Over the last six months I've had three different providers cancel on short notice due to a "personal situation". All were first time meetings. One called me was when I was on route and one no-showed while I was waiting in the lobby. Do you think this means that: another appointment ran late? a regular client bumped me at the last minute? or perhaps she just needed a break (sore Vajayjay)?
Hon, I wouldn't take it personally, there could be numerous reasons. But remember us providers do not generally discuss personal things in our lives with clients. It clearly could have been a true personal reason. Maybe she had a family emergency but I wouldnt let it stop you from seeing another.
Good luck and just keep trying.
Bella
-- Modified on 1/26/2008 9:50:47 AM
That is a really hard one, and I think some of the ladies use it all to often!
But, sometimes as with anyone 'family' issues can come up that are out of one's control.
There is NO excuse for a NC/NS
Sorry this has happened to you!
Maybe her car broke down, mom stopped by unexpectedly, she started her period, a relative is sick, etc.
"Personal situation" is not a code word for some common incidence lool!
My first guess would be that it's just that, "personal", and you've just had a run of really bad luck. If it's happened three times, and you don't have any reviews here, you might want to double check who you are using for a reference, but to stay positive, let's go with the bad luck theory.
He is posting under an alias, so we don't know if he has reviews or not.
Thanks. My mistake.
Generally, I'd assume any good providers would plan for any work related issues to not prevent them from canceling.
I use "personal situation" when I feel I need to cancel and don't want to give a reason that could hinder the fantasy, such as the death of a relative or a roommate staying at home watching your every move or just coming down with a nasty stomach flu.
Not many people find nausea sexy... 
MM - let's be honest. I think you'll find that the cancelation issue runs both directions. Clients also do not make appointments for a myriad of reasons however they just fall into the cancelation category.
My advice would be to expect a certain level of cancelations regardless whether it’s due to you or a provider. The reasons aren't really relevant. You could be second guessing the "why" of a cancelation until the cows come home (farming term that means a very long time - lol).
You may consider creating a plan B. Having a relationship with a local agency makes it very easy to schedule a very short notice appointment. If you're like me and really plan things in advance because of a hectic schedule you will find having a plan B relieves pressure and also prevents anger and disappointment from a cancelation as you get a session in one way or another.
Many women don't have regular periods and they can come on in the blink of an eye. When they tell you it's due to a personal reason, they're probably just trying to be tactful and not say 'I'm on the fricken rag'. If not Aunt Flo, then it could be any matter of personal reasons. Kids, school, other job, anything. I wouldn't pry, as they said it was 'personal'.
If these cancellations represent 100% of new dates that were set up, that my say something more about you. If it represents just a drop in a bucket, then probably not personally about you.
When I need to cancel I always give the reason why whether it be sickness, car problems, not in the mood, PMS or good old Aunt Flow. The one time I cancelled on a guy and told him it was personal, it was just that, personal. I ended up explaining it to him after we met and I felt comfortable with him.
I'm in agreement that it can mean just about anything at all. Some of us do have families and some of us have kids. You never know what it could have been unless they are willing to tell you. Which most of us really wont go into details esp if it had to do with our families. Mainly because our personal lives are no ones business. I have had to cancel a couple times when my baby girl got sick and was more then happy to reschedule. These are things that can't be helped.
While we as providers are here to fulfill your fantasies as the hobbiest or client. We do also have personal issues that come up from time to time and we must take care of those first esp if it has to do with our children.
We try to run our work lives just like any other business for the most part but every now and then we can't help things that happen so please try to keep that in mind. Now if the girl does it to you several times or to several hobbiests on a regular basis then I would consider listing her as a flake or maybe even a rob depending on how many times she did it to you. Those types are out there as we all know.
You never know. It could be a whole host of reasons. The no show is a bummer. but for the gals who gave you notice. it could be aunt flow, something to do with her children if she has any, sickness, car trouble, just not feeling up to it who knows.
Did you reschedule with any of them??
...and we have to reschedule because we're not comfortable with the appointment.
Sometimes it means that we're having such a good time with client A that we're not willing to push him out of the door to keep the appointment with client B.
Sometimes it does mean that our vajayjay is sore or that client A took so much of a toll on us emotionally or physically that we just can't deal with client B.
Sometimes it means that our kid is sick.
It could mean anything, but it always means that she should make it up to you with an incentive for you to reschedule because professional courtesy goes a real long way.
Some ladies are single moms with little ones at home. If the child gets sick and has to stay home instead of going to school, you loose out.
Sometimes traffic is an issue. I had a lady arrive two hours late because she was in a minor traffic accident. She kept in contact via cell phone so I continued with the appointment.
Sometimes sh*t happens.
But it could be one of several things....
- Sick Child *
- No Child Care *
- Car Trouble
- Lady Sick/In the Hospital *
And it does work both ways....
I've had to cancel due to a sick child, and being sick myself....
I experienced the Sick Child and the In the Hospital reasons from the same lady....
I choose not to try to schedule a third time....
RocketMan36
P.S. Last time I thought about it, I figured that 28 percent of my scheduled appointments did not happened due to the above, plus one lady was a NC/NS....
...sore Vajayjay???????
Puh-leeeeeeeez!
It means "she had a personal issue". Plain and simple.
Just because a provider has to cancel does not mean you were bumped, client ran over, or heaven fucking forbid, her "vajayjay" is sore! Give me a fucking break!
Hmm...maybe we can ask the same question when a client no shows or cancels. What do you think that means??? Do you think it means: client was having too much fun with the girl he picked up at the bar and decided why the heck pay for it now? Client's SO has his balls in her hand because she found out he was paying for it? DId the client just come back from the doctor and found out he has an STD from the girl he picked up at the bar?????? Or did the client cancel or no show because his STD he's had from college has resurfaced and he is at the pharmacy getting his refill filled?????
OH the possibilities!
Shit happens. REAL LIFE happens. Imagine that!
Dear Sophie:
In life things tend to happen that can temporarily divert our attentions away from our daily routines. However, I am wondering depending on the nature and scope that you would have with the client would you apprise some more than others about what happened? Also would you be inclined to use the email on your phone or would you just call him directly? Also what would you require if it went the opposite way since this is a business and communication is the key when we are providing a service and being cognizant of one's time. The next question one should ask is do the providers abide by the rules they set forth on their websites as the hobbyist are instructed to? Once you have that consistency then you establish a since of common courtesy.
...sore Vajayjay???? It could happen!!! LOL
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