Once you go down one road or the other, it's hard to change back.

I decided to go the route of having the gals know who I am.  I decided to see only well reviewed providers and am very picky, so I figured I wouldn't have to worry about the anonymity.  Fortunately, I haven't yet had a bad experience to write about.

This way providers are more open to seeing me, which is the biggest plus.

If I was more of a mind to see lots of gals with few or no reviews, I would have gone the other route.

There's no wrong decision per se.  It's up to the individual.

They already know your real name, most likely.  Do they need to know your fake ones too?  With the over whelming desire to use multiple aliases here, why not give them one of those.  I mean if they aren't too precious.  You could make up an extra alias just for a provider.  If her name is Mary, call yourself MaryFan4Ever and post with it a few times.

In this age of computers and other such equipment,nothing is hidden!
I quess i am more open than most,so no,i don't try and conceal my handle!
I am single and live alone,so concealment is not as big of an issue,as it might be for some.

My TER handle has often made the screening process much easier, along with Date-Check and P411. I've also been fortunate enough with the ladies that I've seen, so I haven't had to write any bad reviews since early on. Several of the ladies I've met in the past few years have been ones that our first contact was on these boards. After a little electronic flirting, we knew each other's handles anyway, and it's worked out very nicely for me.

I am a low-turnover hobbyist. Most of my appointments are with women I've already seen. So far this year, I have had 2 not-before-seen sex partners; one of whom was a provider.

Because of that low turnover, I can invest the effort in making sure any woman I see will be a good experience. So I simply do not have bad experiences with providers; therefore giving them my ter handle has no real down side.

Any lady I book off of ter is someone who has communicated with me on the boards, therefore she already knows my handle. Hiding it would be impossible.

If I book someone who is not active on the discussion boards on ter; I do not give her my handle.

I don't give her my handle because my philosophy is quite different from that of Penis Captivis Girl; perhaps because I am an unusual client.

I am different sexually with every provider I see. Markedly different. For a provider to read my reviews and then try to imitate what someone else did that I may have enjoyed is to sell herself short. What I enjoy with one woman I might not enjoy with another. Every woman is different and I react to her differently. So I don't want providers prejudiced by my reviews.

Furthermore, I have seen some REALLY fantastic providers. IMO, some of the best that exist. Looking at the reviews of some of those ladies might cause a lady to give up hope. LOL So I actually prefer that ladies NOT read my reviews.

As another poster mentioned, I am single and have nothing to hide, and I think, as also mentioned, allowing my handle to be known by providers lets them know I am safe.  They also can see my whitelist references, read my infrequent posts, and get a general idea of who I am, and know my reputation on the board.

If you choose your providers carefully, with proper research, you should not have to write a bad review, unless circumstances just go whacko and you have no choice.  And we have read those horror stories about dates gone wrong, haven't we?
Some dates are going to be better than others, that's a given, but if you do your research correctly, hopefully you won't have the need to write a bad review.

To be honest, I don't quite understand why some guys feel like they have to hide their handle from the ladies.  It just seems to me, the benefits of them knowing it would outweigh the detriments.  But, everyone's situation and outlook on this matter is different.

Swim

I contact them through P411, and almost none of them even bother to check my profile. Only two girls have asked me for a board handle, but that was after I posted a review. I didn't have a problem giving it to them because they were positive reviews.

Very few local providers use TER, so my TER handle wouldn't mean anything to the vast majority of them.

Aside from Mister Fisher, who laid out a case for not sharing (even though he does), the rest of you don't mind at all--in fact, you love the benefits garnered from sharing your handle with providers.

Hmm, maybe some other experienced hobbyists will chime in here and say, "Don't do it, kid!  You'll never forgive yourself!"  Lol  If you're out there, please post to bring some balance to this discussion.

mostly because most of my dates do not take it as a reference so what would be the point of me volunteering it?. Besides, I want to be able to post honest reviews without being attacked by such providers...there are too many providers that put too much weight on the reviews and will do anything to keep their profile spotless.

After having a couple of incidents come back to bite me, I try to avoid giving out my TER handle.  Most of the time it will be fine, but you never know - until it is too late - whether you are going to end up regretting it.

Many providers treat their review scores as if each one had to be a mini-advertisement for them.  Honesty is not always appreciated.  I am not even talking about reactions to harsh reviews.  I am talking about reactions to an 8/8 review that explains that I had a good time - but apparently that is not good enough for some ladies out there.

I would advise against it if you have any other recourse for screening.

She knows, she doesn't know, whatever.

Fuck her board presence, what good is that? Slander is a two way street. She can air shit out on the boards if she wants, and you could just as easily return the favor and put her on blast.

Doing your homework before ever winding up in a room with her tends to alleviate the need to write less than flattering reviews anyway. If not, so be it, don't write one at all if you're scared of your precious handle being tarnished.

For the life of me I can't figure out why so many guys give a shit about protecting the image of a fucking internet username.

I honestly can't say I have an opinion, but I'll be more cautious after reading these. If you're going to write a review, then the first priority has to be honesty and integrity of it, and if that's going to come back and bite you.... well, there are plenty of other providers out there.

I'm a bit surprised by the post that said "you should never have to write a bad review". I guess if you never TOFTT or took the chance to give a girl a first review then there may be some truth in it, but I consider bad experiences to be part of the journey. I'll live with the chemistry not always being right, as long as it's not a B&S, and the provider is some kind of effort.

But I don't care what people here really think about me or is a provider is unhappy with the review I wrote. I give providers my real name, and they can do much more damage with that then my TER name. If she does not like the review I wrote then I likely will not be repeating or using her as a reference. I guess she could blast me on the boards or with other providers, but I could return the favor. She needs to see new clients more than I need to see new providers. I just don't care one why or anther.

I would not post anything in a review I would not say to the provider in person. It is funny how some people think they are serious critics and have to remain tough, secretive and fully objective. Me, I am sharing information, and it serves at least as much to provide good publicity for the provider, as to provide a useful guide for my fellow hobbyists.

The time I share with a provider is far more intimate than the time I share with the guys here (sorry, guys) and while I would only post a review that is honest and sets expectations properly for anyone who reads it, I also would only post a review that is considerate and respectful to the lady. There is an exception to that - if we really did not share an intimate time together, but rather I was scammed or otherwise taken advantage of or put into danger. Fortunately that has not happened, thanks to my fellow reviewers.

It is not always easy to balance the need for truth in the review and consideration for the provider, so in principle I realize there will be times when I just do not post a review. That has not happened yet. Anyway, I believe that if you cannot say it to her face, you have no business posting it in public.

I have no patience at all for the guys who post reviews to build some fantasy image of themselves as big, bad, tough studs who can go all night and demand perfection. I want to read reviews that are about the lady, and the shared experience, and that is what I write and post.

Okay, now rip me guys for being a pussy.