I've always tried to select a lady that I think I would be comfortable sharing my personal information with. So far, I've been pretty fortunate, except for a couple of Backpage disasters, but there's no personal information involved there.

There have been a few times that, for one reason or another, I didn't feel that comort level. As much as I would have liked to see that lady, I just passed. On the other hand, I've had other times when a lady never called me back, so maybe she didn't feel comfortable either.

Re: Reviews, private info, and the provider/hobbyist relation..

This statement your making, "But just because she has a page of reviews - does not an honest girl make... Get my drift..
Dishonest providers hurt us all.. Providers and hobbyist alike.."
makes little sense.


I think the average hobbyist is smart enough to make a distinction as to whether or not a provider is legitimate.  Trust and believe if a provider has pages and pages of reviews and not one stating she tried to use his personal info for her own personal gain.  I doubt if she will start now.

Seeing the extortion post below, I understand where your concern is coming from, that is absolutely scary.
Give yourself time you are very attractive = ) .....eventually you will make a reputation for yourself,  but in the meantime I dont believe that situation is the norm and we should stray way from insinuations or undermining the integrity of other providers to establish one's self.



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I was just discussing this issue with my photographer the other day...I use my escort name for modeling assignments, and couldnt figure out why some photographers just wouldnt shoot with me or acted completely inappropriately. The fact is, I cannot change the stigma that comes with being an escort and most people dont want to be affiliated with that. Try as we may to have good morals and treat people with respect, there are still girls out there pulling scams and ripping people off and calling themselves escorts. The best thing you can do is try to establish a reputation and rise above that.

you gotta say WTF.. Either you do go through with it or you don't. At some point you need to trust the person in a place where trust isn't a given. By the same reasoning that you trust the person driving the other way on a 2 lane road isn't going to cross the center line and wipe you out in a head on collision.

I spend a fair amount of time researching a provider before I take the plunge, but there are no guarantees. Crazy stuff can happen to anyone at anytime. Let's not kid ourselves either. Even if a provider says she destroys the info, if it was sent electronically it is findable. What drives me insane, is when you fill out a form and you never receive any contact from the provider, ever!!!

Hobbyists, generally never know who they are dealing with. A smart provider can be in business or out of business within a day. Throw away the pre-paid cell, take down the website, don't access the anonymous email and walk away back into civie-life. Find & frequent the ones that are legit and you personally get a good feeling from.

Providers: I don't blame a bit for the info they want. Safety first and either the prospect complies or you don't see him. You're safety isn't worth the fee. Safety First.

I really don't know if I answered anything or that was just a rant. lol

B