to use those!


HH

The cheapest of these services charges guy $10K.  Some quick math tells me  I can see 33 girls at $300/hr. each for the same amount.  Sometimes it really is that simple.
PS:  That's not even the total cost.  When you add in going on the actual date I bet it's double.  That means 66 girls!  Wowee!  The hobby is such a bargain.

In my twenties, I was convinced I had to date the "right" man...good looks, good education, good family and a stable income.  Translation:  I wanted it all.  I was very busy with my career and grad school so I figured I would outsource the task of finding a mate to somebody else.

I went straight to the top matchmaking services in my area (no, I didn't live in Vegas at the time) and I was impressed at how much time they took getting to know me.  One used the MBTI as part of the foundation for matches (by the way, I'm a INFP, the "ideal idealist"), another just used the owner's "gut instincts."  One charged according to income for men but had a flat fee for women, another charged a flat fee but claimed because I had so much to offer, they were discounting their fee.  Hmmmm, okay.  (What can I say?  I was young and dumb.)  Oh, and one had an additional "success fee" if you continued dating your match after 6 months.

The men they sent my way constantly disappointed me.  It was no fault of the services as they found exactly what I was looking for on paper.  I had men fly in from all over the world (yes, world!) to be introduced to me.  Those men weren't any different than the men I was already meeting in local venues and through friends.  INCLUDING the fact that they became octopus men at the end of each date.

Now I'm no prude (uh, duh! lol) but I thought that people who spent $$,$$$ and sometimes $$$,$$$ to join matchmaking services would be more serious about dating, romance and truly getting to know one another before becoming intimate.  I was mistaken.  

I let my memberships expire and they offered more discounts/extended membership but I declined.

Now in my thirties, I look back and am thankful for what I learned.  First and foremost is what an idiot I was for spending all of that money on those services!  Ergh.  But also that Prince/Princess Charming DOES exist and can be found without having to pay someone to find him/her for you.  

Another thing, and this will sound harsh...one of the agencies held mixers every so often and most of the people simply turned me off all together.  So much BS, bragging, name dropping and arrogance.  Ugh.  

My favorite way to meet men now?  Through the demimonde, of course!  Throw in a few political rallies or talks on harm reduction and I'm even happier.  

Bank Account = $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$= Match