This was posted on a local board by another gentlemen, but didnt get much response other than one calling him a suckup. I wanted to see what the ladies and hobbyists nationally thought.

What do you bring to a "date" with a lady? What do you prefer? What makes it a pleasant "YMMV" experience, and what doesn't?

I brought chocolates once, and a single red rose another time. However...

I like to bake. Especially desserts. It's soothing, kind of zen-like, and I enjoy watching others enjoy what I've made. So how would a lady feel if I brought her some special desserts I had made, (from scratch, not just a tube of cookies I bought at the store) like sticky buns, specialty almond cookies, baklava and the like, how would it be accepted? Would a lady be flattered that I took the time to make her something and didn't just spend $10 on a dessert at a grocery store, or would she be weirded out, or even be worried about the possiblity of being drugged. (something I had never thought of before I read a post on here from a lady about never drinking wine from an already opened bottle.)

So what do you prefer? Or are such things viewed as "sucking up"? (I cannot believe that myself. I love giving a lady a little gentlemenly gift)

Personally I have a rule that I don't eat or drink anything that I didn't buy or open myself because of fear of being poisened or having something spiked.  I really really have to know and trust someone to eat something they've cooked.  If you gave me a home made item - I'm afraid I'd be polite and then trash it the minute you left.  Nothing personal.

For Favs, I occasionally bring small items which makes us thing of each other, or a candy.  One prefers sugar free.  For others, usually a scented candle in a flavor I like.  

I often have a lady offer me refreshments, beverages or a snack...  it is sad that reciprocation is so suspect.  What if a gent were to provide a picnic?  Would that be refused?  
I'd think consuming a gift might delay a meeting, so would be saved for later...  a lady's safety is always paramount.  Decide what you think best.  

A token is a nice thing.  
skb

You can always take your cue from there.

Otherwise, the best gift you can give is to be on time, polite, well scrubbed and have the envelope placed where they call for.

If it's a first date, I usually don't bring anything.  I don't know the lady; unless she says she'd like some wine or is out of ketchup (kidding) I don't bring anything  If she is coming to my hotel room, I ask what she would like as refreshment and am sure to have it on hand.

I've usually communicated with the lady what she likes so I'll have that on hand, usually just a bottle of wine, unopened until she arrives. From one ladies blog, I knew she was way into food and deserts, so I made brownies for her.  She turned into my ATF so that worked.  Never made anything for anyone else.

If I'm doing an incall at a hotel, I feel too weird taking flowers or pretty much anything thru the lobby.  I usually arrive at an appointment early and I would feel to conspicuous hanging out in the lobby with any gift waiting for the proper time to "call".  I feel it brings too much attention to me and the lady.

A YANKEES or GIANTS shirt/jersey.


Thank You
XLIII = 4

That would be great!  I need a few new rags to wash my dog with.  She gets so outRAVENously dirty, that it's hard to get her clean just RIGHT.

bring me XXX-rated videos and sex toys

so we can have more fun....

I filled my gift page with things I love from sexy shoes,thigh highs,perfume,xxx-videos,toys

These are tidbits to play with and enjoy during our time together..Every sexual sense can be gratified with the right prop

Gentlemen have brought me great gifts that keep on giving...Pleasure that is

Kisses Haley

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Use them to wash the dog? Kari, you are far too kind. But we already knew that...

They should be used to gingerly pick up the refuse of the dog, then be immediately discarded, before they further contaminate the area. That is a far more appropriate use.

I hadn't thought of anyone drugging a provider before I read the open bottle comment, so it's not something I have given consideration on what to bring a lady.

As far as telling her beforehand... Half the fun is bringing her a little surprise that she doesn't know about. Whether its something from her list, a rose, or whatever.

Do most all of you ladies feel the same way about food? Would you accept it politely then toss it afterward? It sounds as if its something I should wait to do until after I've gotten to know a provider. If you'd seen a gentlemen a few times before would it be something you'd appreciate?

I'll probably just stick with flowers or a small box of chocolates. I did like the idea of surprising a lady with something not quite of the norm though. A token of appreciation as was so nicely said earlier.

I'd love a homemade baked gift! It's be so special =) I love that you'd bake for the girl =)

There are a number of dirty birds making a real mess.
There will be a GIANT clean up conducted which will be completed on 11/16 and all those  birds will be served for lunch.
In the mean time I suggest that you and your dog not look up.

You know I'm RIGHT


Thank You
XLIII = 4

you should ask her if she has any food allergies or dietary restrictions-it would be a shame if you made creme brulee only to discover that she's vegan or has lactose issues.

if she would like something to drink, and perhaps a snack. If I know anything about the lady from the boards or her website, I will bring something along. I have brought scented candles, and packages of assorted massage oils. One lady enjoys the same types of music that I do, and I've brought her some CDs. I treated one special lady to tickets to a football game. She sat next to me and my son, and I had to keep my hands to myself. It was pure torture.

funny you should mention it, because creme brulee is one of the desserts I like to make.

I suppose the simplest thing to do is to contact a potential lady before the date and ask "how do you feel if I made us a dessert surprise? Is there anything you like, dislike or cannot eat?"

It takes some of the surprise and spontaneity out, but not all. I appreciate the thoughts.

The main question however, would be if it would be appreciated? And moreso do you ladies appreciate the little gifts that gentlemen bring that are NOT on your gift list? Something spontaneous and unexpectant?

Am I missing something deep going on here?

It's bound to get more entertaining the closer it gets to game day.

Ah, my dear fellow (or should I say follow), it is you that should not look up.  In a mere three weeks, the skies will darken over New York as the large, black, RAVENous birds swoop in to RIGHTfully destroy those who think they are great.

Renny,
That's an excellent idea, except the shirts are probably too porous for your suggested use. Kinda like the NY teams' defenses!

Then a lady can pick out what she wants. There are so many lovely gifts that clients have bought for me in the past and each one was appreciated, but I hate to think of a gift going to waste. Remember, not all women think alike. And, although I adore candles, flowers and chocolates, I am hypoglycemic and my allergies are getting really bad now.

Plus, unless you already know the lady, it's not a good idea to bake something. Anyone can place drugs in food (no offense). However, the thought of you taking the time to bake is extremely nice and unique.  I'm just being honest. So many people want to do something unusual and truly have the best intentions when getting a gift for someone. But everyone needs to also be realistic.

Hugs,
Ciara





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No offense taken. As I mentioned before, its a thought that had never occured to me. We all try and be safe, and this is just another aspect of that.

When those birds try to swoop in and encroach upon our field they will be sacked, before they can touchdown.

Care for some BBQ wings, I'll prepare the LEFT  ones just for you.

Thank You
XLIII = 4

I always get my aft something, candles, Victoria Secret stuff, flowers, bracelet,and last week was her birthday, so I got her a birthday cake with candles.

But not only are we going to have dinner, but I will have her favorite drinkables at the ready in the room, plus I will have a portrait I will have drawn from one of her pictures on her website. Actually, I already did one, but I don't like it as much. I'm my own worst critic! I know, I know. Asskisser, or too much time on my hands. I just thought it would be cool and different. Anyone can buy flowers.

Would any of you ladies be appreciative of that sort of gift?

BTW, I do intend on kissing her ass. Literally, and figuratively! She's a beautiful lady, inside and out, and should be treated a such!

I'll let you know how it goes....!

Any books?

I can bring a Bible next time...it will be worse than the motivational book I got and better than the financial book. :P~  I have to apologies for that second one.....kinda heavy reading....sorry!


Actually, I have had the books for our next meeting for months, just not found the right opportunity to get them to you yet!

If the lady is coming to my hotel room, I will provide the beverage of her choice, plenty of candles, soft music (iPod), mouthwash, and all the other little things including condoms--just in case she forgot.

If I am going to her place, I will bring a bottle of wine (if she drinks wine), a candle, etc.  I no longer bring flowers because flowers are difficult for the lady to deal with afterwards.  Can you see your ATF leaving her work condo with 3 vases of flowers.  Talk about drawing attention to oneself.

That's ok. Me and Lewis, Ngata, and Suggs will be enjoying a man(ning)wich.  I'm sure in this case I will be up for seconds, and thirds until I am RIGHTfully full.

What kind of drugs were in it?

Usually on a Providers website there is an area where we tell you what type of gifts we would love to recieve..but if your just being a sweetheart, flowers are fantastic, a scented massage oil for her to use on you and you on her, a sensual smelling candle..or if you like and feel that your time was really special..a small tip would work as well..
but just your thought was such a sweet sweet gesture..
Jay

Its a business transaction and YOU are PAYING Her, why would you bring her a gift? It makes no sense on why anyone would give a provider a gift as if its a "real" date.

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Fairly simple really.

I don't want just sex. I want a companion. I don't want all the attention to be on me, although there is plenty of that.

If you wanted just sex, I'm sure you could find it on a street corner or bar for a lot cheaper. However I'm looking for more of the feel of a real, intimate date, with someone I hit it off with, without having to devote the time (which I don't have) to sift through countless dates to find someone I click with, and go through all the frustrating times of her not being in the mood, getting mad or her feelings hurt, bickering over stupid things, meeting her parents, etc.

I'm basically paying a lady to be an ideal date, not just for sex. And for me personally, I enjoy making my date happy. I enjoy bringing a rose out from behind my back, giving her a big hug, and having a nice intimate conversation.

I also think that when you make your "date" happy and feel special, she reciprocates in kind.

Jay- I'm hoping my message is to your reply about what I'm doing for my date coming up here, and the dinner we're going to share and the portrait I'm doing for her. I like to think it is a sweet gesture, and something she hasn't had done for her before. This lady has never seen or met me, but she has been attentive about our meeting each other and I appreciate it. And her! I'm going to be in Vegas for 3 nights, being with her the first night, and wondering if the rest of the time would be a moot point, unless of course I ask her to pack a bag and stay with me until I leave! ~

...nicely-wrapped (of course) but naught else. Most go in the trash right after I leave, but a few ladies have sent me pictures of them wearing it.