Made an appointment with a favorite a few days ahead of time, looked forward to it with anticipation, got a little rush when she opened the door as always, a little chit chat and catching up, started in with the fireworks and then found myself bored to death. She is one of the top rated ladies anywhere and any guy would give a kidney (or $400) to be with her and here I was just hoping for it to end. Things started going through my mind, the condom, the time limit, it just felt shallow and meaningless( and I am as shallow/meaningless as they come.) Finished, thought about leaving early but decided not to, had a great time talking, and she said she wanted me to do her again. So she went to work again and wanted me to cum on her chest. She aimed me a little high and got an accidental facial. That was the only thing I found interesting and in the past I have never even liked that. For some reason the whole experience just felt wrong. Anyone ever confront those feelings?

As I was reading your post, my first thought was that perhaps you've really grown to like this lady and that the sex was a turnoff because you really want more than that. You spoke about looking forward to seeing her and having a great time talking, but you also mentioned the time limit and feeling shallow and meaningless. Then you gave the impression that you got a bit of a "charge" by the facial, something you don't normally do. That makes me wonder if you've just gotten into a sexual rut with this particular lady. I've heard so many friends talk about sex falling into a routine and becoming boring. Do either one of these scenarios describe your relationship? If it's the first, that sounds like trouble. If it's the latter, then you just need to spice things up.

Sounds like she's your wife of several years..You like her, but the sex is boring, try someone else..

Sexual pleasure is always wonderful. When you fail to feel pleasure, especially with someone familiar and special then you must look elsewhere for the problem. Are you spending money you should not? Have you begun to isolate and withdraw in other areas of your life? Are you drinking too much or using coke, speed or painkillers? If you begin to loose the thrill of being with a woman, perhaps there are other issues?

Thanks for the advice.  It could be a little of all those things, except for the emotional involvement the provider. Not at all interested in her for anything other than sex and a little short time companionship. But I don't want to get where I need to push the envelope too much to enjoy.  Ever notice how most mainstream porno now was considered out there just a few years ago?  Do you ever want more and more from your encounters, more than what most ladies are comfortable with?

I enjoy emotional attachment. If a beautiful woman will offer a little, I am grateful and will return as much as I feel appropriate.

I made a run there a while back where I would see new girls as often as I could afford. What it came down to is that the women who I clicked with made my tail wag for days and the non-connection ladies were just sex.... I say that with understanding that there is a difference between "just sex" which is fun anytime; and with "connected sex" which sends me to such an amazing high.

So I don't seek the new best girl andmore. I know the best girls (for me) already and I know what they give me is way beyond what I deserve. I never want more because I can't imagine them giving more.

Have you met anybody out there that "completes" you... fills a hole you didn't even know you had until she slipped in? Let her. It feels bitchen!



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