I love getting handjobs!  Dont' get me wrong - I love intercourse and giving and receiving oral.  But there's something about a good handjob, especially for the second pop, that I really love.  I don't know if it comes from years of masturbating.  I have also found that a lot of providers aren't very good at giving one and are a bit surprised when I request one.  I suspect that many providers and hobbiests think of handiwork as somehow not real sex.  Intercourse or oral are real sex in some minds, I think, because you can obviously give yourself one.  But the SPs who are skilled at it have given me some of the best orgasms of my life.  The SPs who are good at it also really like to give one once they get over the mild shock of me requesting one.  They tell me they like to watch the gyrations, the building excitement and the payoff from this perspective too.  It's a different perspective than you get in most intercourse positions.  And it's hard to get much perspective of the O when you're giving oral.  They like to watch the eruption and control with their skilled hands.

Just thought I'd throw this out there to see who agrees or disagrees.  I especially like to be on my knees kneeling over the lady and shoot all over her breasts, face and hair! BOINNGG!

Happy hobbying!

You make a very valid point. I think handjobs are very rarely requested, and just take place as a little something in between other activities. I myself will admit that I am not as skilled in this area as I could be, mostly do to lack of experience.

So what qualifies as a good handjob and/or what are some good techniques?

No.. i'm not in the least bit surprised..

The best handjobs are better than oral sex and far safer!   But it takes a while to perfect this fine art..

Well, thanks for bringing that up - and I learned something new. I guess, without realizing it until your post, that I somehow felt that offering a handjob would be insulting to you guys. As if to say, "I'm not going near that with MY mouth, but here, let me at least stroke you off!" - a sort of last resort to pleasure thing.
The only other way I've done handjobs is 1)while doing them with a strap-on, or 2) their request.

Thanks for the enlightenment.

... especially combined with kissing. Mutual masturbation while kissing is very much a turn-on (for me at least), equal to or sometimes moreso than a blowjob.

--b.

And moreover, she gives a awesome massage on top of it all. She is simply an beautiful angel! Love ya, Bexy!!

"So what qualifies as a good handjob ... ?"

Well, is she touching my dick? Yes.

Is she stroking my dick to get me off? Yes.

Then that's a good handjob. Plyaing with the balls and a little finger play on the anus feels good too. And don't be afraid to get a little rough with it, 'little' being the operative word there. If it's held up to the torment I've put it through all these years, you'd be hard pressed to hurt me.

Licks and kisses,
Jimbo

The best HJ's possible are from myself.  Why ?? because I've done it so many freegin' times that I've perfected it down to a science.  I don't see the point in paying someone to do that when you can do it yourself for free.

I pay for BJ's, full service, and all that other jazz because there's no possible way I can do it to myself.  If I could, well, then.....you get the picture.

so I thought if I mentioned it, it would be insulting..

Some of the most intense OH!s I've ever had were while me and my SO (back when I had one of those) mutually masturbated each other while DFK'g like teenagers.  

Sex is all between the ears anyway.  I guess some of us get off on having other people touch us and others don't.  Just like some of us are super ticklish and others not at all.  Some like Doggie others prefer Mish.  Some like Greek others can't go there.

Probably best to look at is as just one more available color on the palette.

The soft skin of a lady's hand strokin and rubbin all over down there is a great feeling.  I always request some extra HJ before moving on to other activities.  But I always have to ask,seems that the ladies under estimate how much some guys may enjoy this.

After the first pop, I sometimes need some extra effort to finish the deed, I always call on the HJ.  The fast/hard direct stimulation never fails. When CBJ only is offered,I usually give this a try for a bit but find I prefer the HJ to CBJ.    

...here is where some of the ladies in the AMPs excel.  What is key to a good hand job is body contact as well.  It seems that most women think that just the hands will do...this is rarely so.   Usually a wonderful massage, followed by soft contact and then a hand job and allowing the client to touch the provider will do the trick.

'haven't had the pleasure of Bexy-- yet-- but I want to give props to Michelle (downtown San Diego), who definitely makes an art of the hand release. The cool thing about it is, the chick is so definitely "doing" you; even a BJ can seem like the dude's in charge. But a fine stroking by a skilled provider-- that lady is doing you, fer sure.

I had a friend in college that happened to be a woman.  We were very close, but we both knew we were not going to be with each other in the end.  In short, we were best friends with a few benefits.  She had a boyfriend of sorts and didn't want to "cheat" on him by having intercourse or performing oral on another guy.

On the other hand, when we were together, things sometimes got a bit intense from an attraction point of view.  Her solution was quite unique.  She loved to DFK and DATY with me (for reasons too long to get into here) and was always wanting me to do that with her after long weekend study dates.  Her solution was that we could do DFK and DATY all we wanted and my reward was some of the most involved hand jobs known to man.  

She was expert at it!  She handled me with both hands while DFKing intensely.  She would take me to the edge, let me down and then take me up again to the edge several times before letting me release.  When she was not DFKing me, she would look straight into my eyes, smile suggestively and offer verbal encouragement.  She was totally in control and loved every minute of it.  

This was a great time for me and it allowed her to take total control of our pleasure (69 position was normal if I wasn't concentrating on her pleasure exclusively).  She said ours was the only physical relationship she ever had where she felt totally safe and total in control of the situation.

We parted after college, never to see each other again.  Those were some of the best years of my life.

Damn, I miss her.

Regards,
Loarthan

A handjob is preferable to a CBJ anyday.  I met a new lady several months ago.  After getting comfortable, and some DFK, she began a handjob while mentioning she loved cocks, and liked them in her hand, her mouth, etc.  Talk about exciting.  I almost lost it right there.  She had a soft touch and I could have been happy with that alone.  


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A handjob is preferable to a CBJ anyday.  I met a new lady several months ago.  After getting comfortable, and some DFK, she began a handjob while mentioning she loved cocks, and liked them in her hand, her mouth, etc.  Talk about exciting.  I almost lost it right there.  She had a soft touch and I could have been happy with that alone.  


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Required reading is a post by Corey Edwards from 7/30.

A great response included in the thread.

Well, I guess I'm overruled.  But I'm still sticking to my guns......HJ's aren't THAT good, IMHO (are they ??).

Anyways, my answer to the question of HJ vs CBJ ???

CBJ, of course (hey, that sounds like a good poll question).

If that was my choice, I might go with a very good HJ since I don't like to have my dick sucked through a sock.

See, someone else shares my sentiment as well. There is NO contest for me! If you did have a great HJ (BEXY!) from a certain young (BEXY!), very attractive (BEXY!) and sexy lady (BEXY!!) then your preference (BEXY!) would be the same!

One of the most wonderful ways to get off for me has been a BBBJ/HJ combo expertly performed by a few lovely ladies I have seen. It may be difficult to master as very few have tried it, but when it is done well, then it is simply like heaven to me!