Lets say you have an eighteen year old son in some stage of cherry.   I know it is unrealistic to think total virgin at 18 y/o these days, but think of this as a life lesson more than a clinical condition.  Does a truely loving parent you set up the son with a provider?  Or do you let him believe in true love like the lonely lemmies we all were?  Purely hypothetical.

And no I'm not adopting anyone out there!

Most of them would like to feel independence from dad, most especially when it comes to their sex lives.  

Given horniness, an internet connection, and some money, he should be able find his own way to the hobby easily.  Now, whether he knows how to do the homework and keep himself from being arrested or ripped-off is another question...

...and those fellows who think they're the dad.

When I first got into the business, I did a call like this. A guy set up a date for his stepson. I was working thru agency & was unaware of this request until I got there. I had to go in and wake his son up & surprise him. He was from Venezuala. The stepdad said he just had to see my boobs first to make sure what he was getting, lol.

Sara

Of course, that's one thing a step-dad might do more successfully.

as a Mom of 2 sons 17 and almost 20 I think that kids need to experience sex organically....you are crossing BIG boundries and sending them messages of in adequacy...Once one has experienced provider sex, age appropriate liasons will neve match up...

this would make him a better lover in life at an early age so he can get more women by word of mouth advertising by his previous lover

and he will learn soon enough...  Now, if 30 & a virgin?  that is a different!  My dad often wondered and asked me (when I was in my 20s) about my adventures!   Ahhh. those were good days indeed!  and those were great conversations...!  and no providers were involved.

From a provider's point of view, I wouldn't touch it for all the $$$ in the world. Too weird, and too many potential avenues for problems.

Ok I'll confess, why not...

I think I was around 18, just before going to college when my Dad suggested that I ought to consider going to a 'provider' (although didn't use that word if you know what I mean). I don't think he would have set it up, he would have left it to me to figure it out. I told him to drop it and he did, I didn't want him telling me what to do, he did that a lot. He told me he was with lots of girls by my age. It did make me think about it some, esp. when I later went on a trip to vegas. But it did place some pressure on me, and a feeling of inadequacy which I didn't appreciate having coming from my Dad of all people. However to be honest in retrospect, maybe it would have been good for me at that time to have some more confidence in myself. I think really that was what he was trying to help me in. I really don't think there's a good answer, unless of course your morals dictate the answer. I don't think I'd be in this hobby right now if my marriage wasn't hell and sexless; and so even now, honestly, it is helping me build back some confidence with women, among many other things also. And I am so appreciating the provider community right now for this. I am wondering now what hobbyists are truly looking for, it's probably across the board.

set him up with  provider that Bi and then he will get advice  from two perspectives,  "start as a woman and finish as a man"  best advice I ever got.

My dad did the opposite of what your dad did... he said to me "I never had to pay for sex..." and all of my encounters up to about 2 years before my marriage were with civies.  And I had a lot of good sex!  but - as I got older, I just did not want the complications... and discovered hobbying... then I met a lady and got married... thinking that was the end of that!   Wrong.  

long story short, we divorced... and I went back to hobbying... I have too much to try to get into a relationship - if one happens... it just happens... but I am not gonna try to create one.

That is the reason for my post above.  I would not encourage my son to seek a provider - there is just soooo much to learn "on your own"!  I remember my first encounter... the gal gave me a BBBJTCNQNS!  Then we had sex.... rug burns for a week! lol!  the next lady I had sex with was the next week! lol!  and I still remember her! fondly!  And in that encounter - there were no rug burns!

as for what hobbiests are truly looking for?  they are trying to get back into the hole they came out of! hee hee!

True love can, and does happen!

My nephew got married this year, and I am SURE his first experience was on his wedding night.  His younger brother has identified his intended bride, and I wish for him the same.

For some, infidelity, pre-marital sex is not the norm, or even an option, why spoil what they are hoping for!  Let innoscence and sweetness live!

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And that's to say, for free.  I mean, when women reach their sexual peak, some will welcome such dalliances and the chance to show the young guy "the ropes."  For many, it's a fantasy.  Judge that by how often good looking teachers are caught fooling around with their students.  

I'm certain if he looked on the internet, he could find this-- easily.  Part of the good thing about the web.

i got my cherry popped in amsterdam- i was 15 and on a cruise with my family-

i told my parents i was gonna do it- and pops even gave me the cash- it was a bit unsettling running into my parents while walking through red light district, but eventually i found my girl- of course that lasted about five minutes - if that