had learned that sooner.

2. Been able to have times, and enjoy them when everything was all about me, though there have also been times when just as much time and attention was placed on mutual pleasuring.

Negative-

1. Possibly putting my career in jeopardy, and the fear surrounding that.

2. It's something I don't think of as being wrong, yet I have no one, family or friends, I can talk to about it.

This lifestyle has changed me...since going full time...

you know? I like this topic. Good one Marie!!

The good changes:
1. I am finally free to be the crazysexykewl freak of nature I am. what does that mean? I can have sex with just about anyone, anyway I choose. I have found what truly sexually pleases me (you dont want to know..only one person does. lol) and am free to explore. I have found me!

2. I love to travel. I love to have sex. I love to try new things....i can do all of this..and get paid for doing so! Oh!! This may sound weird...but I can meet those i would have never crossed paths with any other way. I have met some amazing people! I can't go back to a desk job...ever. sigh.

The bad changes:

1. I am running my own business, so I am in charge of EVERY little aspect. I have three businesses...so I often dont have time for a real life. I have no one to rely on but me...and at times, it gets to be a bit much.

2. I could never be in a committed relationship ever again, now that I have had this freedom. (ha! not that i was any good at it to begin with) I dont want to be chained to anyone..nor do i want to chain anyone to me. Jaded? Cynical? Pissy? A tad.

So, those are my major changes. I have learned who I am...and have finally come to terms with the fact that...

I am who I am. Ta Daaaaaaa!! Fuck what you heard. Go hard or go home!

god, i cant wait til i go to dubai!

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yes, this hobby has turned me into a man, It made more more confident with women and it helped me find ways of spending money on useful things. It also made me very very happy

don't even know where to begin

I am more or less a stay at home parent at thus point since I work very little and around the kids schedules. The #1 reason for doing this.

I have gained insight into men and what makes them tick more. I appreciate more about the men I meet. I feel like I get glimpses at "their side of the story" more than before. I see things more clearly.

I have become more of myself, I like it I like me for who this situation has brought out in me.

PLUS I have great shoes, great panties and a ton of both. Much better wardrobe now. I like being able to choose what wear when I go to work as apposed to a set style or so on. I am more of myself.

I love the frredom and time with my family best of all. this time is passing fast all will be moving out in a few yrs and I have spent the time I wanted to with them. lots of great memories and I have you guys to thank for this time with them. so...Thanks!

xo
Nicole

and am so much more confident about being desirable no matter what my age or body image might be.

I'm a better listener with much less judgemental interuptions than before.

I have learned that you can care deeply for someone and be contented for the good times you share and then walk away. In my younger days I thought separation was the worst part of any relationship but now I look forward to meeting my new friends and think less of the parting.

The worst thing I have learned is how to hide so much of me from family and friends. I sometimes feel there are two people walking in my shoes. I feel like I am one of the best liars when it comes to cover stories and this has to show in my character in some way.

Kisses Haley

It allows me to be the woman I would love to be...

to one man.

I am in no way jaded about relationships, and seek this type of freedom of expression with one person. (I know, good luck, right?)

Since I actually do have my own business, work for a company, and I am a mom, civvie dating is just SO pa se. It is so hard to find someone who can deal with my busy life. And when I do meet someone, he's retarded, tries to be my dad, or needs a lifetime prescription of Testemax.

I have always been open minded and accepting, I've got too much invested in my civvie job to quit, I've always had the freedom to be there for my baby, and it's a break from all the single retards I meet. Some of your wives are very lucky ladies...

I think because I don't do this full time, and when I do it's on my terms is why it isn't a negative. The hobby was a great addition to my chaotic life, and until I find that understanding, supportive man that makes me want to lick the skin  from his balls twice a day, I am glad to be apart of it.

It has opened up a world of opportunity for me. Opportunity to meet with and experience a depth of interaction that has been lacking in my journey thus far. Wonderful people, direct communication. Sincerity. It's been good.

Dear Ms. Marie:
I noticed that you were asking about the changes that providers and Hobbyist have withstood or observed in their lives since becoming participants of the hobby. I was just wondering have you had a chance to do an informal study with respect to has it changed the providers more in terms of their practices and their routines or the hobbyist in how they look for women to spend time with.  Also when providers and hobbyist return to their civilian interactions would you look at how the hobby has effected them and influenced certain predilections and characteristics that they would then seek in their significant others predicated on their experiences in the hobby. Your thoughts Ms. Marie. The underlying question is how much you'll charge me for the hour for your cerebral response.

Re: How has this hobby life changed you?

Positive.....

1- It's re-awaken and reminded me of how much I truly need to express myself via passionate physical intimacy with a woman in order to feel right with myself.

Negative.....

2- It's re-awaken and reminded me of how much I truly need to express myself via passionate physical intimacy with a woman in order to feel right with myself.

positives
1. Im having sex with girls i would normally never have a chance with.
2. my sex skills are getting better
3. im more confident
4. i have meet some really wonderful girl

negatives
1. its risky
2. its expensive, i have been hobbying for 13 years.

Hmmm. Let's see...

My good changes would be:
1. I've met some really cool, wicked, far-out, beautiful, friendly, strange characters. Some I can truly call 'friend' and some I've had the pleasure of fucking. Some I will. This doesn't apply to the gents, of course.

2. I've never considered myself a 'conventional' person anyway, so this outlet has helped me to explore another side of life. It's truly been a trip, and I'm looking forward to more great times.

My bad changes:
1. Not having the sense enough when I was younger to do something more lucrative with my financial well-being so I can play more than I currently do.

2. Not starting it sooner!

My good changes:
1. It has taught me to be more kind to both women and men in my life including being a better listener and listening before speaking.
2. It has taught me to take better care of myself so I can live a better life.  My overall health has improved even though I have gained some years (haven't we all).
3. It has made me more aware of just how precious life is.  I would sometimes take things for granted, but, not anymore.  I cherish each and every relationship, even though I know it is a fantasy.
4.  I thank each and every provider who has shared precious time with me.

My bad changes:
1. It has taught me how to sometimes have to lie in order to cover my tracks.
2. While no regular needs go unfullfilled (mortage, food, etc.) I do realize that the money spent on hobbying could have been used elsewhere.  Because of this, I try to stay within budget at all times.

I've become much more confident about my relationships with women in general. I've learned much more about how to engage on different levels and then disengage when the time comes. I've become a much better lover. I've met some very, very cool folks.

I hate being so secretive but most people simply wouldn't understand how this hobby can be more than just 'dirty' fun.

   I entered the 'hobby' (still hate that term) to simply satisfy sexual urges. Sooo much more has occurred:

Positives:
1) Yes, I've met and enjoyed women I never would have otherwise.
2) I have refined what I really desire in a woman.

Negatives:
1) My primary savings account is in my sock drawer where I save for my next encounter.
2) I have become jaded as to what really motivates many women.

   Overall though, I am more comfortable with who I am and feel that, when the right girl comes along, I will be able to think with the big head.

Only 2? Ok... off the top of my head...
My good changes:
1. This has made me think much higher of men than ever before.
2. This had set some new standards and expectations on what to expect in any relationship - I used to take such crap from guys!

My bad changes:
1. I have withdrawn somewhat from my old mainstream friends - the double life is hard.
2. I would have a hard time working for someone else at an 8-5 job that didn't totally stimulate and engage me.