Unique experience recently, wondering what others think.  Large East coast city, large atrium style hotel, keycard required for elevators.  One of several hotels within the same chain in the city, hotel does have  a distinctive name which I sent via email 2 or 3 times.  2 hour outcall arranged via email few days prior, 50% deposit sent 2 days prior via Wishtender (10% fee, she emailed that it’s good for providers and she doesn’t use other apps), screening info requested 24 hours prior to meeting and 8 hours after deposit sent, agreed that we would meet in the room, text messages exchanged during the day prior to evening meeting including 2 hours prior (to confirm).  

You're asking us to guess, but I'll go with scam.

Are you telling us everything?

This has scam written all over it. Giving a deposit is a risky endeavor, but a 50% deposit is a huge gamble! If she doesn't return the deposit then out her. It does no good for the rest of the community to fall victim to the same unfortunate situation you encountered. Sorry that you had to go through that bro.

So someone or even a security guard says to a guest, "I'm sorry, you need a keycard to access the upper floors."
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"Oh. I didn't know. I'm just visiting my cousin (or is he my uncle? former college prof? whatever ...) from Sheboygan who arrived yesterday."
"I'm sorry, miss. You still need a key card."
"OK. I'll just call him from the lobby and he'll come down. We're going out to a restaurant anyway."
"What is their name ...?"
"No problem, you can go back to work guarding the elevators. I've got their cell phone on redial! Thank you, anyway!"
(If necessary, ...) "I better step out to the sidewalk, I don't have a good cell signal in the lobby."
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It sounds like a scam to me and that she was nowhere near your hotel.
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Imagine: You, from the sidewalk: "All the streets are blocked off due to a fire, a robbery, and a visit from the Pope. Traffic hasn't moved an inch for at least 15 minutes. Pay the cabbie, hop out and come back."  
Her: "Hello? Hello? Bad cell signal. You're breaking up. Bye-eeee!"

Possibility number one is she went to the wrong hotel. I done it once but it was an easy fix and the mistake. I have my doubts this is mistake is what happened as it is an easy fix. My appointment still happened 15 minutes later. Oops.

What happened is that you got scammed.  Wake up sunshine.  

Nice to see you posting here again. Hope all's well. Stick around.

what's with you going to the hotel's security?

Every time you leave the house you risk getting video tapped that’s life these days. The key to enter is not a big ass deal. She could have just text & waited for you to escort her upstairs. I’m not missing out on a date because of these lame excuses. I feel bad for you because you sound, like an ideal date. Sorry love. Happy New Year!  

Another poster already noted that you didn’t give your provider a heads up about the key card.  Seems like you forgot a key detail in a detail laden plan to meet up with her.

I set up a meeting with an ongoing sugar baby I had been seeing off and on for several years. She was planning a trip to SF with her family and I suggested I book a room at the same hotel so she could slip out of the room and come to my room for fun.  She gave me the name of the hotel as "chain name" in San Francisco.  I booked a room at the San Francisco "Chain name" and confirmed with her.  

I don't hobby as much now days so I don't come on as much.

Who kicks people out and threatens to call the police for someone not simply having a key card?
On the east coast too?

Thank you all for the insightful comments.  After 20-25 years of TER membership this was one of very few scams for me and certainly the most egregious.  I too avoid deposits, my failing in this situation was making plans on very short notice, not contacting other options, and believing her TER reviews (6 reviews, all from May to November 2023, 9.3 average).  Thanks again everyone.      

if you don't hobby as much, you don't come as much.  Lol

Good to see you. Happy New Year. I’m not on here much anymore either. I hardly ever post nowadays and pop in to read once in a while.  Just happened to pop in today and saw your name!

So the aunt was acting as the SBs booker??

The aunt wasn't involved, as far as I know.  This was a Pinay SB, and if you've ever known Filippino's you know that designations like "sister" and "aunt" are rarely literal.  I was only communicating with the SB.  We continued to meet for several years after that.  

Unsure if this was a scam, but I never, as in never, walk through a lobby of a hotel by myself. If you want me to meet you at a hotel for an outcall I will, but I will only do so if you meet me in the parking lot and we walk in together. She may did not want to admit that she went to the wrong hotel and was embarrassed. If you have no desire to see her again, why do you keep contacting her to apologize? Are you trying to get your deposit back?

I can’t say for sure it was an intentional scam—maybe she DID show up and found out about the elevators needing keys and freaked out about wandering the hotel and looking like she obviously was not a guest. I have met other providers who are overly paranoid they’re being set up or they’re gonna be arrested. Maybe it’s meth, or maybe they’re normal suburban soccer moms who would die if anyone found out what she’s doing. Maybe she just embellished the part about the confrontation with security?  I find it hard to believe that upscale hotel chains would act that draconian towards a well dressed woman meeting a friend. I’m sure they want to watch out for trafficking, but that’s probably more of an issue for incalls than outcalls, or if the girl was obviously young and dressed whorish, which it sounds like she was not. Either way, you should get your deposit back. Have you directly asked for it back or to apply it to another appt? (Maybe Incall this time?). If she won’t give it back, then YES, definitely name her and review that she stole a few hundred dollars from you. If only to warn other guys. The purpose of the deposit is not free money to keep if you have any uncomfortable feelings about how the logistics or meeting is going. There are many other ways she could have handled that better, most obviously that she could’ve just called you from the lobby. I definitely don’t believe things happened the way she explained, but if she is that flighty she is probably in the wrong profession and is going to find other reasons to keep deposits when things don’t go perfectly. BTW this is another reason I generally don’t do deposits, even from well reviewed ladies who obviously do provide services. The thing is, once they already have the cash (especially 100% of a 1 hour visit!) , they have much less incentive to follow through, even if they really did initially intend to. Obviously they can’t keep going on very long if they were to do this full time, but a certain percentage of visits, where something didn’t go perfectly and they can blame the client? Sure. One of the few times I did pay a deposit was for a traveling lady who had lots of reviews, most of them great. I paid $200 and then was ghosted. I don’t even think she came to my city—the last review was a couple months before her supposed visit. Now it looks like she just does onlyfans.