Anyone have any experience will going away with a provider for more than just an overnight? I am considering a whole week. Never did more than just an overnight so I am debating. It is a lot cheaper than seeing multiple providers over the same period of time but there are some obvious downsides as well
Like to know how that worked? do you get bored with just one? If you did it, did you get just one room or something larger. Did she go everywhere with you or did you do things apart?
Any comments from hobbyists and providers welcome.
I've done this in the past probably a half-dozen or so times, ranging from 3-6 days, & generally speaking it's worked out well. But as I think you're already aware, the actual majority of the time isn't going to be spent engaging in bedroom acrobatics, so the real key is how compatible your personalities are. That obviously can cover a multitude of things & all of them can, or may, play a part. You should have at least a general idea of how the non-intimate time will be spent, & both feel comfortable with it...definitely something that should be discussed in advance.
So I wouldn't suggest that you plan something like this with a gal that you don't already feel you know pretty well..it'd probably be a real bitch to find that you didn't click with the gal & end up looking forward to the departure.
I did a weekend trip and it was fantastic. We had a lot to talk about and many hours were not devoted to bedroom activities. I could see feeling trapped if the personalities didn't click. We were together the whole time, and I loved the fantasy of having a beautiful woman on my side. We are good friends and we still talk about the trip.
Things to think about are smoking, snoring, eating habits, types of entertainment, etc. It could be a long trip if there are no compatibilities in these areas. If successful, it could build fond memories for a long, long time.
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I love traveling so much . 2morrow morning I will be off to Hawai celebreting a new beginnig. I think best policy is not to be to overwhelming when with a new person. A week can be a long time if you 2 don't know eachother , make sure you both your bounderies. xoxo Nadia
MakeLOveNotWar.
With the right person, it's wonderful. With the wrong one, it would probably be awful. That's no different from taking a trip with a GF you'd not been away with before on a lengthy trip.
If you like the lady, do it, but be very sure you like her for more than just the sex.
I have tried this ... with a truly beautiful one ... someone who looked like Cybill Shephard in her prime, with no exaggeration!
It ended up being a very strange and negative experience. It was a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hide syndrom. I had seen her at least 12 times before the sailing trip. BUT, it turned out she had major psychological problems.
I think she thought it was a "date", not a "business" trip, and that misconception, completely threw her out, and made her feel awful.
Looking forward to spending a few days with my ATF shortly! We've been to Chicago & South Padre Island & we'll be spending some time closer to home this time. Each trip, ranging from 2 to 5 days, was better than the last...as pointed out not 24/7 of play time but some experiences I'll never forget! Talking to the Lady about expectations & personal space is a good idea. Enjoy yourself.
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I had a number of such experiences. In one case, I met two independent providers in the Cleveland, OH area back in late 2002. I was there on business, and the three of us got together almost nightly for nearly a week. By the end of the week, I felt the three of us were very comfortable together, so I invited the girls to come east last February and spend a week with me at my home near New York City. I had a number of activities planned. And, as has already been mentioned, much of my itinerary didn't involve sex. At my home, my guests met two of the other provider girl friends I see socially, as well as one of my civilian girl friends.
We all went out for dinner. During the meal, one of the Cleveland providers, and one of my provider girls friends, met in the ladies room. There, the girl from Cleveland bragged that she had me on a line, and was going to take me for all she could. She clearly didn't understand the nature of my relationship with the lady to whom she spoke. Naturally, the comments got right back to me, and within hours, my new "friend" was on her way back to Cleveland (just THAT is punishment enough).
The rest of the week was spent primarily with the other Cleveland lady, who turned out to be one of the sweetest people I know, in or out of the industry. She has recently retired, but we're still in touch.
My point is (yes, there IS a point), even if you've reached a comfort level with a provider (and she with you) within the context of several comparatively short sessions in a hotel, this doesn't guarantee success LIVING with that person for a week or two.
An undertaking such as you're considering can be very expensive. You need to be very sure. Plus, it's wise to negotiate a bail-out option up front, in the event one or both of you realize you're miserable.
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the "parachute clause" LOW speaks of is absolutely critical to an extended contractual agreement with the lady in question.
i wouldn't go on a safari without making sure i could high-tail it out of there when the bull elephant charges! 
Thanks all for the advise.
It is expensive but I am going somewhere anyway so the added expense is really just her airfare and her meals. Interesting enough I took her to a dance club once and never had to buy a drink, guys kept buying them for. She would be a nightmare as a SO.
I thought about the Viking resort deal but have only seen an occasional review on it so I let that go for now.
As to a bail out we discussed it but she didn't want one and if I can tolerate my ex mother in law, I can tolerate anyone for a week given my respnses to her work ethic.
"I took her to a dance club once and never had to buy a drink, guys kept buying them"
for me, that kind of behavior would be intolerable (even if you're only paying for her "airfare and meals"). the whole idea behind these getaways IMHO is to have the lady treat you like a *king* 24/7 (within reason of course). but flirting with other men while on your tab is definitely not my idea of being "reasonable"
"As to a bail out we discussed it but she didn't want one"
hmmm... that's all well and good (i guess). frankly, i don't know her and i don't know you, but based on what i've heard so far, i would bail out NOW!
but, if you don't mind a little unsolicited (no pun) observation: Are you sure you want to spend a week with someone who won't consider a bail-out agreement, which IMHO, indicates trust issues?
And did you hear what you said, "...I can TOLERATE [emphasis mine] anyone for a week...?" I don't think the idea that you might wind up TOLERATING this lady should even be in your thoughts. If it is, you might be trying to tell yourself something.
Well,
First of all if I didn't want any opinions then I wouldn't have posed the question on a open forum. Second, although you are rather paltry with your reviews, your opinion regarding other matters discussed on the boards is one of the few I trust so I welcome any insight you might have. Ultimately what we as hobbyists decide to do is up to us no matter how stupid our actions may turn out to be.
I did offer a bailout to her but she didn't feel she needed one. I have seen her at probably her worst. (she got sick on me one time enough to where I almost took her to the ER)
I do agree tolerate was and is a bad word. Maybe compromise is better. The essence of any human interaction is compromise and while you may not need to compromise much in a one hour encounter, I would certainly think some compromise would be necessary over a weeks time. We have made some tentative plans as to what to do and I could actually use some time just to sit and chill so I am not really looking to be in perpetual motion the entire time.
So anyone else who has anything to say, feel free to fire away and just know, in line with the agreement we make everything we sign in I just consider it advise about fictional things that are never going to happen in reality anyway.
Just as with e-mail, it's not possible to hear the tone of voice the writer intended, nor see their facial expression or body language. As such, while I'm sure this was not your intention, one might read your message as a little argumentative, at least in the beginning. As I said, I know this wasn't the case, but I just wanted to point out to everyone how these things can get started. We should all try to use indications like [grin], to indicate an attempt at humor, which if misinterpreted, could lead to problems.
'Nuff said. Anyway...
I know I don't have a lot of reviews, and I've been wrestling with that situation. When I began this hobby, last August, I was in it for all the wrong reasons. Even now, I know I've got more emotions involved than I should for my own good. That having been said, I felt funny writing reviews about (what I saw as) intimate moments with a delightful woman. I would offer to write each lady a review, but explained I generally preferred not to do so, and why. I understand now that my actions where not really in the spirit of this board.
Also, a number of my earlier reviews didn’t make it to the board because of invalid web sites.
Another problem is this: As many of you know, I'm seeing several providers on a non-business, social basis. I'm therefore concerned about any perceived conflicts of interest. I'd rather not write reviews very often (reserving them for ladies outside my social circle), than have my integrity questioned. After all, if the community isn't sure whether my reviews are accurate, or are just trying to help out one of my f**k-buddies, then what value are my reviews anyway?
As soon as I posted, I thought there might be a misunderstanding. I am new at posting on boards so I will try to do better. I really do value your opinion. As soon as I get done with this, I want to look at the question you just posted. It blew me away the first time I read it so I want to think about it for awhile.
Please keep talking, I know there is one guy listenig to you.
Having done a couple of weekend trips myself, I have to agree with the general feeling of others here. The two of you must hit it off away from the bed for you both to have fun. Having just returned from such a trip myself I can honestly say that it was far more enjoyable over all. We shared one room and did stay together. We talked, went out, had fun. As long as you do your due diligence and get to know her before the trip you will have a marvelous time.
ShuadChaun
Hi, one other item that has not been discussed in this thread is "phone calls". Does your friend make and/or receive a lot of calls while she is with you? If the answer is 'yes', then you might want to discuss setting a limit on the number of calls (and length) that are appropriate.
One lady whom I see regularly gets so many calls that I kid with her about needing a phone "implant".
Just a thought... good luck
Yeah, she promised to tell everyone she was inaccessable because her phone does go off 24/7. I think we are going to need to set an hour or two off in the morning to take care of business since I can't really afford to fall off the face of the earth either.
