that will posess a man to go Spend Money to get laid just for the sake of getting laid?
Let me explain.. I just read a review of a gal. The gent stated that her incall smelled of cigarette smoke and urine. He also made reference that she looked nothing like her pictures and although it was probably her, she was much, much older than her pictures portrayed. The place was filthy and he was totally uncomfortable with his surroundings. But he made this statement..."I was about ready to leave, but I thought what the hell, it's only $200". Good Christ...ONLY $200? This is not the first time I have read a comment such as this. If you ask me $200 is alot of money. I can think of many things more enjoyable to spend $200 on than a provider who misrepresents themslves and working in a dirty enviroment. Hell, he could have taken care of himself for free.
I was also thinking this is the kind of gent I would be very hesitant in seeing myself. For me the experiences are special. Some naughty, some romantic, some just downright a romp fest. But to see someone who just wants to get laid just for the sake of it actually turns me off. Now I am not saying I am looking for romantic involvement or anything further than the time we are together, (although I am fortunate to have met some incredible friends) but damn I would love to know someone wants to see me for a specific reason.
Guys, it seems to me that your money is hard earned in most cases. And there are those of us who strive to make the most of the time we spend with you. We invest alot of time and money in making ourselves desireable to you. Why would you settle for pissing away that kind of cash on an experience that is sub-standard at best?
Maybe it is not for me to ask why. I am just curious as I see these kinds of experiences not only in this review database but many others. I am always curious about the human condition and mabey some of you gents can enlighten me on this one....
xoxox
Lass
Well, you know Lass, we as men, are at times just plain pigs. This is what happens when the wrong head is in charge of the thought process. Maybe he figured that a bad romp was better then no romp at all?? And money, as many other things, is a relative term(so to speak). i agree, $200 is a good chuck of change. Unless i'm at the Harley shop. It never seems to go to far there.lol. To him, it might just be the lint and change in his pockets, you never know.
As far as taking care of himself for free....hummmmm. Buying yourself flowers, taking the left hand(or right,as the case may be) out to dinner and a movie on a Saturday night. Never letting the right hand know what's going on because it gets jealous. It can get to be drag sometimes!! Hehehehehehehehe.
So for me if the environment is not clean, the lady smells overly smoky, or personal hygiene is lacking, I move on immediately.
It's why I prefer to meet ladies at my home, and if I am meeting a lady at her designated location I have no problem with letting her know that the location/environment is not acceptable. I do it politely as possible, and without being judgmental.
I have only had one problem when I turned to leave, and I dealt with it immediately and decisively. I have only left on two other occasions, which I can say is due largely in part to TER and the reviews, and my own particular brand of paranoia.
HPG
What does that mean? What happened and what exactly did you do about it? Just curious..
As I was leaving a man who must have come out of the provider's apartment grabbed my arm and threatened me, I threw him down the flight of stairs in front of me. I left.
I spent more than that on a new phone today because I wanted a smaller one (I wish I could do that with other things). Then proceeded to blow about that much on dinner and drinks for the evening (Vegas can be hazardous). I didn't even bring the little head into play and spent more that 200.
I agree with your feeling though; if I walked in to that situation, I would turn around and use the money for much more enjoyable things.
ugggghhh if it is that bad, then I would have left.
Sometimes, people do look different (I know I look better in person than pics)(smile) or an agency might switch up the girl, but I agree, 200 is A LOT of money. The last time I looked money does not grow on trees.
Shaye
...and only enough blood to run one at a time.
Haz
The way I look at it, each of my evening spent with a lady is a date. Candlelight, drinks, flowers are all definites. I am putting my best foot forward in hopes that we will hit it off. Almost every single lady I have ever met does the same. It's all about the experience.
..that 75% is the experiance(ambiance, mood, connection between two people) and 25% is the sex. When I first started I thought it was the other way around..I think my repeat friends come back for something deeper than a romp in the sack
When I was a very young man, it was all about the slamming and the bamming. But I have found over the years that spending time with a lady, and truly enjoying that time, involves both of my male heads in more or less equal proportion. If I can't roll off and have someone to talk to and something to talk about, then the sex is not very satisfying. That's the advantage mature providers have over Barbie Dolls (for the most part, and I am sure that there are some very intelligent Barbies out there as well).
That's why I started reading provider web sites for literacy and items that strike a chord between my ears as well as between my legs. I've been very fortunate to meet up with some of the greatest of all providers, including the originator of this thread.
Huey, when you get to Vegas next week remember that, and have lots of fun too.
F.
There is no question that the sexual experience for those of us alittle older involves more than just the physical. Unfortunately the people that edit our reviews don't see it that way, and rate providers simply on what they do physically...
completely discounting the other aspects of what a provider does during an encounter. Flowers, music, candles, wine. THings that a provider might bring to enhance an experience don't earn points. ANd mental conversation and humor forget it.. Hell I am a neanderthal, and a 10 is only a 10 if she does A, B, and C...
Remember kids, stay within the lines. You must draw within the lines....
...I think you're right Ali--the first time a guy sees an escort it's for sex, when they return they're looking for something more.
Ali; You have really "got it".
Let the kids and the variety junkies wander aimlessly.
A TRULY great time begins with friends.
I've only been in this hobby for a couple of months but the quality and caliber of ladies that I have seen has been extraoridinary. I can't imagine running into a situation where I would just want to turn and leave, but if I do I will and save my money for a different lady. Its not all about sex, I can masturbate with better results, its about campanionship, mutual respect and, of course, non-judgemental intimacy which includes sex.
I am not filthy rich. I am not rich. And I most definitely am not filthy. I personally refuse to see anyone who cares so little about themselves that they would a) choose to live in such an atmosphere or b) subject a client to that atmosphere. While $200 is at the lower end of the rate scale (at least in SoCal) it is still a chunk of change, and I need to know for myself that I will enjoy what that $$ brings me. I try to stick to well-reviewed providers for just that reason. I can't afford a lot of "mistakes". So I will avoid any provider where the comments include "messy", "smell of urine" or "smelled of smoke" among others. Of course, as Dennis Miller says, that's just my opinion. I could be wrong.
Lack of reasearch, inexperience, bad manners, having more money then brains, thinking with the wrong head or rather not thinking at all.
Speaking for myself of course....there's one very special lady that can be all things, romantic, naughty and just plain ole' sexy, and I miss her a lot! No way is 'just getting laid' a part of the encounters, thank godness! ))))) Miss ya!
Count me with the majority on this one, I am a "newbie" to this hobby also, and while there is nothing wrong (IMO) with sex without commitment, sex without romance, and without connecting with your partner on more than a genital level is completely unacceptable!
"What is it that will posess a man to go Spend Money to get laid just for the sake of getting laid?"
There are many different reasons why men become Hobbyists. And for each Hobbyist, our reasons for engaging in it can be different at different times. Sometimes I want a GFE that will make me warm and fuzzy all the way home (and for days afterwards). Sometimes I just want to have nasty sex with a total stranger who I might never see again.
As to the scenario you described, all the comments about thinking with the wrong head pretty much sum it up.
Hope that helps.
I think it's a question Too deep to answer......
I'm not sure we can ever REALLY know. If we did there would be answers to why the most powerful man in the world would risk his Presidency, marriage, family and everything to do some Nasty with an intern while knowing he is being watched and judged by his every action and do what he did. Think about Any profession....Clergy, Politics, Law, Medicine, Customer Service ect.... Every single one will have a SEX scandal. Some will envolve sex for money and some not. All risk serious consequences! I remember watching an episode of COPS and watching the cops Bust an old man, I think he was 70, for soliciting prostitution. The cop asked him why he did it and he said his wife had died a couple of years earlier after a long battle with cancer and he just wanted to be with a woman. I wish there were a way I could have bought him a trip to Nevada and turn him loose to find what he needed....Charlie Sheen said, when asked why he spent 50k on sex with Heidi's girls he replied " I didn't pay for sex... I paid them to leave" or something like that . The reason I posted this is because the question made me look at myself and wonder... What is it REALLY for Me?
Celtic,
I agree and that's why I joined TER to get RELIABLE information about the providers. Well, regardless the $$ at least he told us she isn't the type she described on the web. How about writing another review on her so other gals won't fall into the same pitfall.
For years my girlfriends have been critizing me for going shopping with them and then turning around the next day and returning everything I had purchased the day before they would call me names like cheap or schitzo for my behavior. Recently on dealing with ADD I read that ADD's have a compulsive to the point that they feel like they can't breath if they don't need to shop. To deal with it the doctor reccommened using credit cards and leaving items in tact so you could return them the next day when the attack subsided. Should I show this to my so called friends nah I'll just let em keep thinking I'm schitzo they way I see it I've learned a lesson about friendship. To bad providers sessions are not returnable as I am certain more than a few have fallen into this catagory.