The typical profile of men I hear most of the time is that we're all about sex and sexual attraction in terms of our relationships.  The story below seems to flip that view on its head.

 
Curious, for those that are married but seeking adventure outside the marriage, how does the story resonate with your own choices?

I don’t think so.  Is sex important?  I think so.  Is it absolutely essential for a good marriage?  “It depends.”  I think my marriage is strong and there’s been no sex for years.  It depends on how the couple deals with it.  For some couples, no sex can be intolerable.  Others, like my wife and I, are open and honest about it and have found ways to deal with our different needs for sex.  

 
As was said in the article, “Couples need to decide how honest to be with each other, how much this matter is a dealbreaker in staying together versus not, and how much weight should be given to this issue in light of other good things they have going for them.”

Not that they didn't want someone that inspired sexual attraction, those chicks aren't available to the average man, let alone less attractive men.
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80% if chicks are chasing 10% of men.  If these guys settle down after years of getting serviced by dozens of hopeful chicks, he's going to pick some young hottie.  The other chicks will have aged out and still be single in their late 30's and early 40's.  Having lost a lot of their youthful sexual attractiveness.  They then become available to the lower rungs of guys for commitment.

Must be good to be omniscient and know better than those directly involved what someone was thinking when they say things.

I find that the civvie girls that I had the best sex with, made the worst girlfriends.  Not sure I agree with the article that sex is the protein(main ingredient) of the relationship.  BEST sex girlfriends were crazy.  This is a good article though.  

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Communication builds solid relationships. Sex is definitely important. Pleasing your partner in aspects of life is what true love really is fulfilling their needs, wants & desires. If you married a person who your not sexually attracted to, or compatible, then hopefully you have an understanding that someone else will be filling in in that department.  

My Daddy used to tell me if you truly love a man you will cater to his needs. He used to reference the comedian Monique she did a skit saying I don’t care if he wants to stick it in your ear lol you better tell him you hear you cuming!
Basically, what you refuse to do expect them to go get elsewhere.  

I think Lester’s response was very interesting. I’m in my 40’s & although his analogy does not apply to me personally I can see he’s not wrong when looking at the majority. I see females literally chase men & use up all their good years. Only to look physically older, than their true age. Literally still young in years, but appear older than their actual & factual age.  

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are when they are known to run slowly.   Lol

 
Being single, I have been chased by providers looking for an exit strategy and a cushy retired life.  I won't consider that until I'M ready to retire, too.  I don't need some barely-still-hot retired provider laying on my couch watching soap operas and her ass getting bigger while she eats chocolates.  If I'm retired too, I can at least see that she goes to the gym with me everyday, or walks five and half miles around a golf course.  Lol

Being a Provider off & On for 26 to 38 years. And I was married for 11 years & 10 months of the time that I have been doing this. I think most guys believe that sex is 50% to 95% of what the marriage is.  And I disagree.  It's nice but if you base any portion of your marriage on just sex playing a part in anyway in your marriage and make that the main reason that you get married then you are doomed.

Someone who isn't very skilled or super attractive for purpose of long-term relationship. As long as these other boxes are checked. Even tho I am addicted to sex, I acknowledge there are far more important things for a relationship to work long-term.  

 
Dynamite sex but shitty everything else, versus dynamite everything else but shitty sex? For long term relationship, give me the latter. For short term relationship always give me the former! Lol.