So you are on a dating site, which is free, and you are browsing the females, and lets say you recognize a provider. Would you send her a message bringing up how you know her? If she had been a woman you were attracted to, would you try to civvie date her, and never mention the hobby or her other life?

Isn’t she on the site to be contacted? Would I tell he I know her the first time I contact her? Probably not. Slowly getting around to it would be more fun.

"I definitely make it clear they wont be having sex with me till I know they are not looking for sex"

Because if you admit seeing her picture in the hobby, you admit you're a hobbyist, and a provider does not want a hobbyist as her civvie bf.

a woman is simply marketing her assets.  

if you guys start talking and she likes you enough to meet or wants to date, then she will bring it up eventually (well she should)

So obviously I am referring to me lol!

For me to even consider the fact they may be the same person. I still wouldn't say anything.
It's not very cool to ask a girl if she is a prostitute.
Even if she is.
Just be carful Caitlyn.. It sounds like you could possibly out your real name if you meet a guy who has seen your provider profile.
As for what I would do? Probably not contact her.
I have heard here over, and over that providers generally don't date johns.
So I wouldn't waste her time. Even if I really liked her.

Providers date "Johns" all the time.

They just try not to date Johns that are every bit as judgmental as society at large, and they most likely try not to date johns that treat them like a hooker.

I have lost track of the number of providers that I have dated, but although I might call them hookers here on the board, I never forget that they are just women, no better and no worse than any other group of women.

If you are single, and you really like a girl, even if she is a hooker there is no reason not to pursue it. The difference is of course, unlike when she has accepted your money, she has every right to say no to you, and some guys just can't accept accepting no, especially from a hooker.

I've used Sugar Daddy sites for the same reason. I know a few providers who date in real life whilst doing this, but I have zero interest in doing that. The last thing I need in my life is yet another d*ck to take care of lol. I would not say anything..pretty sure she knows her pics are there, and does not care.

I mean, of course I am not putting in all caps for my occupation

Plenty of these hookers have broke BF's and SO's....that's why they're hooking.

Hey! Did you just call me a leech?

I may be broke. But I have excellent health insurance.
So give me your sick. Give me your weak.
I have a 20$ co pay with no referral needed.

Seen this played out on the boards before. A guy posted about an former escort on one of those sites and how she must be trying to work...everyone agreed....and i'm sure there was backchannel to her real life profile.....but nope, she was just a former escort trying to find love in this lonely world, and I know b/c she is a friend of mine.

Even though I have admittedly dated a lot of providers, most guys that identify you as a hooker on a dating site, will either assume that you are simply looking to drum up business, or try to "get a freebie", which is the exact opposite of the kind of guy you are trying to attract.

like if they send me this as their intro

I'd imagine that a beautiful woman, especially a former escort, can choose any guy she likes.
What kind of guy would object to a trophy wife who knows how to fuck?

we hella had chemistry, could not stop trying to be close to me.. He kept joking about how he wanted to or could not wait to have sex... because he was so attracted or what not ( I am imho much prettier live lol You cant feel my sexual ummm aura that will surround you unless you are next to me lol )  

I was WILD then! I went out all the time, so I had a lot more opportunity to meet guys!

If on an NSA (AFF comes to mind) site then I would assume she is trolling for clients, however if on e-harmony, I would think differently.

are the problem lol  

lets face it, I do feel sorry for providers- and have dated a couple civie style.

Right click on it and open in a new window...assuming it's not showing on your current page.

I've also gone to free events... funniest ever was where you moved from table to table, and this one woman sat down, said I was "doable," whatever that was, and proceeded to tell me to pay for the repair of her car and we could then have sex.... and that happened....   right!

who the hell says that? and thinks that is a way to find a bf? umm k

and not all of us are going to feel that you were "easy" if you fuck us on the first date, but I agree that many do indeed feel that way.

One of the many benefits of the hobby is I don't need to get laid right away on my civvie dates. I have no problems going straight from a civvie date that ends with a peck on a cheek, right to a provider that will fuck my brains out. I get the best of both worlds that way, plus I look like a perfect gentleman to the civvie date. lol

Truth be told though, I think I date more hookers than civvies, and by date I don't mean P4P sessions. I mean actual dates. If we counted P4P sessions with providers then it's not even close, I think I just like hookers more than most other women, even when out of the bedroom.

Ok, go ahead and start the GaGambler is actually a big mangina talk, you can all GFY. lol

..would be this (and it is just a hypothetical one, since I'm not single at present):

A true GFEish provider has other skills than just knowing how to get a guy off.  They tend to have skills at putting the guy at ease, providing a good sounding board or just giving a guy a place to vent about his life woes (often about his wife, sure, but other things also).

Providers whom I see regularly tend to know me in ways that nobody else does--and I know I'm not alone in this behavior.  You'll tell a provider things you would never tell your wife, your priest/minister/rabbi, your closest friends, even your shrink (assuming you see one).  Good providers are well-trained in playing up to the client and (at least for the amount of time agreed upon) making him feel like he is the most important thing in the universe.  It's part of the whole GFE deal (at least for me).

If I was dating someone I knew to be a provider, and started to "share" details about myself in the way that one does when getting more and more seriously involved in a "real" relationship, I'd always be wondering:  Is she kissing up to me (figuratively speaking) because she really cares about me, or is it just because she is so well-conditioned to fall into this sort of behavior, she can't stop herself from slipping into GFE mode, as opposed to acting like a "true" girlfriend?

It would be a conundrum for me, for sure.  OTOH, it sure would be a nice problem to have...

and it's rather easy to tell if a woman is a GF or just a GFE, don't give her any money and you will find out in a hurry if her feelings are genuine.

there is a higher quality of female posters these days.  Some have been around for a while and others, like Ms. Steele, hotplants and WOW, seem more sensible.  So perhaps you aren't turning mangina after all.
As for me, I like the way this game works backwards from civvy dating.  IOW, with a civvie, you wine and dine to get into her pants.  With a hooker, you get into her pants and -- sometimes -- you both make a connection and only then does the social, OTC part take over.  It's great when that happens and I'm lucky enough to have it happen a lot.

I will go on any and all sites free or paid for this.  

They are so much into themselves, haven’t had time open their eyes and see what the real world really looks like. When they do, they fall apart.

Remember, if people like you and trust you, they will tell you themselves. Keep what you know to yourself until then but it is hard thing to do in out “blabber mouth culture” where we shamelessly go on TV for 30 seconds of fame

The point is if act normal and treat people as they like to be treated not be judgmental ass hole, providers will date you.