...when trying to select a new provider?  I look at BP, Eros and a few other sites to find someone newly posted who seems interesting. I google their PN and hope to see a TER profile.  I look to see if they are reviewed anywhere else.  I try to screen out the young ones who are desperate, the drug addicts, the very fat, and the ones who seem really down on their luck.  

I look for the providers who feel good about what they do and regard it as a service business.  I am not looking for a girlfriend.  I want someone with a clean place (without all the junk piled up that some ladies have), who is available on time and with no up selling.  I really hate the ala carte menu (kiss my pussy - $50 extra, play with my nipples - $25 extra).  

I am willing to pay for someone who provides good service.  I have learned the hard way that economy providers are usually not good.  But I can think of a couple of exceptions.  

What steps do you take to find and screen someone new in your city?  Any warning signs that you sense may signal a problem?

yet, you are coming across as a newbie.

what gives?

That way your mind remains open and fresh, and it helps to avoid becoming jaded.

I look back fondly on the time that I was a newbie, and wish some of that magic was still around.

His question is also a good one to pose for all of us.  It has me wondering about something I didn't know I needed to wonder about.

To answer it:

There are a myriad of reasons I decide to see someone.  I think the most potent is the photos.  Some photos just grab me and if after some further research I decided to go for it, things usually work out well.

Some gals contact me.  I'll admit to being somewhat flattered by this, but I know that's just a deception.  On the other hand, Being logical about what to do with one's cock is a bit of a contradiction.  

Then there are the "attitude" gals that often appear on these boards.  I love a good "tude" now and then.  They tend to be the spunky ones.  (And that is a double entendre.)

Thanks to the OP for giving me something to think about this lovely Sunday morning.

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the book has his real name. (assuming it's not his pen name)
 

By the way, are you still 10.5 light years from earth?

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First Apu, and now Epsius. Has the board lost it's ability to NOT take everything so fucking literally?

Braves...

and by that I mean the Braves are a bad joke, but they have shown some offense lately, not last night of course, but over the last week or so the bats seem to have woken up.

Those bats are as good as the sweet spot on the bats, since they seem to go for the fences every other opportunity..

My experience as a newbie and how I went about it:

1. Photos first to show at least body type and maybe face.

This is the start to pique my interest. Check all sites by plugging in phone number in a search engine. I liked what I saw in the provider I choose and her photos were professional, and not a selfie with a cell phone. Then it’s onto the next important step: Reviews on her.

2. Many written reviews with the majority that are positive

Even if you’re not VIP on TER, ones that have ten or more written reviews in the General Details can give you a sense of how she looks and performs. I look for similarities of what others have said, and it’s intriguing that once the meeting takes place how some of the written descriptions came across quite truthfully in appearance, attitude and work ethic. If I see three or more YMMV from different reviewers out of a dozen reviews, to me it’s a red flag, and I’ll probably not contact that provider. (I’m thinking here there can be inconsistencies in that provider which may have to do with health and mood as in lack of interest then a session with an undesirable client). Also, if I don’t see up-to-date reviews, than that’s also a red flag, as there can be various reasons for it, but mostly, I have nothing recent to go on.  

3. Providers profile.

As far as the provider’s profile, what I look for is a stated non-smoker. This may be a sign that they take care of their health and has more stamina during an hour session. (It doesn't mean I rule out smokers, as long as they don’t some during a session, though). Then I look at the provider’s attitude and education. The provider’s profile I read said she was into her health and no drama; it piqued my interest. She came across as being educated, too.

4. Donation

Okay, this one can be different for everyone. As some clients have deep pockets and others don’t. I don’t have deep pockets and could not afford to risk the unknown, yet with all of the above, and doing research on the average rate, I choose someone in the 200-300 range for one hour. This amount seemed fair enough. Anything less could mean a less than attractive or over weight provider who is not into her health and may be desperate, or they had add-ons during the session. (Now there are some exceptions with lower donation and great service, but I did not want to take this chance first time). Anything more is out of my donation range.

5. Risk

It takes risk to meet someone for the first time, especially independents. (I've heard more praise from some who choose agency providers. Maybe there is more at stake with them because their reputation is linked to the agency.) Yet, if you want it bad enough, a risk must be taken, or look at it as an adventure?

6. Educated guess or luck?

In some ways I feel very lucky in having a first time success. Screening was almost non-existent, which made it easy same day, and she was terrific. Afterwards, I felt I was off to a great start. The best I can answer here is that the homework paid off with my educated guess.

(If you read this far, thank you.)

7. Newbie vs. experienced

The experience hobbiest has a lot more to add than a newbie, however, the more providers they see the more comparisons they can make to each session as in good, bad or fair from spinners to milfs to gilfs. Some have many great sessions, and some take the less than stellar experience in stride, while others complain (Perhaps rightly so, at least to inform others with not only said looks and services not delivered, but those being late, no-shows or no-shows when the provider gets all your personal information, or takes a deposit and doesn't show; worse, takes your money and runs. Okay, the experiences are fantastic, then there’s the worry about STDs. Also, some experienced clients take more risk without doing the homework and wind up getting busted by LE. Just saying, I've seen all of this on the general discussion boards and I've come away being more aware of the pitfalls. (Note: This is not a reflection on the professional providers, and those that come across a bad apple or two. I understand they have their stories and a blacklist.)

 
To conclude, it seems to be well worth it though, being the power, drive and command of that other head; the thrill of it all in hopes of the desired outcome, when after doing the homework and what’s left of caution from newbie to experienced is thrown to the wind. There’s nothing quite like great sex with a woman (I can’t think of too many other things that can make me feel more alive), who just happens to be the right provider for you

and the Braves have a horrible strike out percentage.

It's great when they are hot, but they don't seem to remember how to play "small ball" when the occasion calls for it.

I go by reviews, not prices.....

I would go so far as to say that what I have seen generally is that if there is such a thing as a price / performance correlation it is decidedly *not*  higher prices = higher performance actually....

in my market area somewhere between 100 to 50 less than they typical price range seems to yield highest performance *and* appearance in my experience - and you don't have to see "fat" providers who live at a distance to accomplish this....

you may find it interesting for you to do a review search using metrics -  say 8.5 average for performance and appearance combined - in your area - and see where the prices are mostly falling -  your area may be different from mine.....

note that by performance I am not meaning "gfe choreography" I am talking about sex.  I am surrounded by women who will talk my ear off all day long for free.....   it seems to be a rather common trait :p    

so in your review search you may have to read some reviews,  so that you can discern between mongers who are looking for a pseudo-girlfriend-hand-holding-pseudo-therapist and those who are looking for actual sucking and fucking....

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My 1st review here on TER was from a client that in his words, never saw anyone that wasn't heavily reviewed.  It is a funny story.  He came across my ad and looked to see if I had any review and I did not.  So he moved on.  But something kept bringing him back to my site.  So he contacted me and asked if I had any reviews anywhere.  I did not but directed him to a good friend of mine who had hundreds of reviews here on TER.  He contacted my friend to see if I was legit but still didn't trust her recommendation and booked with someone else.

The girl he booked canceled last minute so he gave me a try.  He booked for 3 hrs but asked if I would be available to stay longer if we hit it off.  I told him my schedule was completely open.  That 3 hr turned into 3 days.  

When he booked the 3 hrs I flirtatiously said "you won't want to let me go" and I was right.  At the end of the first 3 hrs, he asked if I would stay the night.  The next morning he asked if I could stay another day/night, and the following morning the same thing.  I was not living in the city we met and had to keep calling the airline to extend my ticket.  He had to keep going to the bank to pay my donation.

Since that first meeting I have gone on many trips with this client and he is one of my ATF clients.  So, i understand not wanting to step out and try something that has not been tested and reviewed, but just sometimes you may discover something GREAT

When they are hot, there is no team like the Braves..

the pictures might be of another girl entirely

might be the girl when she was younger / thinner

might have been taken by "Aldo" or one of the other "professional" photographers
they love,  who take pounds and years off of them with photoshop

now admittedly I have different appearance preferences than most of my fellow mongers it seems -    

but I have identified fellow travelers over time whose preferences are similar.....

would you shop for a new car or a new suit or anything really by images alone?    

the images are designed to pull you in -    

better in my view and experience to go with reviews...

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I like to get discussion going and learn something new.

I wish the same could be have said about the Braves today, but it doesn't matter much to me as I didn't have a penny bet on either game today.

It actually is a welcome to hear that you find reviews outshine the photos, and that the faith in those reviewers' comments, although they are strangers, reflect an honest opinion among many mongers here on TER. In my limited experience, I've found it uncanny on how similar comments in reviews came to fruition when I met the provider.

I still like seeing the photos first, and backed up with reviews that state the pics are accurate is a big plus

All of the providers I've seen have had their faces obscured in some fashion. All of their reviewers described their faces as "beautiful", "stunning", "like a model", etc.  

With a couple of them, when they opened the door, my first reaction was, "huh?"  Not my idea of beautiful at all. Tastes differ.

When faces are blurred sightly in photographs, I can usually make out some features. There's a very highly rated provider who's been on the Photo Forum lately, and her customers have just raved about her looks. I can tell through the blur that her face isn't one I would find attractive, although I know the look and most guys do like that look.  

I've looked at photos of providers who've been favorably reviewed by some of the forum members, and I'd say most appear to not be my taste. If I just went by the reviews only, I'd be disappointed.

To say that I have different tastes than many reviewers is quite the understatement as I feel like not just some, but many reviewers, quite frankly have no taste at all.

Except for a very small handful of friends, I would much rather simply know "are the pics real?" "Are the pics accurate?" and leave it to my own eyes to make a judgment.

I really have a hard time believing what some guys consider beautiful

first - I've taken note of reviewers who have similar tastes - and vice versa apparently - as we seem to see a lot of the same providers and sometimes contact one another for the scoop.....

and

I tend to go with trusted agencies who have never yet put me in the room with a disappointment

I wish I were there at the Park today.. I even flirted with the thought of going today, but then said to myself that I was just there on Wednesday, and again going next week. So I dismissed it..  However, I did enjoy the game on TV..

Poor Giants..