I saw a provider last night. I've seen her many times and I consider myself as one of her good regulars. I had booked her for Thu evening and been looking forward to it as usual. She called me around 4pm that day to cancel the appointment because she wasn't feeling good. Things happen so I said "OK". She suggested to get together the following night (last night) and I said "OK".

When I entered the room, it was very humid inside and she told me a guy just left and she took a quick shower... The bed wasn't ready (messy and later I found some stains on it). I should have left at this point but.... She had almost no energy to have fun with me. Then, when my time (an hour) was nearly up, she told me to leave because she was expecting another guy to call her in 5 minutes.. WTF!!

She's told me numerous times that she is a low volume provider ("I see only one a day and work a few days a week") and not a clock watcher. I used to believe that and in fact, she used to allow me to stay well over my time. She cancelled on me which was fine but then she put me, a good regular, in the middle of sessions with no "chill out time" in between, the bed wasn't ready and she kicked me out 5 minutes before my time was up....

How could the provider do this to her regular who has seen her more than 20 times in the last 6 months????

so live and learn.  Find another.   If you've had any kind of life, you've been screwed before, and will be screwed again, and I'll bet there are enough people complaining about you too, whether you should know it or not.

She blew it.  Don't go back. Let it go and move on.  And understand the risks of getting into any woman more than she's into you.

What you had was called the proverbial "hot sheet" experience. In other words, the last guy wasn't out of the room long enough to let the sheets get cold. Oooh yummy! Just what we all want right?... NOT!

I'd just chalk it up to the fact that she had a rough week. Next time you'll no better.

Personally, I don't like booking providers on a Friday or Saturday night. For the same reason I don't like to be on the road at that time. Too much traffic.

You may want to reflect back on the last few times you saw her. If they were not on a Friday night that tells you something.

I find my best sessions are when I'm the first of the day. So I often will try an AM session or at least an early afternoon. Some girls even give a discount for daytime sessions. Although that isn't what I look for. I'm more interested in their energy level.

Good post though.

If you haven't left out any details, this provider is a horrible wench. 20 visits in 6 months? She should bring you a pipe and slippers when you arrive. There is no excuse for such shabby treatment for a regular(or anyone else), take the other posters' advice and put her in the rearview mirror asap, but make sure you write a review and warn the rest of us, I don't want anything to do with someone like you described. I bet she wasn't even sick the first night, she probably booked another client she preferred. Low class beeyotch

Years ago I had a few providers do the same type of thing. Except they could not reach me to call me to cancel for outcall. One of the providers had the gall to have me throw out out the condoms from guys she had seen that day. I never saw her again.

Providers will say a alot of things. I have had a few tell me that they are low volume. They will say things like that if they know you like to book multiple hours.

I am finding out that some of these women have alot of financial problems. As the real estate bubble begins to pop and foreclosures come around you will see the provider market get larger with more and more providers. They would rather be a provider than to see their houses taken away. If you become a regular they appreciate the serving you.

Sounds like it is time for you to find another provider.

not to see her again. In fact, i've started seeing some others  lately ISO a new ATF or two. Just in case thigns like this happen.

I think, too, that she wasn't sick that night. Probably she received a last minute call from someone new. In fact, it wasn't the fisrt time she cancelled on me in the last minute. I recall that she told me one day that new clients are as important as her existing regulars, if not more, in order to maintain a consistent supply chain. She knows that the regulars could move on to someone else at any time. I may review her and mention this in it..

Have fun guys!!

Geez, you'd think your girlfriend stood you up and boned another guy, they way you cry on....  She's a WHORE, dude, not your lover.  And there are THOUSANDS out there who will blow your mind and other parts of your body.  Now, get on the web, read some reviews, and get a new booty call baby....  MA

but angry. If it had been my first time with her, I would have been ok, saying "well, bad luck. Next". I know there is a risk and I've been unluckly many times, therefore, I'd rther stick with someone that I realy like.

Like I said, I've seen her many many times so my reaction is different. She runs the business and I've been a frequent flyer. Besides the money involved, there is an issue towards my loyalty.

At last, I wouldn't call her "whore" even though she mistreated me.

I have a list of 4-5 ladies that I see regularly, of course there are a couple on that list that I see more than the others. If I get any weird vibes, or misbehaviour from any of the ladies, I'm history. I just move on to the next. Providers are NO different from regular civilian ladies. Bottom line, I'm a nice guy up to a point, I expect mutual respect from both parties, if that is not there, it's time to find someone else. Believe me ladies are quite good at figuring out those who will take their BS and those who won't.

Sorry, but if you have seen this gal 20 times in the last 6 months, maybe you should not have brought this to the boards without confronting her first. You must have some sort of "friendly" relationship with this person, and probably owe it to her to point out the error in her ways. Who knows, maybe she takes a lesson from this and improves her "customer service" level. I would not be saying this if you weren't talking about your ATF, obviously someone who you truely enjoy spending time with...Just my .02.

NSF

Maybe she's using that ol' 'it's not you, it's me' break up ploy; make them break up with you by behaving badly so you won't have to actually confront them. One way or another, she's sending you a message.

The more real it gets the more REAL it gets. Just like marriage providers and clients alike can start taking each other for granted.
You have a choice here that is not so readily available in a civvie relationship. You can talk it out, express your dissatisfaction in hopes she addresses your wants or you can simply let your fingers (and pecker) do the walking and begin the laborious search (note sarcasm) for a new ATF.

  Cm.  

A lady I've seen regularly for 3-4 yrs began to take me for granted, so I started seeing other ladies, now if she does'nt see or hear from me in 4-6wks, she calls to find out how I'm doing. I'm single so I don't mind her calls.

Well, looking at the positive side, at least she took a shower!  I've had worse and fully appreciate how unhappy you are.  For what its worth, I've had these kinds of arguments with my atf and she will fly straight for a while but invariably she will slip because she needs the money or just got lazy or just messed up.  There were some great posts a while ago that really helped me understand the benefits and drawbacks associated with being a regular.  How the ladies can take you for granted, how they reschedule you because they know you will always be around, how you end up being essentially a lower priority.  They also have no fear of us, since we won't really post a negative review.  I'm sure you put up with it for the same reasons that I do, which is that this is a special lady who can send me to the moon when she wants to.  Part of the reason I get so upset about the inflated ratings on TER is that I'm usually looking for somebody hot enough so that I can move on after a bad experience with my ATF and the last thing I want is a plain overpriced provider.  I'd like to know how you resolve this issue too.  I'm pretty sure I'll be in the hunt for a new atf, as that is really the only answer.

I've been thinking about this and come up with similar points.

I believe that we've developped some kind of friendship. We've done some "off the clock" things but when it comes to business, it doesn't really matter to her. I'm just "one of them" and I'm sure she has more than one frequent flyer. As far as priority goes, yes, I think I'm a lower priority b/c, like you said, she knows I'm always around wanting to see her. To be honest, I've been flexible with my appointments. Maybe too flexible and that's my fault.

Maybe, it's not entirely her "fault". She just had a new review posted here and I'm sure she received hundreds of emails. Some of us could be too pushy as to when they want to see a provider. I'm sorry that providers have to put up with this.

From this experience, I don't really see much benefits being an "extremely" frequent flyer. More drawbacks. After all, it's business and we spend an hour ro two in a room.

Moving on!!

It sounds like you are normally pretty spoiled "ie. that she normally allows you to stay well over your time" and the one time that you are not it upsets you.

It sounds like she was trying to fit you into her schedule because she felt bad for having to cancel on you the day before.

If this is not normal behaviour I wouldn't stress over it......if she is getting to the point of taking you for granted then you need to talk to her about it....At the same time though it sounds like you are doing the same with staying overtime and let me guess (you also get a less than listed rate???)

This is what happens when the boundries get crossed.

Best of Luck,
Summer

I've had similar experience with my ATF though not quite as extreme as yours. See her less, like once every two months.

Also part of the problem may be that she's getting resentful about you staying overtime (and not tipping). Or the problem could be that she's getting bored with you and wouldn't mind losing you as a client. Or she's the type simply doesn't know how to run her business. (Ladies, think, if you don't have your regulars and have to constantly look for new clients, how well would you do in your business)

Avoid saying things to providers that would tell them that you could be taken for granted. I once made the mistake of telling my ATF "I would keep on seeing you until you retire."

She'd been "a no clock watcher" and that was one of the reasons why I liked her and had been seeing her frequently. I'd never stayed with her two hours for a one hour appot. Simply we didn't "end our conversation" because my time was up. I saw a few providers lately and they all didn't rush me out. Yes, I stayed with them overtime.

No, I'd been paying the full donation for each appot. Never thought about getting a discount or anything like that.

Yes, she was trying to put me in her busy schedule but three guys in three hours (is this how you run your business, OCSummer??)? Give me a break. We could have waited one more day..

...and she tells me she's increasing her rates. I told her I'll have to get back to her on that. I then looked up her number in my cell phone address book and pressed the delete button. Lucky for me I have a 4 other regulars I can still see.

and I like the last advice - Avoid saying things to providers that would tell them that you could be taken for granted. I once made the mistake of telling my ATF "I would keep on seeing you until you retire."

Thanx

I did the same thing with 2 different providers. Actually found another provider with better service and more things on the menu.

-- Modified on 11/13/2005 7:55:58 PM

My previous ATF took me for granted in a somewhat similar (although not as bad) way as yours did.  Instead of getting a call from me (or email) at the "expected time" (I was just a 1x a month client), she got a call from another provider who was seeking to verify me, as I had used her as a reference.  After seeing this new provider 4 times and two others, I went back to my old ATF after a 6-month absence.  I never told her that I'd stopped seeing her b/c of the poor service on our last visit.  But she was smart enough to know.  I told her that I'd missed seeing her those past 6 months.  We had a great "round".  In between rounds she asked me if I'd seen any other providers and what my experiences had been?  I told her everything honestly and in details.  I told her that she was my ATF b/c of our conversations with each other, specifically like the one we were engaged in at the moment.  Now, keep in mind the other three providers I'd seen in her 6-month hiatus had been good-to-great experiences, and I told her so.  I simply told her, that my AATF (almost all-time favorite) charged almost twice as much as she did, thus I was back.  I also explained that due to some employment issues that I was having, that I had no money left over for our next monthly visit and that it might take me a couple of months to "squirrel away" the funds.  (You guessed it, I'm married with a wife that WILL notice large chunks of money suddenly disappearing).  My ATF stunned me when she said that she would be willing to "work with me" on that issue.  I told her that was great to hear since my wife and kids were going to be out of town for a weekend in just a couple of weeks and that it sucked not having the funds already in place to secure a "date".  She told me not to worry about it and give her a call.  Bottom line:  I saw my ATF on a 3-hour date for 50 bucks.  It was a great time, totally redefining the GFE definition for me.  So, I'm trying as hard as I can to "squirell away" her normal fee (since I don't want to assume that she'll see me that cheaply again) so that I can see her as soon as possible.  Boy, am I glad I gave my "previous ATF" a second chance.

did she stop being your ATF for six months?

-- Modified on 11/14/2005 4:10:42 PM

Well, I was only seeing her 1x month and I am married, so I do get it at home...some.  But, after she took me for granted she did cease being my ATF as I elevated the other lady that I'd seen 4x to that status.  But as I already stated above, she was charging about twice as much.  And while the sex was great, she didn't converse as easily (or sincerely) as my previous ATF.  Currently, I'm trying to squirrell away enough dough to see them both (separately).  Although, my ATF will get seen much more frequently than the AATF.