Ladies - when a gent books an extended date involving dinner or other social time, do you like to be involved in the planning - i.e. where to go to dinner or what activities to do  - or do you just want the guy to make the plans?

I have an overnight coming up with a wonderful lady.  I've seen her a few times so I have a pretty good idea of what she likes to eat, but in terms of getting dressed up for a nice restaurant or something more casual, then where to go afterwards, etc., do you like when a gent asks you for your thoughts or preferences or do you just prefer to go along with whatever he decides?

I like to be included in the dinner date plans. I just flew to Sacramento for a dinner date last night. We planned everything together. Many emails over a month back and forth anticipating our date. It’s always nice to be included. I’m just speaking on myself personally. You should really ask your date.

I love to research places to go and things to do!  And doing it with a client is such a wonderful way of getting to know each other and form a connnection.  Besides, I know lots of great places in NYC and may be able to you some.  The Ideas page of my website often shows places I love to go to.  

It's just the thing to warm me up!

Xoxox

Jenny

I’d assume they’d want to be included. I’m starting to want to do more of these longer engagements actually. Depending on the relationship we have/have not had, the way I’ve engaged differs.  

What I will say is that I’ll probably continue doing what I’ve been doing for engagements of 4+ hours:
- text or email back and forth with longer messages to avoid too much back and forth / time wasting
- offer compensation for a bit more dedicated attention texting / emailing
- offering a virtual date over zoom or something to talk through plans

So far, being inclusive and thoughtful has been very much appreciated by my companions. Good luck!

I personally enjoy being included especially for a first date. It helps creating a connection before we even meet.
I do love when regulars surprise me though.  For example, last time I was in Boston I wanted to try out a restaurant and didn't have the time to. One of my regulars remembered and surprised me with a dinner reservation.  
Let's just say he got an extra big thank you later...

especially one that doesn’t involve us aimlessly wandering the streets pretending we’re “spontaneous.” 😏 That said, I’ve got a few ideas up my sleeve too (some of them even appropriate for public). For an extended date, I say let’s mix it up: you take the lead, I’ll add the spice… and together, we’ll make it a night to remember—and maybe recover from.