As I get older, it does become more difficult to maintain an erection in certain positions, and condoms don't help that.  So I find that I am partaking more in oral sex than FS many times, as a way to orgasm.  By that I mean that FS is on the menu, but I usually end up needing oral to finish.

On the same note, I also sometimes find myself being able to go a long time but not coming.  For me, it's not so much about busting the nut, as it were, but the ride itself is just as fun.

But that's just me.  I certainly can't speak for anyone else.

of course it's happening.

I use it occasionally but I've found it doesn't always work if I'm not in the right mood.i have to be craving sex for it to work best.

I did a bit of research and found that hard-ons and orgasms are linked to histamine reactions.  Meaning that you need to build up enough histamines to get some good wood and a great pop.

I have found that the men I see that take ANTI-histamines for allergies have much more trouble getting and maintaining an erection, or getting to their pop.

I had a couple of wonderful gents experiment with me and asked them to not take any anti-histamines 24 hour prior to our love making.  We were both stunned at the results.  The ED problems were a non issue.

I realize that there are many causes for ED but if it could be as simple as not taking your allergy meds for a day I would highly recommend giving it a try.

Hope this helps.

Kisses and wishes for good wood!

Juls

One is related to your overall physical health, and that involves having good blood pressure as well as all the other things your doctor checks for.   If you don't have the tools to do the job, there's no way to get the job done by thinking alone.  For this there is Vitamin V if you need it to get hard.

The other though, is related to mental complacency, and finding sex boring, especially if you partake of a lot of it.  If the mind is not into it, then it's not going to be sending the right signals to the body, no matter how good a shape it is in.  I've read articles based on sexologist and urologist who claim that this is the problem in the majority of sexual dysfunction cases they see.

I have a solution that works for me for the later.

Ocassionally go and find some really disgusting porn that is on the edge of turning you on and revolting you at the same time.  Don't do this daily or even weekly, as the constant repetition will dull the effect.  Once a month is about the most I would advise.

Use these images when having sex and think about doing this with the person you are with while having the sex.

You'd be amazed how the little soldier snaps into action when given those commands.

And, if you feel a bit guilty about it afterwards, just know that that is a sign that it worked.

By the way, it was a shrink who told me about that solution.  Best shrink I ever met.

I have this problem but only when having sex in the evening when I often don't seem to have enough libido to overcome my tiredness. In the morning I wake up as hard as a rock and I'm ready to go.

I'm not sure what this is all about. I'm not a medical professional  but my theory is that it has something to do with testosterone level. I think maybe through the night your body works on building it back up and that's why you wake up ready to go in the morning.

Yes it's more common than you would think...most of my experience with ED is in civvie life...in fact I had a client just this week warn me he sometimes suffered from ED and we had no problems...I joked that, "I'll take that as a compliment!"

Over time the body gets more and more toxic from the food we eat, the air we breathe, the contaminants in water, ect ect.  all of the cells become desensitized because of the compounding problem--especially our most sensitive areas where sensitivity is supposed to be concentrated, which is why if it's not mental, it generally shows up with age.  I find that heavy potsmokers and drinkers have the hardest (or not hardest, da da cha) time with it.  But also women...we become less and less interested in sex as we age as the toxicity affects the hormones as well.
After adopting a very clean diet and doing lots of detoxification regimens I became way more sensitive and after being almost completely uninterested in sex for a couple of years, I reverted back to my teenage slutty tendencies when I got healthy, ha.  I hear the same from men who have changed their diet and cleaned out their colon...vegans are definitely the hardest lovers...and vegans taste better

I have conducted many experiments on my self with great detail in recordkeeping and have come up with a few solutions for ME.
It's no secret that Testosterone helps most men in this area, and the steroid is controlled. I'ts not illegal as most think and you can easily get a prescription from your doc. and the most common doses given from a physician are a little low for purely sexual responses, but usually adequate.
There is also a big difference in libido, erectile dysfunction, and orgasmic response that should be discussed with the doc. and if they won't talk in depth about it, fire them and find one that will.
Most over the counter solutions don't work fast enough to help, but there is one that has worked wonders for me. In my studies of many different steroid compounds and combinations, I have learned to control all three libido, erectile function and orgasmic response, but have found that in a study of nitric oxide, being able to increase it helped to achieve and maintain an erection very well. It is a simple amino acid called L-Arginine and is available OTC at health stores. Most claim it is more effective when stacked with L-Citrulline, another amino acid, but I find that either alone or mixed gives similar results to ME. Google it to find the recommended doses and you will find it all over the board from 1G  to 9G a day, but have found for me, 2G before bedtime, then 2G when I wake up does the trick. L Arginine is a precursor to Nitric Oxide which is responsible for achieving an erection, and it helps transport oxygen through your body to the muscle cells that need it. I find that libido is still required and it will not allow an erection without that, but orgasmic response is not required. In one experiment, I had a full and firm erection for a long time and really punished my girl for a long time but couldn't pop because a compound was blocking that response.
I am no doctor, but the studies I have done are invaluable because there are few studies like it because of the moral and ethical tone of our government.
PM me for more, but be aware that all advice is hypothetical and potentially only effective on ME.

I tend to see clients a little older, so I have seen it, but I also know men can cum with out being hard too so