I've been with about 6 girls in the last 2-3 years, but none in the last 6 months. So, when I sent a provider an email with these girls name/email address/phone number, she said none of them replied back. The last girl I was with was 6 months ago and was with twice. I called her recently, but when she said I should tip her, I gave her a tip: never ask for a tip upfront, you will never get one and crossed her off my list.
I feel like I am back at square one. Any suggestions?
figures the providers dont answer back... 5 out of ten do... or dont. However you wanna look at it...
Join verification sites.. never be asked for refs again.
Review the providers- having reviews helps !
-- Modified on 5/4/2006 10:10:28 PM
"Join verification sites.. never be asked for refs again."
Many of us ladies will NOT take references from third parties, i.e., verification sites. Here on the West Coast they are near non-existant though I hear big in Chicago.
Never say "Never".
; )
Yes, I agree reviews will help.
xoxo,
S.
I have not had enough good luck with references to make it my sole means of verification - in fact I have been sent astray by well meaning providers who didn't really remember the man, but actually thought they did.
As for verification sites, they may be getting better, but there were a couple of times I turned down giving okays on reference requests from a particiular site because I didn't remember the person who claimed they'd seen me. (Perhaps once long ago, never to hear from them again until the reference request came though.) Twice the auto reply on that same verification website thanked me for confirming that the person was a great client. WHOA! It's enough to have human error, but what was this? A computer glitch? Not good enough to make a lady feel safe. We must also verify other ways.
We know reviews can be and are faked. So ladies need to use more than ONE method of verification, and certainly be responsible for their OWN safety.
Edited for clarification.
-- Modified on 5/5/2006 10:10:07 AM
Northeastern girls and men dont have too much trouble and dont have to take 8 hours screening.. sorry !!!
with referrals only and a verification site.
It's a good place to start, or start again. Have them give you a reference.
it is odd, that I have visited with a lot of ladies who seem to enjoy my company, I provide them with cash and they know my desire to "keep it real" for the hour or two - but after, it is the next bright and shiny object that catches my eye. So I see any one provider only infrequently. That is just the way me and the little guy are! So when asked for references, I try to provide those few providers that I have frequented more than once and with whom I would visit again - just not sure when. You think they would provide a ref?!
The only one who I know will provide a ref for me NQ is one who I have NOT seen.... but I have met and know her socially! and she is a sweetie. IF she were in trouble and needed help, I would respond, just because she is real.
Suggestions!? don't really have any for you, but to the ladies I do. please give references. I mean you want it done for you? right? if just makes sense to provide references... makes a better and safer hobby.
Can you tell me why you would not give a ref?! AS I am curious about that!
I find this discussion rather interesting.
Why?
Because in all my time in this business, I have never met a lady who would NOT be a reference for me.
Every lady I have asked for a reference from has given one.
Often, the ladies who were requesting the references have commented on how nice and great the references have been.
So, either they are really just lying out their teeth, or I'm doing something right. Hopefully, the latter and not the former.
I should say that I have never had a lady decline an appointment with me.
I'm sure this is going to sound arrogant, but...
the point is;
if you are a gentleman, treat the ladies with respect, and just be nice, they will be more than happy to give you a great reference.
After all, it's in all of our best interests to play happy and safe.
Just my opinion...
B
All of your advice on being a gentleman and getting a nice reference was wonderful.
You forget one factor which really has nothing to do with you -
the professional level of the ladies you are seeing.
See, unfortunately some ladies DO balk at giving references, intentionally give bad references, try to undercut and take the client from the lady asking for a reference, etc. Those who are in the biz for greed commonly see other ladies as competition and are likely to sabatoge the reference process. Those of us who just love to love and enjoy our work... we more often see other ladies as peers to respect and honor, and to "share and share alike" in all the fun. We are also more likely to respect the gentlemans right to fun and variety (isn't what most of this is about, anyway?)
Then again -
you're picking the right ladies.
It IS all about you.
; )
Great job in your past choices!
-- Modified on 5/5/2006 9:13:02 PM
Move on to the next ladie is your answer. Proper screening is perfectly OK but it need not always involve a reference from another provider. I have read much here about how those references should always be taken with a grain of salt anyway.
If you are willing to give up enough personal information, such as phone number, etc. and that is not enough, move on to the next girl.
I was in Chicago recently and wanted to see an unreviewed lady with an Eros ad (I know, make fun of me). I gave all the necessary information and they told me I could not book with them unless I was registered with some verification service (Room Service or RS or something like that). I said fine but will they verify me by this evening? Oh no, of course not. "So why should I bother?" Silence.
So I found someone else/
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