or at least acknowledge it the next time with a tip or a gift.

Many gals regularly let guys stay 15, even 30 minutes over the set time and never say boo, especially if the person is a regular; but that doesn't make it right.

One, two, three, five.....


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Should one feel compelled to add to the rate?
First off, I'm pretty much a one-pop wonder, so anything beyond an hour or less is definitely not action-time.  Occasionally, a bit of a personal connection develops and time runs significantly past the main event with just talking and a bit of cuddling.  In these cases, it's definitely been a mutual thing, or I would have been polite and hit the road.  In fact, there have been times where I did hit the road in spite of clear indications that the provider wanted me to stay, when I did not feel a particular closeness.   When time has gone over, most providers seem okay with it, though some clearly expect that they be covered for it.  (I'm aliasing, since it could be figured out from a scan of my reviews.)

Assuming that you have gotten dressed and are ready to leave, if the gal asks you to stay and chat longer then that would be on "her time" (and I would confirm that at the time).  I wouldn't give that a second thought as to compensation beyond the original donation.  However, if you are just laying there chatting about life (not dressed or any attempt to exit), then I would ask her regarding the "time extension" and be prepared to pay up.

Also, if this is a repeat lady (and you want to see her again) vs. a first time encounter (who you might also want to see again) would weigh on the decision.

Keep in mind that the ladies chat about us, and if you are a guy that is a habitual "going over" and not paying guy, your reputation will invariably preceed you.

lots of factors come into play.

In general if I feel comfortable with the person I would enjoy cuddle time etc.  I guess cuddling would be my way of thanking him for a wonderful evening.

Just me though.

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First off, if you never expect a lady to give you this extra cuddle time that other gentlemen would pay for you might not be taking advantage of her. If you think each and every time you see her and you need this time to feel your time is complete then you need to open your wallet and do the right thing.

My first dates always run over but I always ask the next time we meet if more than an hour would be desired. I seldom make a big deal about not taking extra time if they don't make me feel bad about having to move on when i'm busy. If I don't feel compelled to spend this extra time i'm not expecting to be paid but also I have never pushed someone out the door for fear of being rude. Saying it's time to move on is a lot harder to do than most think for some of us ladies.

Kisses Haley

It's all about time, not how you spend it. Hopefully, your whole visit feels like "a mutual thing". And I don't think it's fair to ask her if it's all right for you to take up extra time without paying. You should do like Chicago says: Head for the door on schedule, and stay longer only if she makes you stay.

More often than not that has been the route I have chosen to go for exactly what the OP describes as that "pillow talk" time.  This timeframe has allowed me to play at my pace and not ever get that "rushed feeling".  The chit chat is a big part of the session, but I always pay for it...unless the lady has offered me some OTC time to eat, chat or otherwise.

And in particular on a first date, that would never be something I would expect a lady to partake in (that is running over my time).  It is kind of you to allow that, but I for one would never expect, nor attempt to take advantage of that.  Now if you want to extend some OTC time on second, third and so on dates, I would feel honored that you would allow that (but still know that your time needs to be compensated accordingly).

Go with the flow. Simply, these are human interactions, never the same and never will be the same.

I only ask to be compensated if anything more physical goes on past a 1hr meeting. I quite frequently pillow talk after sessions if we have a good connection.  I never really edge anyone out the door as I never have more than 1 meeting per day.

I dunno about 30 regular or not lol but 15 mins is fine. Half of the time when time goes over it's my fault especially if things are going well i'll let us just keep talking etc. But i'm also usually pretty aware and good w/ time be it because i'm playing music etc