A question for the ladies - Sometimes escort ratings vary (YMMV) and it may be because the reviewer was the last client of the day or you had a bad day yesterday. Now, if i were a client, and I caught you in a 'tired' mode or 'lousy' mood ... how should we deal with you so we can still have a good experience ? (Guys, pls. don't say - be the first client, cuz I always try to). Thanks for any advice!

Ymmv=your mile may vary. I am a Ymmv lady here. I will not always promise that our chemistry will 100% spectacular, like my former client I had earlier that day. It could be several factors that you may have a ymmv moment with me: bad hygiene/bad attitude. If any of these factors are present, when the client is entering the room, and he has not taken my suggestion to brush his teeth (always carry extra toothbrushes), gargle with my travel size listerine (I always carry extra), and take a shower (Sorry, just because you had a shower before you left, does not mean you do not sweat), and by me making the suggestion for you to accomplish these very simple tasks, in order to ensure that we will have a fun, relaxing session, leaves you (in general) with a bad attitude, then YES-our session will not satisfactory.

On another issue of just being tired:

If I am too tired to meet with another client, I will tell him before hand and reschedule the appt. I would never go through with an appt. feeling drained, tired, listless, for I would rather be sleeping alone in my bed.

Ok. Thanks. I forgot to mention ... that the question presumes the client is a true gentleman, just took a bath, put underarm deodorant, aftershave smell, brush his teeth, had listerine, and showed up really nice, clean and neat.

YMMVforUforME, It's great that you refused clients if you can't give him your 100% (very admirable of a provider), but it seems there are other providers who need the dough. And in spite of a client being at his best behavior and smelling like heaven and flower petals, she's still tired but needs your dough so she does it. How can you disarm such a lady .. or is there just no way to do it?

If you are not feeling the "chemistry", end the session, give her a small part of her "gift", and just walk away.

Difficult to do when dealing with an agency.

giggles well cutehunky let me tell you what I would suggest. I have been escorting for eight years off and on depending on my mood. Basically I do domination till I need some lovin then I run my escort ads so I do not have to work so hard and can enjoy a man who gives me what I need in the tlc dept. Perhaps I am a little different but I would suggest the following but be aware it may not work with all women.

Offer her a massage to help relax her. You can bet that is a great way to get her in the mood to show her that you care enough to take some time for her. Perhaps its a good idea to keep a cooler handy with a chilled bottle of white wine and a bottle of body lotion just for that occasion. Offer her a glass of wine with her massage. Be sure to put the lotion in your hands and rub them together so u are not shocking her with cold lotion. Rubbing the lotion in your hands will warm it up before touching her skin and just tends to add that special touch to the massage. Another suggestion is to stop by florist or local grocery store and spend a few bucks on some flowers and perhaps a box of chocolates. The flowers will make her smile and chocolates sure to cheer her up. Other ideas are with many women who like their *gift* put in an envelope try picking up a handful of thank you cards and enclosing them with your gift, its thoughtful and when you return she will remember the effort you take for her. I am not talking about spending a fortune and these things can be done even on a budget. If she smokes and u know her brand toss a pack of those in your bag of special moment tricks. It may not be a  bad idea to pick up some inexpensive trinkets, things women always love are candles, picture frames, scarves, and of course sex toys. Most adult stores have mood setting candles and just adding some aroma to a room can have a mood changing effect. Do not leave candles in a hot car for long but you get the idea. I suppose if you are married these things will not be easy to hide from your wife but many can be picked up in just about any store along the way.  Its the little things that do make a difference and you should find that any of the above suggestions are sure to wake up the senses and get you off on the right foot for your visit.
If you have met her before listen to what she has to say and pick up on key things that you know she likes, for example if she mentions that she likes green apples instead of red ones well pick up an inexpensive fruit basket with her favorite reen apples she will be thankful and I am sure you can think up your own things to do with other fruits during your visit. Advise from a woman who knows what she wants I do hope it helps

Hugs,
Savanna

Ps, Yankee Candles are the best as they burn longer and have the best scent of any candle I have ever encountered.

Hope this helps

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because I always put on a good face and attitude. When I become close to a client, they are allowed to see me tired, but that still doesn't affect my performance with him. If a client is unclean or has bad breath, however, that could affect performance in some way, but I would politely suggest a shower (for the both of us or bath) and offer him a Listermint while I take one too. I always carry packs of Listermint with me. I cannot stand the fact that I may have bad breath too. I like to be squeaky clean in every facet. There's always going to be men who you're not as attracted to as others, but I usually find something good about them that makes me hot for them, especially if they're nice and clean. That's the important thing for me.

Hugs,
Ciara

heavy financial demands sometimes, or even obsession.
Or, she may have double booked because she had a string of cancellations lately; or she was making up for slowness in weeks prior. Who knows?
Sometimes people have a hard time 'calling it a day'.

assuming this would be the best time of the day, while she was fresh and hadn't been standing on her feet all day. I found out by accident, that my original assumption was wrong, regardless of how good the logic may have been. She was not a morning person, and got into her 2nd wind in late afternoon. I also found out that the last appointment was bad, because she was rushed to go pick up her kids, etc. My point is, it is not necessarily valid to assume that being the first of the day is a good idea, and without knowing the provider quite well, as well as circumstances of the day, it is impossible to make valid assumptions about the quality of service you will receive. I don't know about most guys, but I don't see most providers as frequently as I see my hair stylist, so it would be difficult to learn her circadian patterns.

There are many reasons for being tired, too. Maybe escorting is moonlighting for some while they have school or another job; she has kids and household demands that run her down; depression, personal problems..any number of things.

Maybe try the same understanding that you'd like when you're really 'beat'. If it's continual, you might want to express some concern. Perhaps she is taking on too much or could use a shoulder.

Yeah, yeah, i know. You're here to be pampered, not the one pampering, right? Well, lifes a bitch. But a few moments of investment can pay heavy dividends if you're willing to do it.

I'm NOT a morning person, so late/last appointments are always where i'm at on a woman's schedule.

Last appointments aren't always the kiss of death, sometimes they can turn out to be the one where she can open up alittle, relax and let go because she knows there's nothing happening afterward. If you allow it to be.

In a one hour date most of this probably won't work to well due to the time constraints but i only do 2 hours or longer so it makes life alot easier in that aspect.

Try to figure out a way to make her feel better about herself. I know, easier said than done, especially in a short period of time.

Remember that the evening is your escape from the daily grind and your fantasy, but also that your escape IS her daily grind and make some attempt to focus on her for a moment.

Maybe give her alittle massage. It doesn't have to be a long drawn out ordeal. Most times it won't even have to be very good. Hell, i know mine are mediocre at best. Just the attempt will often be enough.

Have her sit and relax for a minute and you be the one to pour the drinks instead of her.

Take an extra couple min to just talk. More then about the weather. Try to get her to talk about her alittle and pick up on the undertones of the conversation. You can learn alot about a persons day in a very short time if you're willing to listen rather than talk. Then incorperate the tone from the conversation into the session. If you pick up on something she's needing in terms of some form of attention, make sure you focus on that particular for alittle bit.

Even a small compliment can really change the mood of the night as long as it's genuine. Whatever you do, make sure you do it from the heart. I know that doesn't sound right considering the terms of the arrangements here, but i can't think of another way to say it at the moment. People aren't usually as blind and stupid as we think or would like them to be and they pick up on real or fake pretty quick. Better to say nothing at all then something that you're just spoutin' off to try and make an impression.

Once i needed to use the ladys shower when i arrived. While i was getting in the shower we were talking and just in conversation about our days it came out about all the running around she had been doing the last week or so. So i took a quick shower, grabbed the bottle of bubble bath she had in there and filled the tub while i was drying off. Then i undressed her, put her in the tub and gave her a quick back/neck massage while we talked some more. Turned out to be a fantasic time and a great starting point for the events of the evening. She got alittle time to relax, alittle attention that she normally wouldn't have, and she showed her appreciation in the most wonderful ways!

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Today, I happen to think "what if there were a market for non-gay male escorts and I was one of them".  Some ladies I saw were f**kable.  Others were gross.  What if they called me.  I'd be forced to screw them.  Yuk.  

You have to give girls credit.  After my mental games today, I respect them more.

See...I TOLD you that you were a sensitive guy!  Don't worry...I won't tell anyone you know. :P

Seriously, though...I couldn't agree with you more.  It isn't 100% guaranteed...nothing is.  However, it has made a difference for me more times than I can count.

The reason I ask was that I was going to see a young provider today who had a very wide range of rating here at TER from 3 to 10. So, I knew it was very YMMV. I did see her at noon and she was fiery and a little rough of the edges due to her age.  But I brought her a brown-bag LUNCH; was very nice to her; and she appreciated it by treating me like a long time friend with a no rush session. A couple of hobbyist on her review said she did not kiss (and I really love to kiss) LOL .. So, I was so relieved that I had the most incredible DFK with her .. I mean we were sucking each other's tongue dry! Whewww .. if just for that I would go back to her.

Take it easy,

Take it slow,

Take your time !!

And there was that cool Superslide with the hose attachment? And we would run and sloooosh go down the length? Ahhh...it works everytime. Instantly refreshing. Makes my green eyes sparkle just thinking about it. I am going to to paint my toes pink in anticipation.

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brush burns on my back. Wink!

Hugs,
Ciara

I remember once in a stressed out a moment where I didn't even realize how stressed out I was....

HE said,

"Shhhhhhhhh!  I was wondering if we could try something?  I'm just going to sit back here like this and I was wondering if you could just close your eyes and lean back against me?"    

Mmmmmmmm.  It's one of those moments I still return to when I need to relax.