I realize that I am in a minority here but I never understood the logic to providers having a boyfriend.  Both professionally and personally a potential form of suicide.  Not only are you playing with fire thinking that he will not be jealous but even more so you are almost playing Russina Roulett with the saftey of your clients.  In light of recent acts of violence attributed to the boyfriend of the provider it is reasonable to conclude that a client is as much at risk.  All it takes is one jealous pyscho deciding if you won't quit he'll make you by threatening your clients or worse fly off into a jealous rage when asked to leave.  I would think providers would realize the nature of the profession doesn't allow for normal dating and either put it off until you no longer provide or get out of the business if it is that important to you to have a boyfriend.  JMHO but what do I know?

With the possible exception of a gun or knife being envolved, I personally have very little concern in this area.  I have been confronted twice in my life by a provider's boyfriend (both times in a neutral setting).  Both times, once I rose to my feet and extended my full 6' 4" heavy-duty frame to its complete extent, the agressor made some quaint verbal remarks and left.  As for the safety of the ladies, let's just say we dealt with that very nicely and nothing happened after the fact.  Changing boyfriends can be a rewarding experience in many cases.

With that said, a few simple precautions are usually in order to protect yourself (the hobbyst) and the lady (the provider) from most problems.  Of course, discrection (sp) is the most obvious element.  Also, frequenting ladies with some level of street smarts and intelligence also helps.  Most encounters in a upper-class hotel are safe when you consider the arrangements that are available.  My preference is to always frequent an out-call arrangement; in-call tends to be somewhat unsafe if a pattern emerges.

Expecting a provider to not have a social life is really impractical.  The important thing from my perspective is that your encounters should offer the most safety possible for all parties.

Just my opinion and I could be wrong.  In this case, I doubt it.

Have a good evening,
Loarthan

LOL ... just kidding ... well, at least i hope so!  


but seriously, this DOES scare me. in fact it's one of the reasons i'm wary of incalls ... the other reason is [gulp] KIDS!

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and now boys-n-girls it's time for yet another installment of ... NAME-THAT-MOVIE(TM) !! ... today's mystery movie quote is:


"... and where exactly IS your boyfriend now?"

I haven't heard that word in ages over here lol Oh well..I guess I will always be a "singleton" for the rest of my life lol

Just joking (I hope not!!!)

Mel

LOL Sasha ...

You make a point to consider, but at the same time you're throwing the baby out with the bath water.   (which, come to think about it ... has that ever really happened?  I mean, wouldn't you hear the 'thunk' sound the baby makes when it hits the ground?)

Anyway .. yes, a jealous boyfriend can be a problem.   As can a jealous client.  Nosey next door neighbors can be a problem, as can anyone on drugs, alcoholics or anyone who owns a Hummer H2.

As you said .. all it takes is one psycho ... but isn't that true about psychos in general?  How are you more at risk than anyone that has a psycho boyfriend - or girlfriend, for that matter?   If you make bad choices in men, you'll have unfortunate results.  Period.  

I've posted before that being the boyfriend of a provider is a bit more problematic than being anyone else's boyfriend.  It has all the same risks that any other relationship has - like when she asks you if this dress makes her look fat.  (helpful hint from someone who's been there: do NOT say "no honey, it doesn't.  It's YOUR HUGE ASS that makes you look fat!")   and then you have the jealousy factor too.   Not to mention the odd hours, the strange toys you find in the most peculiar places around the house, etc.

But dangerous?   You still run a greater danger to yourself by getting Taco Bell at the drive thru.

you DON'T wanna be a "singleton" !  LOL


it hurts to be me!

Never Let Your Left Hand Know What Your Right Hand Do.

This is my personal opinion,  "When thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth: that thine alms may be in secret..." and Trouble won't come your way.

Ruth

All it takes is one jealous woman, and it's all over. This is absolutely ridiculous. Despite what the media and some clients think, some providers have incredibly normal lives. I will not allow this profession to define what I can and cannot do in my personal life. It's JUST a job like anything else. Sure, it's a job where I f*** for money, but at the end of the day, it's a JOB.

Bend ova'! (talking with a thick New England accent now lol). Btw, don't forget to Parrrrrrrrk the Carrrrrrrrrrr, or you will be in more trouble lol

Once a Bostonian always a Bostonian at heart

i am an extremely jealous guy. but in all my life, it has never been the thought of "my" woman sleeping with another man that bothered me, but the thought of her lying to me about it. so if she tells me she's going out with the girls and i find out she's seeing a guy, i go insane. but if she tells me she thinks our waiter has a nice ass and she wants to take him home, i go sit at the bar and give her room to operate. as long as my sex life is good, i know that she loves me, and i know she will end up with me after all is said and done, i'm a happy guy. the thought of "my" girl being strong enough, open enough, and sexy enough to live the life of a provider makes my dick throb

not all guys are violent jealous psychopaths. well, maybe a lot are. but not all, you just have to find us.....

in my ten years in the adult industry, six of them with the same guy (we're married).

When I was a stripper, we met when he was one of my clients in the bar. He was always proud of me. When I did phone, e-mail and video chat at various times, he would stood by to give me hints on my dialogue with clients. When I was a massage girl, he helped me set up the table, oil and sheets before he left. Never been an escort, so I don't know if that would have been different. Probably though.

He has always had to share me a bit with other men, but I had my limits and so did he. As long as I stuck to the parameters we had agreed upon, we had an understanding and he was fine with it. It didn't effect our regular life together at all. We still have children, other jobs, cook and clean, etc just like everyone else. I don't think my job excludes me from deserving a man who loves me, having a companion and a life mate. Everyone deserves that, should they want it.

if you're going to try combining a boyfriend with providing you just have to be exceptionally careful the boyfriend you choose! not many can play the role chris plays for daniella (if indeed that is the relationship they have and i DON'T know that it is!) and perhaps even fewer could relate to you with absolutely no involvement in the providing side of your life. which is not to say it couldn't be done. just not likely. but then, love is never very likely under the best of circumstances. so, bottom line, better safe than sorry where physical danger is involved.

but otherwise, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

I had rather be a toad,
And live upon the vapour of a dungeon,
Than keep a corner in the thing I love
For others' uses.

-Othello

Be safe, ladies, not just with clients, but with boyfriends and husbands too.