I prefer that all of the activities of the date be those that give *me* pleasure. I am after all paying for the time.
I like kissing - its sensual, pleasing, builds a connection and it revs me up. Once I'm hard I'm ready to go.
I love daty as well but I'm not going to invest a great deal of the time I've donated for in the project if the 1hr or whatever is going to be adhered to rigidly.
I want to f@ck in my favorite positions and enjoy a liesurely bbbj finish.
If there's time left, I like to cuddle and have the "getting to know you" convo at that point.
Or if there is plenty of time left and / or the lady is being flexible I am very happy to daty to O for her.
If I know a lady well and enjoy her I am happy to donate for a longer date so that her pleasure and mine may be enjoyed in a more natural fasion.
and never will ask a lady for just one hour of her time. After an hour, I'm still exploring all of my favorite parts. Every lady's breasts are different, and every lady's pussy is different. Why not get to know them on a much more personal level. I've always been partial to the personal touch, from lips, to legs, to breasts, to belly, to neck. I want to have plenty of time to explore every squre inch that's available to me. And of course, the exploration needs to be a mutual experience.
Once the kissing starts, I'm already hard, but the foreplay needs to happen for a good long time.
...to know exactly when the clock starts running? Does it start when the door opened? When we adjorn from the small-talk and pre-game drink on the sofa? Ladies might consider letting the gentleman know what is and is not 'on the clock'. I personally like to spend a bit of time relaxing and making the transition to the bedroom and it would just be nice to know how to pace things.
MVR
I can assist with "when the clock starts" question. That would be when I open the door. With the gents I see that's the way it has been for years and they don't have any issue with it. That time includes any chit chat.
For me, the "clock" starts when the action starts to get intense......but even then, it's kinda a grey area. Some guys book an hour and get right to it for an hour. Some like to kiss a bit, relax and talk. For me, this is fine. I have some hour sessions run 2 hours, because we were talking and playing around. I am getting good money for what I do. I will not worry about it if we are both having a good time.
Every man is different. Speaking only for myself, I need to start a little slow and build up. Takes maybe 10-15 minutes depending. (Hint: presence of an erection doesn't signal readiness. I'm a man, I can get an erection from the Dow Jones.(*grin*)) Part of that time is needed for us to adjust to each other's kissing styles, body types, etc. In my limited experience, good providers are super sharp at reading body language and even eye movements, so they can usually make it all flow naturally. They know when foreplay is over even if the man doesn't. It's almost spooky. (*grin*)
I like conversation *after*, but I definitely like it; so all the "action" should be done with 15-20 mins left in the appointment. I genuinely like women so that part is as important as all the rest.
By the time I enter her room I've been horny for hours so I like to get to know the girl after were naked DFKing and getting ready for the big show. I love DATY and BBBJ's but if time is an issue I'd like DFK while in cg and grabbing your ass
I just wish that some gents would realize that masshing on a clit as hard and fast as you can is NOT "foreplay",and does NOT feel good. Also, when a gent says "in a minute", when,after much foreplay and the provider asks if he would like to maybe do something else,that is cutting into his time, and he shouldn't complain if his time runs out!
Sometimes men need a 2x4 instead of a subtle suggestion. Also, if a guy is doing something that doesn't feel good to you; you should try to instruct otherwise!
I had a girlfriend who liked having her nipples sucked ridiculously hard. So guess what I tried with the next girl? Yup -- jumped on those nipples like a Hoover. Did she like it? No way! But the good thing is she said "I don't like that, but I DO like this" and demonstrated.
With a provider, I'm not paying to have my ego stroked so a bit of instruction doesn't hurt my feelings .... But, like I said, subtle doesn't always work.
on a lot of variables. For example: How much chemistry between the guy and the lady? Is she "into the date" or going through the motions?
The foreplay lasted a long time during one of my recent dates. The ending was extremely intense and drained me for the evening. Sometimes I can get the 2nd pop in a 2-hr. date and sometimes it just doesn't happen; despite how attractive the lady is or how good the chemistry is between us. I'm beginning to think it is mental.
If the mood is right, foreplay may play a big part in a session, exploring one another's bodies, kissing, etc.
For me, it really depends on the mood of both myself and my ATF. I'm not so concerned with my own pleasure; if she's having a good time, I know I will, and my pleasure will occur.
Therefore, my concentration really is on her. Sometimes, there is a LOT of kissing and caressing, because we both want to feel needed and loved. There's been times where we didn't even have sex - just a lot of foreplay, and that was fantastic!!!!
Other times, we've spent time on DATY, and she's had an incredible orgasm, and then we go for it.
And there's also times where the animalistic instincts just take over, and there's very little foreplay...
In any case, we do watch the time, but because she's kind of selfish (*grin*) and likes to have her own orgasms too, we do run over sometimes.
Personally, I love the foreplay. The talking, kissing, touching, caressing, massaging...that's how you get to know someone. Sure, it counts towards the clock, but I let her decide what is enough or too much. I like talking about what you want, what you like and don't like, so communication isn't a problem.
Have fun out there!
