Something i have always been curious about are those who have managed to find a friend with benefits (e.g. F-Buddy). Not a pay for play situation, but a real friends with benefits kind of deal, where you both get together now and then for great sex, and when finished, you roll out of bed for home, no questions asked, no "when are you gonna call me", no recriminations, heck maybe she even asks you if you have gotten any great pussy lately, and if so, what was good about it. Maybe the girl is somebody you know at work. Maybe she is the demur local librarian that loves to scream when she cums. Given all the guys out there, especially on this board, lets hear about it. Tell us all your story. How did you meet her, what did she look like, how long did you get to bang her, and how does it compare to the P4P glrls on the TER board. Is it still ongoing or did it stop and why? Could be some interesting tales (or is that tails) out there!
issues to consider. If I wanted casual sex for free, I would not be a hooker. It is almost like working for an ice cream store, then wanting more ice cream when you get home...nah. For guys, I can't imagine anyone who is married would even consider this for very long...too many things can happen, she owes you ZERO discretion, and accoutability. You just might find your name and photo in the "men seeking men section" of CL, if you fk with the wrong one and she falls in love. For single people, they just have to worry about the getting attached thing. I have entertained these type deals for a short while when I was in my early 20s...of no interst to me whatsoever now.
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I once had a fuck buddy that I met in a casino (go figure) where she was a cocktail waitress. I was with someone the night we met so nothing happened, but she left me her phone number. We hooked up the next time I came to town, and we continued to hook up every 2-3 months for years. She never asked me for a nickel, nor did I ever get any of those needy, late night calls whenever she had a problem, just great NSA sex for years.
It finally ended when a friend of mine (female) "stole" her from me. No hard feeling, she ended up with the bad end of the deal. My ex fuck buddy who never asked me for a thing treated her new GF just like a "sugar baby/sugar momma relationship and constantly badgered her for money, and help with her personal problems. I just love it when "equal rights" are truly equal. lmao
ok now thats what I am talking about. Cool story and sounds like you got some banging sex without the baggage.
If I only saw a guy say everytime I went to x city, sure that might work..just not now. The last thing I need is yet another "d*ck" in my life bwahahaha. Hell, I practically did that with an ex for 3 years. We only saw each other like twice a month, but even still he was only 2 hours away..bit too close, and I fell hard.
I did find it ironic how our relationship was completely NSA, but when she hooked up with my female friend she turned all needy and clingy, even from 300 miles away.
It really was funny when they first got together, they both denied it, but it was pretty obvious, and I didn't have any emotional involvement, plus I had been seeing her for quite some time and she was getting a bit old for me. Yes, I am THAT shallow. lol
Thinking back on it though, my FB and I had a relationship of sorts that lasted about 7-8 years, the "real" relationship that they had burned out after a year or so. Maybe there is something to keeping emotion out of ones sex life?
Dear Ms. Rayne:
Would it be so good that at times it could be addictive? Also with respect to your inbox and your hobby phone do you think that it is now time to box and shelve the natural goodness between your legs? Hey you've got them open you really should capitalize like the porn stars who have a mold of their vaginas.
Nah...I want to be remembered for more than a tiny vagina. Think I will mold my big ass mouth!
I have 2 ladies I do this with.
I'll admit. One of the ladies is married. I see her about once a week. Her husband is constantly out of town ... at least thats the story I get from her.
The other is one of my ex-wife's best friends. We usually get together about once a week too. Since I still hook up with my ex about once a month, she likes to keep it completely secret too. I don't even ever take her out in public, although I'm more than willing to do so. I'm glad my ex liked to tell all her friends about our sex life. It's gotten me laid several times since my divorce...lol.
So far so good, both ladies have other men in their lives to bother with the everyday mundane bullshit.
It actually worked for me and is the reason I started this biz.
I literally had no interest in the FWB and he felt the same way. We didn't even kiss.
So weird but I guess at times, I can be like a guy in that way.
The effects of oxytocin can be powerful.
what's in it for me??
Sure, I enjoy orgasms, but I can give them to myself.
Why do I need a man to give them to me, if he's not going to do anything else for me?
Nope. It's only pay for play, or play for love, for me. No more play for free. Totally not worth it.
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I had a FWB thing going a couple of years ago for about 6 months, then she just wigged out. I don't need that in my life.
If someone can make it work, then God bless them.
Someone very near and dear to me is in that kind of relationship now, but from what they tell me it is full of drama. He is doing OK with it for now, but who knows for the future.
I like to keep it simple; slip them the envelope; enjoy the time.
Nature needs balance after all.
fix some shit around the house and take me shopping bwahahaha, so I don't feel used. Just saying.
It's more than the orgasm? What if I were to come to your house and fix things that had been a problem. What if I made you laugh? What if you just enjoyed my company and we would watch movies? What if the DATY was the best you ever had?
Oh and hush, lol
FYI, I will never tell.
Yup he's been my ex for about 6 years now. I was deeply in love with him but it just faded away between both us. We have two children together, but we both don't say that's why we stayed friends. We call each other best friends. I call him my best gf. He has his gfs that he asks me to "approve" to see if they are right for each other lol and he knows what I do for a living and gives me great advice.
Hes his way and Im my way but we just can't stop the great sex! We're both going nuts right now because he has a new gf and we haven't gotten any from eachother in a few weeks!! Crazy stuff no?! Lol
with a former provider no less. But one day it ended very abruptly. She never explained why it ended she just ended it.
I think that the alleged lack of commitment and romance leads to non discussion of any problems. Either that or she just found somebody better.
I mis her though. The funny thing is that another guy around here indicated to me that he is in such a relationship. Who knows maybe he was my replacement.
just sex , shoot I can take care of that myself. Usually someone wants a tad more and that's human nature. Usually the lady though. Guys tend to be more about the sex and can deal with just that.
And then sometimes the sex gets boring and then one drops off the planet...who knows. I know I prefer a little more than just mutual friction.
People here fuck around all the time. I don't know how whether that applies to every other part of the country, but for the city I live in, it's rampant.
I've had many of those over the years, and it's nice if you can keep it that way, but the real danger is that one person falls for the other, and feelings get hurt. And that's usually the way it ends up. I've had maybe a dozen FWB relationships in my decade or so here, and I would say that maybe only two or three actually ended nicely, without either side feeling hurt.
My friend Annie is probably the closest to that. We don't hook up much anymore, but she was always very cool about it over the five years or so I have known her. It's never drama. It's always..."Hey, I'm in LA," or "Hey, I'm in NYC," and then we figure out a time if we can meet. If it doesn't happen, no one gets hurt, and if it does, we have fun, fuck around, and then hug and see each other next time. There's nothing above and beyond that, and there never will be. And that's fine. But that's a lot more rare.
Annie is tall, blonde, and busty, and looks like a hot stripper. I met her at a bar during a happy hour, got her number, and kept in touch. We went out a few times, got a little hammered, hooked up, and then kept kinda doing it off and on over the next five years. She has fun, I have fun, and that's that.
She knows I'm getting more serious about a girl now, and that's fine. She says she happy for me, and I believe her. Next time she's in town, we'll just go to dinner or a movie or something.