I saw this one Korean provider after reading positive review on here and recommendation on the local board.  First 2 dates were awesome and pretty consistent with reviews. A lot of chemistry and I thought it was my ATF.  After 2nd date, she gives me  her phone number and tells me she wants to see me outside as a 'friend'-- lunch, dinner that kind of thing.  Because she's working for agency she pretty much has to be on call all the time.  So after a week of flirt texting back and forth I suggested that I book her last appt. then go for a dinner or bite nearby afterwards.  Last Fri. she tells me to book 10pm and I did.  I went over there expecting to have a session then stepping out for a quick drink before I had to go home.

But as soon as I arrived she and her roommate (also provider) were dressed (embarrassingly slutty) to go out with me.  I gave the the donation as usual but when she called it in she shushed me so maybe she was scamming her agent as well?  I'm a very polite person in real life so I just go along with them.  We go to some bar nearby where she was really closed and not talkative so I had to talk to her roommate the whole time which was excruciatingly painful that I almost wanted to blow my head off.  Basically, an immature (20 yo) low rent  "ho" who complains about everything and totally delusional about how hot she is -- total idiot.

Anyways, they knew I had to leave at 1am so we go back to their place 12:30.  There was some chatting, holding hands, light  kissing then suddenly she goes and changes into her pajamas and starts brushing her teeth.  WTF?  What happened to my session?  I didn't know what to do and I didn't want to make a scene in front of her roommate so I just left.

Next day, she texts me 'I miss you' blah blah blah.  Then in the most polite way I could I asked her why she didn't give me my session and she freaked!  Accused me of being 'disrespectful' (think I can buy sex with money)  WTF?  I couldn't believe it.  Well  excuse me but that how we met, no?  I tried make peace with her and even apologized but she doesn't return my texts.  

What would you do?

I thought of complaining to agency.  But it's not like it's a legit business so I doubt I'll get my money back.  But maybe if she was scamming them they would discipline her somehow.  But is it worth my time for the headache?

I could write a bad review but it wouldn't even be a review (more like a story) so TER probably wouldn't even post it anyways.  I don't want to write a dishonest review either.

I could make another appointment and show up and confront her.  But I can image this idea blowing up in my face.  Also,  I can't enjoy fucking someone who doesn't want to fuck me.  

At first, I was willing to forget about it and just have good sessions with her every once a while -- hence the reason for me to try and make peace.  I know there are other providers but I did feel some kind of 'connection' with her FWIW.  But since she dissed me I'm kind of pissed that I got played by this girl.

Your only recourse here is to complain to her agency. Of course, you should have done that the night that it happened.  Since you where running around clubbing with her when you should have been boinking her you probably won't get much sympathy, or anymore dates, from that agency...

You learned a lesson. Move on. Two dates does not an ATF make...

took advantage of You...this is just my opinion...however it seems to me You crossed the line to soon...it's one thing after You have seen someone for awhile...it's another thing after only 2 dates...You unfortunately opened that door without even realizing it...is it really worth the headaches...learn the lesson and move on...I believe Your time would be much better used finding an ATF...rather than trying to change a person and situation that already happened...remember the Hobby is meant to be Fun...and full of Pleasure and Passion...and You are telling us You are pissed because You got played...to answer Your question...I would just Move On and go get it on...who knows...maybe the next girl will Rock Your World

I have dated several Korean AMP workers, and almost every time there was a "date without benefits", it is sort of a rite of passage to see if you and her "like each other". If you play your cards right and/or are interested in her as more than P4P, this is how it works.

I am assuming you are non-asian, and this is probably your first "date" with an asian provider, don't feel like you were ripped, this is the way it works with most Korean AMP workers. I am sorry that they don't come with an instrucition manual, but do any women come with a set of instructions? lol

In her opinion she did not "diss you", she just wanted to see if you genuinely liked her, and it appears that you failed the test. I'd love to give you further advice, but I have been drinking rather heavily ane can barely type. lmao

If you'd like my sober advice on the subject, send me a PM and we'll  talk tomorrow. Trust me, drunk or sober, I do consider myself an expert on the subject. I just type a little better sober. lmao

Actually, I'm Asian.  And I wasn't interested in seeing her outside in the beginning since I'm married anyways.  She's the one who suggested it.  I guess I just got caught up because she was texting everyday.

I didn't have any expectations, but I'm just confused to what happened.  

Anyways, I'll PM cause I'm curious about your experiences. TIA

Drinking or not you're STILL an egomaniac. LOL


Man I have work to do today. I'd love to sit here and watch you enlighten everyone.

I have to go set up ROADBLOCKS for you and MP.lol Not to mention those pesky APB'S. LMAO

GAGs advice aside, which may very well be true...

You didn't really want to play off the clock... it was obviously not going well... AND you stuck around.

Time to wake up and look in the mirror so you can find that rug on your back

Honestly, you could have (should have?) walked mid-date. If they were dressed and ready to go, why did you pay???

I had a similar experience with a stripper once... obviously dragged me out with her friends to get me to pay for their drinks at the club. As the tab ran up,  I excused myself to freshen up (inconspicuously left enough to cover my drinks) and walked out.

I saw her the next time at the club as I was getting "lapped" by another gal, and her looks could have killed.

Easy to say from afar but I would have walked once I saw them dressed to go party.  If I'm paying, I want to experience the date the way I scheduled it--play then dinner out.  She reversed the plan and you never got the dessert.

Move on.

Sounds like she tried to engage you in The Game(tm). You weren't necessarily interested in participating in The Game(tm), but that's what it sounds like she was up to.

What is The Game(tm), you ask?

The Game(tm) is initiated when the john and the provider start meeting on "the outside". A pseudo form of dating, except its not real.

The john is hoping that eventually, she'll fall for him and then he'll get all the free sex he wants. At that point he has won The Game(tm).

The provider is hoping that he will fall for her. He will give her money and gifts and take her shopping, and as the relationship progresses, there will be less and less sex. If the john is ultimately paying more for the sex than he would be in a non-The Game(tm) scenario, then he has lost The Game(tm).

The The Game(tm) is far more common in Asia. Places like Thailand for instance.

What surprises me is how short the game was played. 2 dates and then the blowup? It's usually not played like that. She screwed up. Consider yourself lucky. She'll be better at it with the next guy.

I want to thank the OP & everyone who replied.  This is a new one on me...  but so highly educational.  Learning all the time, skb

Let this go and move on. It's not worth your time or the aggravation.

anyone who does a search on that phone number will see the problem and may or may not take a chance using them. Did you say the other dates where from this agency ? If so I would call, mention what happened and see what they plan to do for you. If nothing review, review, review

Protect others here who have done their best to protect you.This might happen all the time with them.

Kisses Haley

Oh yes, I familiar with The Game(tm).  I've had at least 3 girls already try to play The Game(tm) with me.  But these girls weren't that smart or sophisticated.  The younger one just wouldn't shut up about her 'gold digging' skills.  Just blah, blah, blah about how 'hi-maintenance' she was.  The girl I saw could probably be better at The Game(tm) if her cock blocking whore friend wasn't around her all the time.

Don't write a bad review for the agency as they had nothing to do with this. They owe you nothing and shame on you for thinking things would be better without them. As you see the agency was your insurance policy and since you didn't pay your premium your insurance is cancelled.

You can post a review under this ladies profile and warn others not to take the bait like you did though. She's not going to refund your money they spent already.

Kisses Haley

I am not even sure I could spell the word yesterday. lol

Have you ever noticed how pissed off people get when you don't allow them to rip you off. They act like the aggreived party. lol

First off, I'd never find myself in that sort of situation because I have no interest in being the boyfriend of a provider. Friend? In some cases. Boyfriend? No.

Second, if it DID happen to me; I would chalk it up to experience and thenceforth recall that ladies of all ages have the capacity to play games where I am at a disadvantage.

Whether or not such games are played is a function of the woman's character; which turns out to be a very important factor.

I DO understand that GaG says this is a sort of "rite of passage" thing. Maybe it is. But personally I'm not into rites. LOL


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Let it go.  Take a lesson.  Never look back.  Do your homework.

on a 4th date !

What does "Do your homework" have anything to do with what the guy posted?

If he already been on 2 dates, he's way past the reading reviews and doing some research stage. Better lesson to learn from this is that you can't trust a provider any more than you'd trust a random stranger... come to think of it, a random stranger is way more trustworthy. But don't get me wrong, not having trust should never get in a way of a perfectly good sex ))

My policy in this hobby is the same as in civilian dating.  Be nice...but not too nice...  Women will always try and test you if they feel you are too nice.  I say move on and just remember that it is not a good idea to see any one provider too often, even if you really click because she will definitely change on you.  The advantage of this hobby is once I sense a provider is starting to change her attitude, I can simply distance myself without any drama.  If I decide I want to see her again months or years later I have a fresh start and she realizes that I am not the type who is going to get overly committed to any woman.  This actually leads to more respect and a better relationship.

Give up the drama and move on to someone else. Unless you like punishment.

by making some stupid, denigrating remark towards providers in general. We get it, you don't really like the women you fuck. News flash, some of us actually like, and ocassionally trust the women we sleep with.

Virtually every post you make has some reference to, either deceiving providers, not trusting them, or not liking them. Why don't you just buy yourself a blowup doll to fuck?

Better get back on that turnip truck there sparky, if that one took you by surprise  LMAO!!!