Everyone that looks back probably remembers the time when they could have zigged instead of zagged from a career point of view. That time in your life that if you had decided to stay in school, or majored in the field you really wanted, or prepped really well for that interview; that you might really have gone down a different path from a career point of view. And I don't mean "yeah I always wanted to be an astronaut for NASA"; I mean where you had some true talent and ability, could have gotten into that school to study whatever, and truly had a reasonable shot at ending up in another profession.
Ladies who are providers here, tell use what you would have done instead if not choosing or ending up in this profession. Thinking back, what would you have liked to do, had the drive and talent to do, and perhaps could have handled the education to do, but perhaps got sidetracked for one of a thousand reasons and it just never happened. Or, if you love what you do and wouldn't want to have done anything else, thats cool too.I don't see too many providers regretting choosing this path as long as they had a long term game plan. Many more are part time and have 9-5 jobs. I mean... Who ever became a serious provider I doubt they would tell u this wasn't a good career choice.
I'm not going that way.
It's good to learn from ones past, to make ones current and future decisions more informed. But it's a waste of time and energy to focus on past decisions/paths taken.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can have a positive impact on the rest of your life by using your experience/knowledge, but you can't do anything about your past, so it's best to leave it behind.
Now, I'll get off my soap box and say that I'm pleased with the choices and paths that I've made/taken, they have all lead me to this point in my life and I'm happier now than I have ever been in my life.
Takes one to know one, right? lol
I too have made a lot of dumb decisions in my life, but they make me what I am today. Like Russ, I don't really have any regrets.
And yes, I am a product of the sum of all parts, omg what a friggin nerd I am. But I am what I am and that's OK.
I wouldn't be able to afford to do what I REALLY love/want to do, if it were not for providing. I also wouldn't have enough time/energy if I were working a full-time job.
I got a degree, but never had a clear idea of what I wanted to "do" afterward.
After 2008, my options seemed to vanish, and I stepped into providing (thinking temporarily) as a way to obtain some money while pursuing other avenues, whatever those ended up being (further education, internships, etc). Which is pretty much what I'm doing, but the route has been more (pleasantly) circuitous than anticipated.
I take tons of classes, and also have a lot of flexibility in accepting work. I can take on something that's low-paid but interesting to me, and refuse something else that might be higher-paid or ongoing, but is purely dead-end grunt work.
I also have the time to read a ton, travel, and expand my cultural knowledge. I went to the opera last week, and might go to a classical concert this week 
I also have a road trip planned.
I've met some very interesting people through providing, and have done and learned things I never would have otherwise...
I worked civvie jobs back before 2008. I was happy then, but am vastly more fulfilled and confident now. I'd never go back, in a million years (unless, maybe, I had kids and wanted to give them a normal upbringing)
I had a career, served my country, furthered my education, served my community,raised a family.....
But if I could have chosen another career, I would have been in advertising/marketing. And I would never trade this hobby for anything. It's what keeps me younger, healthier, taller and independent.
How? Maybe because this career keeps you on your back a lot and your spine is less compressed? LOL! Just teasing.
In the gym and all over the wonderful guys I meet
I have pencil marks on my kitchen wall to prove it!
Carolina, I know that you have worked in different capacities during the course of your life. How have these different roles made you a better person and a better provider? I am thinking that they made you think about others before yourself. You also learned about how to assume other roles which also made you adept to relate to another's needs. Finally the budgeting aspect gave you some inroads into being a business woman which also makes the transition to being a provider easier as well.
But if I could have chosen another career, I would have been in advertising/marketing. And I would never trade this hobby for anything. It's what keeps me younger, healthier, taller and independent.
Most people have options in life. The common theme in P4P with prostitutes is that when a zig to the right would have been the more correct option, most ignore this and go left. Ends up with a kid, or lazy BF/SO. So here they are trying their best to survive.
But I don't think that m/any prostitutes declared in their pre-teen years that they wanted to be a prostitute. More likely they thought life would be something quite different. But I think most people can say the same things as well.
Many of the prostitutes I know take what they are doing seriously. But they also would be gone in a flash if/when something comes along that would allow them to survive financially.
Ladies who are providers here, tell use what you would have done instead if not choosing or ending up in this profession. Thinking back, what would you have liked to do, had the drive and talent to do, and perhaps could have handled the education to do, but perhaps got sidetracked for one of a thousand reasons and it just never happened. Or, if you love what you do and wouldn't want to have done anything else, thats cool too.
Is not having gotten into this career sooner ;
I completely agree Ava! I made a conscious decision to become a provider and it wasn't out of desperation or lack of any alternatives. I felt enslaved in corporate America and I now feel liberated, sexier than ever and actually balanced!
Not sure why you make it sound like some negative last resort and that once your a provider every other talent is gone.....but....as for me I'm going to school to be a physical therapist.... Which I already am in a way 😉😁 but I also have 2 other small businesses And if I ever get the time I would like to be a social media manager/marketer as well.....but I love what I do and the fact I don't have to rush through school struggling financially...I take my time at my own pace and life is good 😊 so as far me....I chose it and enjoy it...
Ladies who are providers here, tell use what you would have done instead if not choosing or ending up in this profession. Thinking back, what would you have liked to do, had the drive and talent to do, and perhaps could have handled the education to do, but perhaps got sidetracked for one of a thousand reasons and it just never happened. Or, if you love what you do and wouldn't want to have done anything else, thats cool too.
I graduated from college, got married, had kids. I started this as a fantasy. NOT to say there have not been bumps along the way, but all in all... I STILL am living that fantasy. I get to make people happy for a living, bathe in their pleasure, and get to also revel in mine. Who can beat that?
till this really feels like work I am certain I will stay. The profession in enjoyable from many standpoints and I have made some amazing friends here that I am sure will remain long after I eventually choose my exit. While no this is not something every little girl dreams about becoming and it certainly is not right for everyone, it is not a last option unless you make it one.
TBH this profession is very freeing. You learn to let down your guard with strangers, give in to the sexual freedom this profession affords. I think personally this profession helped me to find my true self here and that is why I stay...
I agree whole-heartedly that I only regret not getting into providing sooner. I spent a solid 8 years stripping, which was loads of fun and profitable, but mentally and physically exhausting! Not to mention, at the time, the clubs I worked in allowed indoor smoking--pew!
However, my chosen profession would have been investing, which takes something I didn't have a lot of when I started stripping--money! I enjoy what I do now, but still feel like it is a means to an end. While I have taken breaks from the sex industry to work other odd jobs along the way, I have always felt most at home (and make the most money) when I am self-employed. I suppose I'm a girl who lives by her own rules which is why this field called out to me to begin with.
I would have got my degree in Business Management with a minor in Finance instead of the degree I got which is a bachelors of interdisciplinary studies: Spa Management and Wellness Foundation concentration. The Bachelors I got is so limiting career wise. I let the college advisor talk me into that degree and it was basically a waste of time. But it is true I would like to be a Spa Director someday, I love resort spas. Unfortunately at my size, the spas here in Phoenix won't hire me. They are all about aesthetics. A degree in business management with a finance minor would have gone a lot further for me.
I was a figure skater when I was younger and had every intention of that being my career.
Then I was in a bad car accident when I was 21 and there went that.
One thing that has ALWAYS been a life goal of mine is to serve and inspire others. I have volunteered my time, energy, creativity and money to causes I believe in. I have done this to some degree or another my whole life.
While I didn't necessarily set out to be a provider in the context of this world, I was always meant to be a provider in SOME kind of context. Being Kate allows me the amazing gift of satisfying someone's deepest needs and base- yet so important- desires. It's incredibly fulfilling. I have worked- and currently work- in other fields, yet nothing compares to this in regards to how much I can do for someone and touch their lives.
I feel that I am incredibly lucky to be repeatedly invited to do so. How can you turn down winning the lotto?
Kiss me,
Kate
My personality would have been suited to it, I have a photographic memory for names, dates, case history, I like order and rules and the concept of justice and fairness, I can stand up in front of any amount of people and speak articulately, I got a scholarship to an all girls school in the UK - where I'm from and found academic work easy BUT there's another side to my personality that needs freedom, flexibility, travel, excitement, that rails against authority and wants to surf, laugh, be uplifted and embrace the joy of life and I worked out that for me, that side outweighed the serious, academic side.
If I'd had more pushy, academic parents, a wealthier family to pay for college and the maturity when young to harness the one personality and override the other, then I'd be a barrister in London, but hey as it happens I became a psychologist which I've enjoyed the variety of over the years, I've seen a lot of the world and this work is the most flexible and free of any and the most exciting and enjoyable!
Can't complain.
Claire, just wondering when did you learn about yourself in terms of what environments that you flourish best in? Was there one incident or time that was defining for you in exhibiting what you didn't want and what you did want? Finally was the mental health field a place where it still spoke to you academically but also had flexibility because no two cases of behavior was the same and would that be also synonomous with your personality as it speaks to the flexibility of your position?
I love what I do and it is bringing me closer to my future goal which includes college education (with no loans) but still in the same field just one that is not talked about....... Not all who do this, regret it or just for Money.
It might seem easy but it's not, yet I enjoy it and would not change a thing.