This is an interesting article I found online.  It is from "an exotic escort's diary" website and covers the topic of "Client and Escort Dynamics."

Those johns that want to please the hooker and those that are all about the sex for themselves.

Well, there's a third camp, and that's please everyone if possible. If not, get one nut and cut.

Im in the other camp. Im always polite and respectful to a woman, but Im paying for the time, so its about me. I do tell them to speak up if they are going to O and I'll hang in there for them, but thats about it.  

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Take your time to explore, your sweet time. Its about the journey and not the destination.

The chemistry bit is dead on. I've seen over 50 providers, I've had good sex with 35 or so, got the job done but would never go back with 10 or so, great sex with about 5, and mind-blowing, can't believe how good it is and can't wait until next time sex with exactly one.

you keep it 100. And you're getting better you called us johns instead of tricks this time lol.
   
A john pleases me the minute he puts down that envelop. Don't need anything else to make me smile....just let me do my job. I think you speak for most with that comment.

Except when a client spends A LOT of time on my pleasure only, I start to feel self conscious like I'm being a selfish lover consequently making me lose focus and dampening my arousal. Cause sometimes it's hard to tell if he genuinely gets pleasure from giving pleasure or if he feels obligated to be a generous lover. So, sometimes I'll wonder if his mouth is getting tired down there and he's just being a nice guy or if he really wants to be down there that long. So, the ones that spend a lot of time on my pleasure don't always make it more pleasurable for me. Women are funny creatures.

Sort of like the guys who use provider, escort, ho, whore etc.

I have got to ask what are the type of questions you might have during the screening process to see if a prospective client is compatible with you sexually? Also what types of questions would you ideal clients ask you? Also would your civilian partners also be as intuitive with respect to your needs and preferences sexually? Dialog is a critical part of your sexual experience because as you know all too well your biggest sexual organ and weapon is in between your ears.  Once you make this stipulation part of your professional practice as a courtesan you will find that you have successful encounters and you and your "friends" will be astounded with the experience they have with you.

How about "paying friend" as the best term? I do like "drick" though, maybe it will catch on.

As for me, I can live with either client, john, or trick. I don't have issues with any of them.

paying friend, client, john, trick and drick

And I will not answer any email that has sexual acronyms or sex acts in it.  

You given the gals a new word to play with now, when you refer to a guy as a trick or drick I'll understand why you've pulled that term from your repertoire lol.  

And in return I promise not to call you a "provider."

Good providers want to please their clients.

It's good to have some give and take on the pleasuring, lest you upset her and make her feel like she is not doing her job.

Having learned that, I dig right in and enjoy myself and we're both happy, or so it would appear, at least.

Maybe it is how you word the question or how you ask the question that is key in this instance. Take a tip from an undercover detective they ask questions in a way that solicits information that can be useful.

I think of frat boys.  

I may be many things, but I was never a fucking frat boy. lol

Frat boys are the bane of my existence. They're the ones who can always be counted on to stumble up to me in a bar and say "heyyyyy I like yer tats. Can I have your number??"

Yes, we were that bad.

I wouldn't stumble up to you.  Instead of tats I'd say I like your tits.  And I wouldn't ask for your number, I'd ask how many Benjamins would it take.

you can bet your bottom dollar that Dupy is too dumb to be a detective.

"... A john pleases me the minute he puts down that envelop." Bravo! now that's the way it should be...

understand GaGambler's phrase 'Paying Friend'--anyone who's had an ATF/SB will understand it.   Miss ATF/SB will sweetly initiate hookups with you, spend lots of OTC time with you, act like a possessive girlfriend, and get angry when you don't see her.  Translation:  she prefers getting paid/fucked by you than rolling the dice with someone new.  

It's about trying to please her not simply because I like women but because I know a happy hooker who likes that I'm actually trying my best to please her is much more likely to do her best to please me.
It's called "enlightened self interest."

she just won't fuck you anymore, or answer your calls, or your emails, or have anything else to do with you except to periodically ask if you are back on your feet again so she can renew your "friendship" lol

because providers are not attracted to most (95%) clients. I don't think just being a nice, polite, respectful guy will change that. I don't like GFE at all.(particularly the platitudes and obvious fake O's)  It just makes it worse.  

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 IMO this author nailed it, at least from the microcosm of my experience with providers. That experience tells me that a polite, respectful, kind-hearted guy (let's add clean in there too) will find most providers very receptive to being pleasured by them, unless they are the type who just want money from their clients. But I have almost no experience with providers like that. I try my best to leave them to the guys who are looking to be pleasured, not for mutual pleasuring.  
   
 As for starting with a relaxing massage... bingo! I love being massaged, and I love giving massage to a woman. I try to incorporate massage of the provider into sessions whenever I can, assuming the provider is receptive to it. I find most are--actually, I find most LOVE it. Not only does the massage relax her, it also relaxes me (well, to a point anyway...). And it's a good way to demonstrate that I'm respectful of her boundaries, as I move to her erogenous zones only when she signals in some way that she's ready for me to go there. I always ask what she'd like me to focus on, if anything, and what kind of pressure she likes. Sometimes she just wants a full-body massage, nothing specific. Other times I hear, "I'd love a good butt massage!" (I hear that a LOT; of course I am more than happy to comply) or a request for a foot massage or hands or arms or shoulders or back or thighs or face/scalp.  I try to get to all those if there's time.  I often see guys talk about wanting to have some "connection" to a provider, especially for GFE. I think massage is a great way to establish a connection, one of trust and respect and consideration.  
   
 In case you get the wrong idea, this is not totally selfless. A relaxing full-body massage, which includes kisses all over her body, is a great prelude to what comes next.  

when I know she really doesnt want it, why keep trying?

for a few hours and STILL not want to fuck her.

Not every woman is the same. And, I'm glad not all gents feel like this because this hobby would get really boring really fast if all of you felt that we only care about the envelope. H+T makes no secret of this for herself, but not every gal feels that way.  

But I was more like Flounder.  Not fat, but drunk and stupid for sure

You're still in the "please the hooker" camp, even if it benefits you.

I embodied many of the worst qualities of the stereotypical frat boy. I'm not a big fan of getting older (though I guess it beats the alternative), but I'm sure glad I outgrew that shit. I know more than one guy my age that hasn't.

she's not much of a friend if she won't fuck him anymore lol

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My perception is that GaG would be more likely to say, "Hey, I like your tits. Wanna fuck?"

Or at least that is not how I took it. I took it as he is a decent enough guy to be called "friend" in the scope of P$P. He leaves, friendship  over.  Now GaG might have another version of that but that's what it means to me.

I cop to it being mostly bullshit. You seem to be one of the guys who is not in denial. I like that type.

Block MSOG.   Give her a massage,  talk to her, put time into "building her up" to pleasure if she's in the right mood.  C'mon,  she's just trying to get her clients to waste as much of the hour as possible so they only get one pop.

Is really no different than many others where one has to deal with a vast amount of different people. Some you like, some you tolerate till the job is done and then some are just plain assholes. I am professional but do not need to deal with assholes, I guess the perks of this job is that we can either fire them or just not see them.

not that I don't have hooker friends, some of whom I also pay for sex, but most of the who I don't ever sleep with.

To me, it's easy to tell the difference between the hookers that are really my friends, and the other variety to whom I am simply business.

My actual friends in this business are at least as likely to contact me  to shoot the shit, go out to eat, have a drink, etc as I am to initiate contact with them. My true hooker friends aren't simply chatting me up in the hopes that I will book a session with them. Truth be told  I don't even have sex with most of my hooker friends, nor do I pay them for their company, that's how I know that they are "friends" as opposed to women who give good/great customer service.

I, for one would love to be able to be frank and ask certain questions and answer those a john might ask.  

But this nonsense of "not discussing" acts (especially after you've screened some dude) is quite paranoid.  If it makes you feel safer...so be it.  The fact is that some dude is seeing YOU because you ran an ad (website)...he responded.  To think that NOT discussing via email/text about fucking would "save" you is naive.

Some like it, some loathe it. It is neither right NOR wrong. Good thing there are choices and preferences.  

Regardless of your non lawyerly advice, many ladies still refuse to put "yes I will fuck you up the ass" in an email or a text or even on the phone.  

Simply put....if you are in a room with LE (even with your stringent screening and non-discussion of sex)...you will be arrested.  That doesn't mean you will be convicted however.

That was not the subject..it was adding sexual acts(open communication) during a conversation (phone, text or email) during screening.  

No way were you ever a douchebag. I've said it before and I'll say it again: you are a class act.  

if they actually had sex with 10-20 ladies they're not attracted to( come to think of it many say that's how they feel about their wife! lol) they'd see the futility. I suppose it could get easier with some escort/ client encounters but even then it'd never be the same as it would be with her real life partner. I truly believe that type of hobbyist thinks HE is the one that gets her to enjoy it and it's only those OTHER guys she fakes it with.

Just because someone has a different approach than you do, their experiences are bullshit?

Remind me to show you my frat tat next time

so just because an escort calls herself a GFE provider means she really wants to spend time with you fucking? She REALLY cant wait to see you? She REALLY has a huge orgasm within minutes of getting on top of you?

You don't have any idea what I'm talking about. Maybe because you don't seek GFE so you don't have experience or a frame of reference.

that I have not tried what you are describing as true GFE.