Been out of the hobby for a few years...  not sure what has changed and how to get back into it...  Any pointers from providers?

In 5 yrs not a whole lot.. In 25 yrs.. a lot..   But again, the more things change, as they say, the more they remain the same.  

As a long time VIP provider allow me to chime in. We are all very different as humans. Everyone has their own preferences & desires. I take each booking and customize the experience to fit the needs of my friends.

You should be following/posting activities on your regional board. Circumstances and situations can be quite different in different areas of the country. You can't assume what applies 'there', applies 'here'.

Find what looks good and is reviewed. Make appointment. Plop down monies. Get wet.