A lot can be learned from how Asian providers do it. Often, without even knowing each other for 5 seconds, you are greeted with a deep wet kiss (which is how I think all greetings should be done in the hobby). If they have reservations, you usually can't tell. They kiss and make love, close and passionate like they mean it. Pretty consistent performance given to all their customers. Very service oriented.
In contrast, there are other providers who advertise GFE, but you can feel them pulling back a little, not wanting to get too intimate, very little full body on body contact, guarded kissing, etc. Feels like a transaction.
In these cases, I'm sure horny johns want to be intimate, but some inhibition from the provider is not allowing it to happen. Judging by reviews, this seems to happen even with very highly reviewed providers, and we make excuses for them, like "they're having a bad day."
Hobbyists, how often do you sense the provider isn't into it, putting in a full effort? Does it happen less with very expensive providers, where the expectation of performance is greater?
Providers, is it that hard to just pretend you're banging your favorite celebrity? What's holding you back from going all in like he's your real boyfriend?
Many have said that Asian girls they see in Australia have few English skills and are very business like, wanting you in and out as quickly as possible, with as little warmth and contact as they can.
Clients see me repeatedly because I'm warm and can create an intimate environment, talk to them and our encounters feel like a real date, because to me they often really are!
When you talk about GFE in what you just wrote, you talk about a provider sticking her tongue down your throat and being all over you the minute you walk through the door. That's fine if that's what you're looking for, and maybe in an hour booking that's what you'd expect, but when I think of true GFE, I think of slower build up, the creation of a connection and development of intimacy, something that can't be faked in a quick session.
If you feel providers are holding back then maybe it's because your expectations of a GFE are a bit different that what we provide? Maybe it's PSE you're really looking for where you expect to get down and dirty the minute you walk in the room?
Just my thoughts.
When you first open the door and the gentleman walks in, there is a quick moment when i try to read the person. Once in awhile I may get that the person is shy and puoncing on him and sticking my tongue ...well putting my tongue wherever...would just be over the top for him. So, I'd take it a little slow.
Sometimes they are shaking and I know if I go too quick, they'll come too quick. A little chit chat might be in order.
Sometimes I do grab hold and and go full blast 'cause they have that look in their eyes and nice bulge in their pants and it just has to get done. lol. That would usually be with someone I know, though 
I got side tracked!
GFE and Asian girls? That I don't know about but would think it always depends on the individual, anyways.
Posted By: AdelleAnderson
When you first open the door and the gentleman walks in, there is a quick moment when i try to read the person. Once in awhile I may get that the person is shy and puoncing on him and sticking my tongue ...well putting my tongue wherever...would just be over the top for him. So, I'd take it a little slow.
Sometimes they are shaking and I know if I go too quick, they'll come too quick. A little chit chat might be in order.
Sometimes I do grab hold and and go full blast 'cause they have that look in their eyes and nice bulge in their pants and it just has to get done. lol. That would usually be with someone I know, though
I got side tracked!
GFE and Asian girls? That I don't know about but would think it always depends on the individual, anyways.
they don't book long enough sessions to truly experience GFE. What's going to happen in a hour? Maybe the beginning of a connection, but you're not going to really get things going until you repeat. I see a lot of Asian girls, and agree with your intel that many want you in and out as quickly as possible, so you have to do your homework, read reviews, and have a reliable network of fellow hobbyists in your geographic area with similar tastes to yours to trade intel with if you're going to expect a real GFE feel.
I think no matter what the ethnicity, you can't really expect much in the GFE department on an introductory one-hour session. Just my opinion from my own experience.
That's the best answer I have seen so far. When I really analyze the reviews, and then go a step farther and see what types of girls the reviewers like, I get a better picture. (I don't have any friends in this hobby I network with.) And when I find that one that I want to see, I'll book more than an hour, and after a few visits our time together gets better and better.
If you can't provide GFE in an hour, why do you advertize a 1 hr GFE?
Posted By: coeur-de-lion
they don't book long enough sessions to truly experience GFE. What's going to happen in a hour? Maybe the beginning of a connection, but you're not going to really get things going until you repeat. I see a lot of Asian girls, and agree with your intel that many want you in and out as quickly as possible, so you have to do your homework, read reviews, and have a reliable network of fellow hobbyists in your geographic area with similar tastes to yours to trade intel with if you're going to expect a real GFE feel.
I think no matter what the ethnicity, you can't really expect much in the GFE department on an introductory one-hour session. Just my opinion from my own experience.
The agency ones, amps... The independents ones are more what he maybe referring to...
Completely in agreement with Claire here.
I think that is why I prefer the longer appointment - it allows for a genuine organic slow build. Anticipation and seduction are a great part of mental foreplay...
C x
Posted By: clairecavendish
Many have said that Asian girls they see in Australia have few English skills and are very business like, wanting you in and out as quickly as possible, with as little warmth and contact as they can.
Clients see me repeatedly because I'm warm and can create an intimate environment, talk to them and our encounters feel like a real date, because to me they often really are!
When you talk about GFE in what you just wrote, you talk about a provider sticking her tongue down your throat and being all over you the minute you walk through the door. That's fine if that's what you're looking for, and maybe in an hour booking that's what you'd expect, but when I think of true GFE, I think of slower build up, the creation of a connection and development of intimacy, something that can't be faked in a quick session.
If you feel providers are holding back then maybe it's because your expectations of a GFE are a bit different that what we provide? Maybe it's PSE you're really looking for where you expect to get down and dirty the minute you walk in the room?
Just my thoughts.
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Sometimes with mainly Asian providers we start the action immediately at the front door and don't even come up for air for 30-40 minutes. Personally I LOVE that kind of session and just like the OP it's usually Asian girls where I seem to find them.
Some guys/girls like the slow build up you are talking about and on some days I agree, but unlike some guys here I can go from zero to sixty in zero seconds flat. I am virtually ALWAYS ready and I require no "build up" before getting "down and dirty"
I'm not saying all Asians are like this, but more often than not, Asians are receptive and get right to cuddling, kissing, etc... treating you like a king and fucking and sucking like they mean it. They're not shy about touching you. They seem to get comfortable with you fast, even on a first session as short as one hour.
I would not call that PSE. It's still GFE IMO.
With other providers, it seems the provider is the one who needs the build up. Even when you show clear indication that you want to get hot and heavy with the love making, they pull back a little.
I do agree that I too don't consider this PSE, but just a VERY good GFE. It just seems that some women don't require that "build up" that everyone else on this thread seems to think is a prerequisite for GFE, and I will allow that Asian women, especially K-Girls seem to high a VERY high percentage of women who have no problem getting "down and dirty" without any kind of "courtship" first.
Come to think of it, MOST of my sessions with K-Girls or their Thai counterparts start off with a DFK right at the front door before I even take off my shoes, but I don't really share your problem with having providers of other races pulling back on me. I find most will "take direction" and if I don't need to "chat them up" before getting to it, very few women that I see will insist on it.
Maybe you are going at it a bit too rough with the non Asian ladies? Or maybe you are just content in seeing Asian exclusively if they seem to be the ones that give you what you want? Personally, I am hugely attracted to Asian women, but just like I don't want lobster at every single meal, I find I also have a taste for blondes, redheads, Blacks, Latinas and White women. I really can't imagine limiting myself to any one race any more than I can imagine limiting myself to any one woman.
OR, maybe you need to work on your kissing skills? lol
I dont think it's always about needing a slow build up rather than enjoying it. It's just mental tantra and I love that.
With all that said a hot fuck or pure sex raw has its place too 😜
Posted By: GaGambler
I am virtually ALWAYS ready and I require no "build up" before getting "down and dirty"
My service is much more limited then most women here and priced for what I do. Some guys just want Deep kissing while other want DATY, BBBJ in their GFE session. Many times I don't feel they want to communicate in fear of saying too much.
When I have an extended date and feel I'm being compensated appropriately sure I love just going at it and enjoying myself while catering to gentleman s needs.
I believe if a guy wants a GFE (and I always do) then it starts with me and providing here a BFE (boy friend experience). Treat almost anyone in the hobby well and you will generally be rewarded with a better experience !!!
Here is a Q for ya:
Why do guys book with a GFE provider but yet do not want the kisses, DATY etc?
Makes alot of sense, huh?
You are describing someone jumping on u the moment u walk in the door. Sounds like PSE with kissing. GFEs take their time. Why jump on someone immediately on the first visit? Let him finish coming in the room GeEz. What a GrEaT way to freak out a first comer! Get a hug and nice kiss. Actually look at each other and then have fun.
I am weirded out by a new guy that jumps me the moment the door opens.
The kind of kiss I'm talking about is what most people understand as DFK. Or even an LFK, easing immediately into a DFK.
So a DFK right after the door closes = PSE?
The same DFK later in the session = GFE?
Posted By: SexyAssNightmare
You are describing someone jumping on u the moment u walk in the door. Sounds like PSE with kissing. GFEs take their time. Why jump on someone immediately on the first visit? Let him finish coming in the room GeEz. What a GrEaT way to freak out a first comer! Get a hug and nice kiss. Actually look at each other and then have fun.
I am weirded out by a new guy that jumps me the moment the door opens.
Well we call it GFE, but it is sort of like getting a ride from your girlfriend's taxi and the meter is running when you get in the door. The guys are going to want to get to the destination pretty fast. The gal is probably not in such a hurry to pull away from the curb.
A little communication is important, at least for some. Get to know each other. Chat a bit. Not saying that is what everyone would want, but one rule doesn't work for all. Only way to mitigate is to communicate. I am not sure your scenario allows for that. Clearly you have a preference, but somehow you would need to convey that to make you have your preferred experience.
I guess it depends on what market you are in.
Where I am, I see ladies that give me the excellent fantasy of seeing a long lost girlfriend. But, I go back to continue the relationships. And they all have me believing that we have an amazing time together. Which is what I'm in p4p for.
I did my research and if there was a doubt about the provider's performance, I steered clear.
But, I'm a connection guy, I'm in this for at least a 90 minute or 2 hour journey.
I travel a lot to different cities and also to Australia every year and have found the ones that are exceptional to me.
Have fun.
by reviewing her website, Twitter page, and reading her reviews to see if I think we'll click. I'm drawn to her personality as well as her appearance and performance. I love being with a smart, confident sexy woman. I feel if a connection is formed, it will be a better experience for both of us which will lead to all of the GFE items (and more) you feel some providers are short changing you. I don't think that price has anything to do with it, but how comfortable she's with you and how you treat her. I treat every lady with respect and I'm always rewarded with an amazing experience.
I've never been with an Asian provider, so I can't comment on how they differ from other providers.
That is for most providers because they are doing it strictly for money, first, second, third... And as a business they obviously want to give up as LITTLE as possible while receiving as MUCH as possible. Isn't that the point of business afterall, to maximize profit?
Then there are a small minority of providers who also do it for the money but they also are horny and enjoy the make believe. They TRULY enjoy sex spontaneously and without reservation, without paranoia, without trepidation, without over-thinking...
The second type obviously are ATF sweetheart material and the ones more deserving of our money and adoration.
...but it's a give and take, as the input from the providers above seems to demonstrate. I usually book 90 minutes to two hours with a woman so that we have some time to get to know one another and make it a bit more personal. To me, that is the essence of GFE; we can list whatever acronyms we want to define GFE but, for me, it's making a bit of a connection before we make THAT connection.
I recently saw a provider that wasn't a "classic" GFE provider in that she didn't do DFK, no back-door action and wasn't into me providing DATY. But to me, I classified our encounter as a GFE encounter because we had a great connection. I must say, to be perfectly honest, that her outstanding oral skills made up for the "lack" of the other considerations but I would see her again in a heart beat.
Some sort of personal connection between the parties should be present for a GFE; otherwise, we seem to be talking about a PSE experience.
even if you prefer a pse type of activities, if you see her over time, there is still the gfe connection going on there.
I always say, when asked, well what would a girlfriend do? She'd kiss, leave you uncovered for a bj, allow you to go down on her (because regular people don't call it daty). Rarely will a gf allow greek on a regular basis, if she wants to attempt it at all. And honestly, i don't think bj and daty are always on the table either in a real gf/bf relationship.
In essence anything you get in the gfe is taking what would be the best of a gf/bf relationship. That is why this is called a 'fantasy'.
And wtf is 'dfk' anyways? I don't know any girl who finds a tongue down throat as sexy or even wanted. That has always been a sign that a guy don't know how to kiss...read any woman's magazine, ask some females...it's just not sexy. Sexy is what will endear you a woman, not the ability to touch her tonsils with your tongue. Just call it 'french kissing'.
I don't define dfk as tonsil hockey. My tongue isn't even long enough.
For me, lfk is touching the tip of the tongue, and dfk is going an inch further, but not to the back of the throat.
Posted By: MmmMelanie
And wtf is 'dfk' anyways? I don't know any girl who finds a tongue down throat as sexy or even wanted. That has always been a sign that a guy don't know how to kiss...read any woman's magazine, ask some females...it's just not sexy. Sexy is what will endear you a woman, not the ability to touch her tonsils with your tongue. Just call it 'french kissing'.
Posted By: Bendadick.Cuminsnatch
A lot can be learned from how Asian providers do it. Often, without even knowing each other for 5 seconds, you are greeted with a deep wet kiss (which is how I think all greetings should be done in the hobby). If they have reservations, you usually can't tell. They kiss and make love, close and passionate like they mean it. Pretty consistent performance given to all their customers. Very service oriented.
In contrast, there are other providers who advertise GFE, but you can feel them pulling back a little, not wanting to get too intimate, very little full body on body contact, guarded kissing, etc. Feels like a transaction.
In these cases, I'm sure horny johns want to be intimate, but some inhibition from the provider is not allowing it to happen. Judging by reviews, this seems to happen even with very highly reviewed providers, and we make excuses for them, like "they're having a bad day."
Hobbyists, how often do you sense the provider isn't into it, putting in a full effort? Does it happen less with very expensive providers, where the expectation of performance is greater?
Providers, is it that hard to just pretend you're banging your favorite celebrity? What's holding you back from going all in like he's your real boyfriend?
have sex with strangers from the general public and you couldn't take your pick of the lot.
Try it next time you're at the mall. Look for someone you're not that attracted to ( maybe a generic middle aged woman in her 50's)and ask yourself if you could fuck her for money and give her the service you specified above.
Ha, even the ugliest girl can get all the sex she wants. Maybe not from the guys she wants, but from someone. Now if chicks start paying for sex, even moreso.
The reason there aren't many male gigolos is because women don't have to pay for sex, no matter what.
Posted By: earthshined
have sex with strangers from the general public and you couldn't take your pick of the lot.
Try it next time you're at the mall. Look for someone you're not that attracted to ( maybe a generic middle aged woman in her 50's)and ask yourself if you could fuck her for money and give her the service you specified above.
Escorting is a customer service job. Fee for service.
You knew what you were getting into when you signed up, good and bad.
Now you have to excel at the service part, not do it half-assed. Your reputation depends on it.
That said, if a generic looking, completely hygienic 55 year old woman paid me to fuck her, I would pretend she's Martha Stewart and I was about to inherit her fortune, and fuck her good.
I have the choice to turn down the offer, but if I accept and agree to a job, I DO IT WELL. That is my obligation. It's not supposed to be easy money.
I believe that when a provider takes on a customer for money, there is an expectation for a high standard of service.
I don't think it's right that a customer who is less attractive or unattractive should get less service. Being nice and clean should be the only requirement.
Posted By: earthshined
Kind of like how you would feel if you had to have sex with strangers from the general public and you couldn't take your pick of the lot.
Try it next time you're at the mall. Look for someone you're not that attracted to ( maybe a generic middle aged woman in her 50's)and ask yourself if you could fuck her for money and give her the service you specified above.
as someone providing you customer service as you call it. You can be nice, but still give off an attitude of entitlement. I have never encountered your issues. It's probably because I treat her as a person first and not as someone working for me. And every session was unbelievable.
I have experienced what the OP is talking about but I just don't see the lady again. easy solution for me.
This is hard to explain. Of course all of us want all of our providers to be full on gfe, whatever that means. That’s part of the problem. Each of us, guy and girl, has a different definition of what gfe is, regardless of what Dr. TER says it is. The truth is, everyone is totally different on their sexual likes and dislikes. So yeah, a lady might say she’s gfe, and will dfk, but she’ll only do so as far as her likes will allow. It's more important that I see what her likes allow, than it is for her to attempt to go beyond what she likes. I'm better able to determine my gfe.
I take my ten favorite sexual likes to each session (dfk included). I don’t demand any of those likes. I might try to lead a lady somewhere, but if she doesn’t want to go, that’s cool, and honest. After the session, how many likes matched? The more our likes match, the closer we get to connection, to gfe, to intimacy, or whatever you want to call it. Only a handful of ladies have gotten all ten. A few others have gotten in the 9.5 to 9.9 range. Down a little farther comes the 9.0-9.4 ladies, and so on. Any session in the 9s is a repeat, and considered totally gfe. Anything over 9.5 is an atf. Any lady in the 9.8-10 range you see over and over as many times as your wallet, and her schedule will allow. Is my gfe the same as the other guys here? Not a chance!
So rather than looking for ladies who will gfe put out, I’m always on the look out for matching likes. The more the better.
... in my experience. I've met great GFE providers who charge $150/hr and others at 3x or more that rate. I think it all has to to with the woman's personality and approach to this business. Some see it first and foremost as a way to make good money. Others like the income of course but truly enjoy their work, especially when their clients do their part to make sessions mutually enjoyable. I focus on the latter and try to avoid seeing the former.
I agree big time. The connection is key with me. I have to feel that she genuinely likes me or I`ll never repeat.
For example:
On my 2nd date with my fav (8/9 rated) girl we sat on the couch and talked/connected for a 1/2 hr+ until I glanced at the clock and realized that I only had about 25 minutes left for main menu stuff and we quickly got down n, dirty. After, while cuddling she volunteered way more personal info than I could have ever imagined, her real first name, where she grew up, family stuff etc. etc. Her trust in me with this info blew me away! Ran overtime about 20 mins. most of it was about her story and she never said a word about it. Now calls me her "Cookie Monster" This is called a connection folks.
I`ve been around the block enough to know when somebody likes me and she does and I love it. Seeing her again in 2 weeks. My only fear is that I`ll want to fall for this alpha babe but I can`t let that one way trip to frustration hell happen.
Repeat after me: Connection, connection, connection!
I am with you!
Posted By: NoYellowEnvelope
... in my experience. I've met great GFE providers who charge $150/hr and others at 3x or more that rate. I think it all has to to with the woman's personality and approach to this business. Some see it first and foremost as a way to make good money. Others like the income of course but truly enjoy their work, especially when their clients do their part to make sessions mutually enjoyable. I focus on the latter and try to avoid seeing the former.
-I really wanted to hear from these Asian providers.
They don't tend to be fluent in English.
If they are not indy's, I'm sure their management keeps them on a very short leash when it comes to comments on a fuck board.
Most agency girls, Asian or otherwise don't even know how to log onto TER.
veterans that had TER memberships so they could read their own reviews. They never post nor read the boards, and don't use it to do anything else except occasionally read a review for a competitor Kgirl in their area. Most only hear of occasional bad reviews through their bookers, who follow the reviews and posts on the Kgirl board ABOUT their girls.
I thoroughly enjoy creating a genuine and intimate experience. I imagine how I feel when I've had a long day and I just want to get completely consumed in someone; to feel the rhythm of our bodies together writhing passionately. I know what it is to crave that and I love giving it. When I do hold back with a guy its usually because I don't feel him listening to his own body or mine. What I mean by that is, most men are socialized with the expectation to perform all the time. Weather it's at work, hanging out with friends, quick daily interactions and especially sex. In bed, the expectation is to be domineering, rock hard, pounding some sweet ass until you get the money shot. And if that's truly your honest desire that totally fine and we can do that. But the feeling I get from most guys is that they don't really want that and their just acting that way because they feel it's expected of them. They are fulfilling the script without listening to their bodies and they certainly aren't listening to my body and so we have this whole charade in which no one is truly being satisfied. So when I hold back, it's because I want him to stop, let go of the expectations that have been placed on him by society to perform, perform, perform.... And allow himself to lay back, receive and let me make him feel good. Which is why he came to me in the first place, no?
And another important note from that scenario; when you are meeting with a woman, and you want dfk, body to body intimacy right off the bat. You aren't showing her that you are listening or responsive. That makes her feel like if she needs you to stop, slow down, ease up, etc that you won't listen when she says that and that doesn't feel safe. When you don't feel safe, you hold back.
Hope that helps!
Good response, especially acknowledging holding back.
But I wasn't being clear on WHEN the provider is holding back.
I'm not talking about the customer acting like an animal and jackhammering away.
I'm talking about holding back during foreplay and love making. The passion he is showing you is not being reciprocated.
Let's assume customer has super fresh breath, just to rule that out.
Now consider this scenario:
Your reviews say you DFK.
Customer has been a gentleman and you've been LFK'ing for a while. You feel a little tongue brushing your lips, suggesting he wants DFK, but you never open up. What's holding you back? (Maybe you don't do this, so anyone else, feel free to comment)
This is what I'm talking about.
Posted By: PenelopeWaters
I thoroughly enjoy creating a genuine and intimate experience. I imagine how I feel when I've had a long day and I just want to get completely consumed in someone; to feel the rhythm of our bodies together writhing passionately. I know what it is to crave that and I love giving it. When I do hold back with a guy its usually because I don't feel him listening to his own body or mine. What I mean by that is, most men are socialized with the expectation to perform all the time. Weather it's at work, hanging out with friends, quick daily interactions and especially sex. In bed, the expectation is to be domineering, rock hard, pounding some sweet ass until you get the money shot. And if that's truly your honest desire that totally fine and we can do that. But the feeling I get from most guys is that they don't really want that and their just acting that way because they feel it's expected of them. They are fulfilling the script without listening to their bodies and they certainly aren't listening to my body and so we have this whole charade in which no one is truly being satisfied. So when I hold back, it's because I want him to stop, let go of the expectations that have been placed on him by society to perform, perform, perform.... And allow himself to lay back, receive and let me make him feel good. Which is why he came to me in the first place, no?
And another important note from that scenario; when you are meeting with a woman, and you want dfk, body to body intimacy right off the bat. You aren't showing her that you are listening or responsive. That makes her feel like if she needs you to stop, slow down, ease up, etc that you won't listen when she says that and that doesn't feel safe. When you don't feel safe, you hold back.
Hope that helps!
and things might go better. I know they're being paid for their time, but you don't have to keep projecting that knowledge to her. Treat her as a person, an equal. Apparently, you're not doing this in one way or another.
And it's called YMMV. Apparently, your ungentleman like attitude that you're projecting is getting you her minimum performance.
I was a GFE before I even knew what GFE meant 
As for the question at the bottom: There's a difference between sex and making love. Sexually, I think everything is the same, but there is that emotional barrier. I see my clients as friends, and I love their time and company, but they aren't my SO. I guess it's like a one night stand.... I love to kiss and cuddle, but I'll still be gone by the next morning lol....
Hobbyists often see this as a fantasy.
A lot of them even expect there to be some acting.
Is that emotional barrier hard to break? Can you give the client some of that emotion, just so he can live that fantasy?
Posted By: RachaelLee
I was a GFE before I even knew what GFE meant
As for the question at the bottom: There's a difference between sex and making love. Sexually, I think everything is the same, but there is that emotional barrier. I see my clients as friends, and I love their time and company, but they aren't my SO. I guess it's like a one night stand.... I love to kiss and cuddle, but I'll still be gone by the next morning lol....
I have the crush on ppl where it feels like the boss finally made the booty call. Sure, that's a fantasy, but it can feel pretty real.
There is, however, a large group of people who do not want that connection in this world, to which I feel Girlfriend should be taken out of the term completely. DFKE Deep French Kiss Experience might be a better term if only looking for the physical.
It seems a lot of people desire a provider to act out passion when really, the clients don't want to feel passion. Then is it really passionate?
How about HNE "Horny Nympho Experience"?
Girlfriend is tough, because when people are dating as BF/GF, do they hook up and shove tongues down each other's throats? or is that more a horny hook up experience?
I feel like the best way to get what you want, and feel what you want, is to really take a look inward and ask yourself. What do I really want? Do you really want her to feel like a girlfriend, or a horny nympho next door?
By the other partner. Sex builds by two communicating. It's really fun after many dates, (meaning if she has a YMMV day by - say, the 5th date, a lot of times that's the barrier broken date, and the roller coaster ride starts. There are some where you both leave, saying "WOW! What just happened?!" Then others, "That was really nice."
One day doesn't mimick every other day exactly. If it does, then it's an act. There are a million experiences we can have within the realm of sexual encounters, and even the dud parts can be a necessary build up to something great.
And with those experiences, you can still walk away and know she's a paid companion. And not worry about falling for her/being tempted into a divorce.
I don't really think DFK after seconds of meeting a provider is required for GFE especially considering that "girlfriend" part. I'm not a huge fan of a tongue being stuck down my throat moments after meeting someone for the first time. Let us introduce ourselves and talk for a couple of minutes at least! I'm shy though and some people aren't easy to warm up to right away so I appreciate that bit of time.
You really want to be treated like a "real boyfriend?" I'm happy to open the door just rolled out of bed, not showered, and with my face a mess and teeth not brushed. I mean, how long have we been shacked up? Do you know my cycles? Because that can help a lot with intimacy too.
You can't fake the kind of intimacy someone has with a long-term partner and lover who knows them inside and out. It's not possible to fake that kind of intimacy with a stranger. Not for me, and not in that often hour's worth of time that folks like to book.
If you want me to treat you like my partner, you need to invest in the experience. Dinner dates, drinks, fun, and then back to the incall. The only way to have true intimacy is to establish real intimacy. Real intimacy like the kind you're wanting, only comes from and with rapport.
Now, if you only book an hour or two, and are actually awesome throughout the whole booking process and keep your hygiene in check for when you arrive? It's basically on, all things being equal. Are you a generally cool person? Are you honest? Are you easy to read? Are you mindful of boundaries? Then we are going to have one hell of a great time, and the FWB attitude is on. See me regularly, and that intimacy just builds. I share incredibly intense intimacy with my regulars.
If I can smell you before I take your jacket (be that B.O. or cologne), if you're pushy, rude, and demanding? Things can only go so well.
A little bit of empathy goes a really long way. If you were the provider opening the door, what would you want? Is it possible for you to imagine what a good client is and be that? If you're choosing a provider, there's a really damn good chance you know exactly what you're getting when she opens the door. I have a general idea of who is going to be behind the door that I open, but I don't have pages of reviews, websites, and social media for my clients.
If you're really into how Asian agency ladies treat their clients, I'd suggest you continue seeing them. But chemistry? If there's a language barrier, how can there be chemistry on the side of the provider? I'm sure they've been taught certain standards and know how to go through the actions, but that's not chemistry; that's following a script. It's also why your experiences have been super similar from girl to girl and agency to agency. sure, there's a standard of service, but there's also a script and no room for improvisation.
You've obviously found the type of experience you're looking for with a particular set of women; I'd stick with that.
But then it tends to turn into a passionate love affair. Meow meow.
Good things cometh to those who wait. Yom nom nom!
Most of the women you have reviewed are quite plainly NOT GFE and you should have known this before booking with them. You might try upping your price point from the girls in the $200 hr range up by a hundred bucks an hour or so to the $300 hr range and you most likely will encounter a LOT more girls that offer GFE.
This is not a hobby where you always "get what you pay for" and it's certainly not necessary to start seeing the HDH's, but upping your budget by $50-100 and reading the reviews BEFORE booking with them might increase your odds of success.
It takes two to make it spectacular. Furthermore, the common denominator is YOU.
Just last night I saw a regular and he contrasted me to the other girls who seem to naturally do more of a PSE. I guess for me since I really do like being intimate with someone and crave it often, it comes to me easily. And being low volume (about 4 clients a week currently) I don't suffer from burnout like more popular providers. I find one thing I like about the person - their humor or their eyes - and that's enough to connect with them. I'm also a shy, introverted person so I start off a little nervous and slowly things get more and more passionate and intense as I discover what the other person likes. Also, clients seem to really like DATY and that really gets me going
Maybe I'm wrong but my theory is that generous guys (in the bedroom) like girls like me because they get off on giving pleasure so GFE is perfect for them. Whereas guys who mostly like to receive pleasure benefit from a PSE more because it's more about them and they're not too interested in the kissing or DATY.
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