Basically. I'm dying to go see someone but I can't.

Its so frustrating

Going through a divorce and I need to keep my finances straight until I know the outcome, It sucks.  

I guess I'm already being "screwed," in a sense.

Sigh, maybe I just miss the closeness of a woman, feeling her hair in my face, her touch. All that good stuff.

Think positive. You will get through this divorce and things will turn around, then you will be able to see her.
There are a number of things you can do to help turn the tide. Take a second job, clean out the garage, basement and attic and have a yard sale.
Establish a hobbying budget (if you don't already have one) and adjust the number of visits accordingly.
Do you have any specific skills, service or talents that you can offer and she might need? If so, then once you have esablished yourself as a reputable & respectful client you might ask her about bartering. Just some random thoughts that might help you.

Perhaps if you told us the reason you can't we could offer advice.


Thank you
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I try to remove the obstacle, though it's often not possible (beyond my rational budget even with saving, in a place I never get to, retired, I don't meet her qualifications, etc).

If I can't remove the barrier I move on.  Bemoaning the problem does no good.

I certainly DON'T look to see someone who "almost is like her" because the comparison will never be fair to the provider I was able to see.

She'll wear down eventually.  Either that, or I'll get a stalking charge.

or just give her half and walk away. Divorce is a bitch eh?

Looks like you'd just have to save up & keep her on your "to-do" list.

Never one to see someone that bad. You have got to keep things in perspective!

There are decent AMPs around with nice facilities and it costs less (around here it is $80 + $40-$80).  I even know one girl who is almost GFE in her performance.

Remember, divorce is just a nice way of saying "I hate you, you fucking cunt.  Now go away and leave me be so that I can enjoy my life with my girlfriend".  Or so I've been told.  

You have start scrimping on cash expenditures you used to make, and start using that money for the hobby.

For example, I used to have lunch to the tune of $15/day, but I started to brown bag a sandwich and then put that lunch money to the hobby so that no one would know.

Same with laundry.  I learned to iron my own shirts.

Here's another angle:  Do you have a very trusting friend you can rely on?

If so, have them loan you the money until such time as the divorce decree is final.  Then you can lend the money back to him.  (Of course that is allowing that you have any to give back.)

Best wishes to you to get through this.

It's her way of saying:

I'm just going to keep your dick locked up in my safe for a while until you decide to give me twice what my ass is worth.

Ain't communication wonderful?

Divorce lawyers are sharks, and card players to boot.

They threatened to take it to trial and reveal all your nasty secrets to the world.

It's really legal extortion.

I'd have been grateful to settle for half.  I had to take a lot less.

Because the ladies I usually see are touring; and because I have a LOT to keep me busy on the home front ... sometimes I just can't make the schedules synch no matter how much I wish I could. My schedule has certain nexus points that pretty much rule out hobbying for a variety of reasons.

Likewise, what schedule I have is sometimes booked well in advance; and ladies who tour have a habit of all touring within the same time frame. In such cases, I would never cancel an existing appointment to see someone else.

So my solution? Wait.

If she's worth seeing, she's worth waiting to see.

I find out when she anticipates being here on her next tour, and make certain nobody else is scheduled during that time.

There is one lady who has an uncanny knack for scheduling her tours during the exact times when I have a certain very important thing I have to do that precludes hobbying. Very frustrating. But I'll simply wait it out. Eventually I'll have her behind closed doors; and I already know the wait will have been worth it.