Something you look for when seeking a long term relationship - wife or girlfriend . What when a provider shows up and provide you all the services she offers ,bbj,kissing etc. Why the complaint by some peope even after that,saying - "we did not have chemistry ". Are you talking about enthusiasm ?
So , a provider who is on my radar for 2025 , recently got a review in which all other scores were high but one 3/10 - because the reviewer claimed they did not have chemistry.
I’m only interested in sharing my time with people who have empathy as a human being.
I like that. I think this is first and foremost. Dissapointing that some people doesn't offer empathy and sad that unfortunately some doesnt deserve it. But can be magical when both people are in sync.
but it pretty much means, for me, that it was a fun and interactive session. It's not just about the physical acts. If we don't have some type of positive, not merely neutral, interaction on a mental/emotional level the physical sex for me just is nothing better than masturbation; for me that is not at all satisfying.
And, no, I don't think I can tell the provider at the start "do all these things this way" and get the result I want. Needs to be more collaborative than that.
I suspect, assuming you get many other responses, that you'll not get any great clarity on the term having some general or standard meaning, much like with GFE. But might be interesting to see what the range might be.
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and I'm glad it is.
Nothing destroys a sacred thing faster than trying to analyze it.
I know it when it's there, and that's good enough for me.
Hmmm ... I wonder what mrfisher means by his comment. I'm going to try to analyze it.
with you-know-who.
Mikey and I applauded.
Christine McIntyre was a classically trained opera singer. That is really her voice!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christine_McIntyre
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fr%C3%BChlingsstimmen
Ah des Frühlings Stimmen klingen traut,
ah ja, ah ja ah o süßer Laut,
ah ah ah ah ach ja!
So it's something that you feel but cannot define. Well indeed, it could means different things to different people.
Nothing destroys a sacred thing faster than trying to analyze it.
Just saying.
would be "If it ain't broke don't fit it". One hardly needs to try rejecting that view with "this fucking thing is broken, don't tell me not to fix it".
... she invites you to come back soon and you realize she really means YOU and not your WALLET.
Life is good
The Cat
It happens.
without your wallet, it's unlikely she will made the mistake of asking you again. Lol
I thought chemistry was bullshit when I was young. I could fuck anything that moved 😝. Now I’m more mature if I don’t like her attitude or dumb shit she posts I won’t even bother. I tend to book longer appointments so if she isn’t interesting it’s not worth it to me. I tend to stay away from young 20 something’s also simply because I’m older and prefer women with life’s battle scars.
Love women in their late 30's, all of 40's and 50's. The 40's is my sweet spot so far.
.. Sometimes when your digestive system is working the way it should, taking a dump is effortless. It's smooth.. Conversation,, Sex.. .. Everything is effortless.. The whole communication is smooth.. That's chemistry baby..
Unlike the two extremes where you either have constipation (too much opioids) or Diarrhea (too much Taco Bell). The former is where you are just not a good match, and the latter one is where she is just bat shit crazy.
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Isn't she just good at her job though ? You're not wrong about what chemistry means to you however. A free flowing relationships where both people are thinking alike is probably a close definition ,if there can be one.
And yet feels like it's fairly quantifiable. It happens between people, even with non-romantics relationship. Ie "clicking". Which may include thinking and acting in similar or complementary manner.
In context of hobby, Ive met providers who would have great skills and service but we wouldn't click that much. Part of it might be because of language barrier, but there is still no "clicking". They are great at their job, but may lack IOP or the other extreme - overact in IOP so then the experience is clearly overexaggerated.
I love service so these providers are always in my rotation and all, but I probably will repeat less than with providers I click who might have worse (but still solid) service. I tend to give providers with such chemistry high attitude grades.
A good litmus test for me is how often awkward silence comes up (I see mostly kgirls so language barrier is a thing too but nonetheless). Some providers are just fun to be with and are on the same wavelength as people. You speak the same language in terms of interaction even if you can't speak the spoken language. Awkward silence is never a thing after the initial meeting, if we click.
I also like the word "click".
When each person thinks the other one is cool and the comfort level starts and just takes off!
As you open up to each other, there is an Overwhelming feeling that this person looks at things the same as you!
As far as "all over you", well IMO, it ain't about the sex, but it can take the session through the roof!
She has to look like someone that I would want to date and seek a relationship in "real life". Obviously, the physical attraction has to be there, but she also has to make me really feel like she's that "gem" in the rough. You know, the gal you saw while walking down the street to your office, or while out shopping, etc. I tend to like my "ideal" to be a little done up. Many Korean gals in the NO VA area fit the bill. I see plenty of other Asian gals, but they literally look like they just got up and ran out the door. (wife used to doll up a little, but completely stopped when our son was born). Korean gals (unless they're school aged gals) are well put-together when they're single and also when they're hitched. Maybe that's also why I'm hooked on the K-dramas on Netflix, LOL.
So, I guess chemistry is more or less a physical attraction for me + a little something else?
will downgrade a provider's scores based on a lack of chemistry. There are two criteria for awarding numerical scores, appearance and service, while "chemistry" is one of the enhancements SEPARATELY awarded one to five stars, as is "location." These enhancements figure into the total as only a fraction of the weight given to appearance and location, so THIS IS WHERE YOU CAN EXPRESS YOUR DISAPPOINTMENT ABOUT THE CHEMISTRY. It should not be by raising or lowering the numerical score.
Anytime a reviewer shows that he has counted "chemistry", or lack thereof in his numerical scores, I disregard ALL of his reviews as unreliable because he doesn't understand review scoring. When I encounter a lack of chemistry, which admittedly is rare, I merely state that she is not a repeat for me, but I do not adjust her score for appearance or service. It's amazing that there are reviewers that do not understand what appearance or service is for review scoring purposes.
Chemistry is the connection you have with someone's personality, it has nothing to do with looks or any sexual activities that were achieved. Obviously in this industry you are only spending an hour or two with someone, so you are not going to get a very large range of their personality unless you are a long time client or see them multiple times. I have a very strong type A personality, so if the guy has this as well we are probably not going to mesh well. I have also had sessions with guys that I thought were super clunky and awkward and did not expect to ever hear from him again, and then he reaches out to rebook because he said he had a great time! So, obviously both people may not have the same interpretation of chemistry either. I would never say that if I did not think I had chemistry with a guy that it was "bad", it just is what it is. I don't think it is something that can be faked either. You either have it with someone or you don't.
Because it's the total package. Obviously it encompasses more than looks, but I can't imagine having chemistry with someone whose looks did not appeal to me. It's about the total package.
Well, you are speaking from the male perspective, which is highly visual, women are not. I can appreciate a client who is good looking, but that has no determining factor if I enjoy being with him or feel like we "connected" during sex or even just talking. I also think if a woman is very pretty and attractive guys will give her WAY more leeway when it comes to attitude and chemistry. But again, men are very visual creatures.
And I certainly fall in that category. Thanks for a very valid addition to the discussion.
Less for a valid addition, more of a "no shit.. Sherlock.." post by Scarlett.
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outside have often confessed that they also prefer someone who is visually attractive and that it sometimes makes the session like a hot random encounter rather than a paying customer that they have to fake it with. It's not just men who are visual. There are even providers here who limit their profile menu with men who may be overweight or unattractive, which automatically tips a customer off to lack of chemistry. However, a review allows a customer to put things back into balance, but he needs to do it properly. As I said above, chemistry should not affect the numerical score for appearance or service.
While I sure do appreciate looks (and I agree men are very visual) I value passion (even if it's IOP) and personality more in recent years. I've had amazing times with women who are average looking but had amazing personalities.
Fortunately Miss Scarlett has both going for her.
I guess I'm not as visual as others.
Every single female Ive had chemistry with, no matter our relationship, appeared more attractive to me than she really is/was. It's hard to explain.
I am also one of the people who will always choose someone with more chemistry and less attractive (objectively) than a very attractive but boring with no chemistry and/or attitude having provider.
1. The Experience (everyone has their own expectations)
2. Value (yes it matters, but the $ for looks doesn't mean better experience)
3. Performance (gets the little head to pop and the connection)
You will find (know) when you reach the right chemistry mix...
It takes many iterations and that's the fun part of the chemistry experiment. 😆
One extremely beautiful provider I saw in decade past , never watched the clock and if we went over by 10-15mins , she was totally cool with it
She showed me photos on her phone of stuff she did, talked about her life.
Once I dropped her off to a photo shoot that was just like a few miles away. She was calling an uber but I insisted
Small things like that.
We both knew it was pay for play, but I felt like a friend during the time I was with her - didn’t feel like I was paying for an escort
That’s when I felt “chemistry” — it is rare, and many others I saw didn’t measure up, but when you find someone like that you want to relive the experience again and again
It's just a measure of how well two people got along. It's subjective. I've met women and we instantly clicked, and other times I knew very quickly I'd never see them again.
It doesn't mean they're not good people. It just means we didn't have a connection.
They might meet someone else who thinks they're the best providers ever.
As a provider it’s my job to get along with my clients. Sometimes this takes a lot of effort when the client is not so nice or has drastically different opinions and views, or as some have mentioned, you just don’t “click”. Those sessions are when you really need to work to provide top service.
Other times you find your partner throughly enjoyable. Time flies by and you may be sad when your session is over. If you repeat, you look forward to seeing them again. There is no effort required to be in the moment, in fact you find it relaxing. In my mind that’s chemistry.
I’ve been blessed with special relationships with gentlemen with whom I have experienced chemistry over the years. This is one of the highlights of this profession.
I usually know in the first 10 minutes if I plan on repeating.
well, a lot of posts and outlook on a definition!
Simply put, it's when you both "get along with each other"!