Recently a provider kept telling me that my dick was sooo big & she was sooo excited. C'mon on,I had gym class in
school. I know i am average at best. If you are going to b.s. me, tell me I'm excellent at kissing or my daty skills
are really, really good.  Those things I have no reference points to compare.  It's almost a turn off. Does any one
else agree or not?

For example, one gal recently told me that I fit her perfectly.   Can't argue with that at least on my end.

difficult entry, or need to pull out and apply more lube, then she may have a point.  Otherwise, she's pulling your chain, and that's not what you're paying her to pull.  

Any compliments of any kind except about my demeanor are a turn off.  

... is to get the provider to tell you how big you are.  Recently a provider told me that she loved how hard I was (and I was--had a lot to do with her looks and skills) and said something about my being "average" in size... which is true.  She gained a lot of points in my book for her honesty, plus her effort to find a way to compliment me without puffery.  

"hey, you're small enough to fit in my ass!" or "Deepthroat THAT? No problem!"

Is not the Size that counts..Its How You Use It.   OOH LA LA

... if I'm paying for it then i tend to dismiss it as a sales pitch, especially in the heat of the moment.  

If a provider tells me something I've heard from people I didn't pay and who aren't trying to get money from me, I'll tend to think she's being honest with me.  

...only see erections in porn, and porn actors are probably in the top one percentile when it comes to dick size.  Many guys are "growers" not "showers."  So you could have a big dick and not know it if your only comparisons are other flaccid dicks or porn actors.

made up by guys with small dicks.  Its sort of like when ugly girls say its the inner beauty that really counts.  

... by sweet talking me, grabbing my boobs and fondling my girl parts.....
Wait a minute....what were we talking about?

Are always welcome if they display a certain verisimilitude with the facts as the hobbyist knows them.  Disingenuous compliments that bear little relationship to reality CAN be a turn off.  

.... a lady says "Damn your cock feels good.".  
Then there isn't a size discussion, just a pleasure measure.

used to always say how much she loves to suck my cock.

The "husband" reference would have been a femwood killer and a nay. But if you said it while you were rubbing my pussy and had your tit in my mouth I might be willing to overlook it.

...proclamations over the years and I take them with the proverbial grain of salt. Gotta remember that this is essentially a sales business and (I know this may come as a bit of a shock to some of you) some sales people have been known to "inflate" information in order to make the customer feel good and help promote the sale.

If so, my dick IS big and I take the complements as they come. Lol.

A cereal box with a toy in it. If she does it right, she gets a surprise.

While it's mother's milk to vain people, it's awkwardly phony to anyone who doesn't actually match the description.  It also probably doesn't mean much to someone who is actually handsome or beautiful.  They've heard it a million times before.

Good question. I've seen my share of guys' junk--not on purpose--in locker rooms and such. But I can only think of one time I saw another guy erect in real life. That was in an explicitly sexual situation.  

How often have I said that this is the best blow job?  
And at the time was I able to not think that it was the best?

A provider gives you a nice ego boosting compliment. And you call it BS? What the Hell is wrong with you? She's just trying to make you feel good.  I've had providers compliment me. I know they're lying. But it's nice to hear compliments every now and then.

"Hi Sexy" (or derivations thereof) seems to be a short phrase used by a lot of gal's-okay once or twice but when used repeatedly-not so much !

I really doubt this is true, but I have been told I shoot an above average load of cum.  Been told this by more than one provider.  A well established provider, once my load was planted in her mouth, told me it was the most cum she had ever experienced.  I love to provider, but doubt the validity.  

I too have been told many times I have a big load. I had the same thought as you, I have no idea if it's true or not. I also don't care. I will say that on those occasions that it ends up on the other side of the room, the lady always seems to genuinely get a kick out of that. Though maybe that's all a part of the act too. IDK, I'm just glad it's out. LoL

Why is it that one needs to ponder whether what  
"the lovely" is
saying during the throes of ecstasy is bs or factual?

If she is laying it on too thick, or the substance of what she says is unrealistic or obviously questionable (as the original poster implied), then it can be a turn-off or a bit annoying because it reminds you that it is an act. It is easier to forget that it is an act when the compliments are more realistic and feasible.

I'm of a nationality where if someone were to start complimenting me on my size, I KNOW they would be full of shit.  

At least that's what I keep telling myself )