C'mon guys, much of this biz is an acting job.

If I'm slapping her face with my Dick, whether she orgasms or not doesn't matter to me.

Ladies do you have an orgasm everytime you have sex?  Ulike Men, I heard that women only have orgasms 60 percent of the time.  They enjoy the sex, however, just don't have an orgasm.  Is this correct?   If so, how often do you fake an orgasm with your partner?

You drop an envelope, a woman has an orgasam.



Two if you tip.

Why do women fake? Two words: Male ego, or some would rather say "His Wallet".

Helllllllllllllllll no there is NO woman on this earth that has had an orgasm every single time she had sex! No way. And usually we don't get a chance to cum for two reasons: You came and quit, or you're not doing it the way she likes in order to make her orgasm. So she fakes to get it over with and to boost your ego. I personally think it's bullshit and I have even written about it on my blog a few months ago.
ie, I say don't fucking fake a damn orgasm. I've been there done that (but no longer fake or lie) and it is the dumbest shit!

Really, I'm trying really hard not to yell out loud to my computer screen at your question.

Anyways, as far as "Did she or didn't she", get real. She is on the clock and all about you. If she thinks it will turn YOU on that SHE orgasmed, duh she's going to say she came!

I've been in plenty of threesomes and I knew damn well the other girl was as fake as my titties!

And to touch back on my very first sentence in this post.. On the flip side, of course not all men have an orgasm every single time they have sex. The difference, if you'd like to know with your whole "I heard women 60% of the time". Ok, if we are cumming 60% of the time, then guys are cumming 98% of the time. It's what it is, some care some don't so boom, next. Unless it's a relationship where the guy goes all out of his way and truly cares and wants for her to cum, then maybe her percentage might be in the 80's.

Period.

And I was all giddy before I logged on. Skimmed through the threads and saw Orgasm for women and I thought Heyyyyyy, lol.

For the record, I'm only upset at the women, not at your unsureness of if she was legit or any of the guys comments, which I most of the time don't read anyway. Pisses me off that ladies left and right, fake the funk. Having a guy like you or whoever thinking it really went down, when it so did not.

Smh.

Yes I just vented! Kiss my …!

Now I'm happy again.

honestly, I will say hey lets try this or lets do it this way so that we can do it so I KNOW I will get off

along with the cash bonus  its a wonderful thing being a girl!  I agree with the above post with trying this or try that.  But I've got my ace in the hole that does it every time.  And if he pops before I do, Im more than willing to put on a show!

But, just to add to your extensive knowledge, I don't orgasm every time I'm with a woman.  And I have successfully faked it with one civvie girlfriend.  I liked her, she was pretty, but something about her just didn't do it for me.  And, by the way, I was seeing providers at the time, too, and coming every time.  But I saw this gal occasionally and it was fun in other ways to I didn't break it off.  She would get so wet and sloppy (like no one else I've ever been with) that it would have been impossible for her to figure out what was my cum and what was hers.  So, when I couldn't stand it anymore I'd pretend to come.  She never said anything to indicate she knew what was up.

Some of the gals state that they use the session to get off, and I am certain that some do.  But I am just as certain the majority (on an initial date minimally) either will "fake it" or just moan lots and give us that smile saying nothing.

The really good "fake" is OK by me, but the gals that do the "over the top" moaning and screaming is just too much for me to really enjoy my time.  It isn't all that terribly difficult (as one provider discussed) to tell when a gal is having an orgasm.  Most guys seem to be fairly oblivious to the signs, and are quite content to have the "moaning and such" be their cue for a "job well done" (and they discuss in their reviews how many O's she had).

So ladies, for those that are really getting off...keep up the good work.

And to those that will NEVER get off (which for this game I assume are most of you)...just find out what the "john" really likes as the fake O.  As I said, I despise the over the top crap, while I am sure that others just love it.  But that is why you gals get paid "the big bucks".

....oral sex most of the time (I'm not above teaching other how to get me "there"),  intercourse most of the time and at least once,  anal sex alone no. BTW most of time time is like 80% to me.

I don't fake .... if it doesn't happen with my partner I make it clear to him we're doing it again (so I do).

I want you to say, hey let's try this or let's do it this way, so you can get off. I'm all for it.

What happens during climax

After a woman becomes sexually aroused, her heart beats faster while her breathing quickens. Often, she'll tighten various muscles all over her body. Her breasts usually enlarge somewhat, the nipples tend to stand out while the areola become noticeably enlarged. Some women flush red on their face, neck and chest. The visible part of the clitoris also swells slightly.

Secretions occur inside and at the opening of the vagina. Her labia flatten and open. The vagina lengthens and widens internally, changing what was a potential space into more of an actual space. These vaginal changes are mainly a result of a rush of blood to the pelvic area -- called engorgement -- which provides a generally pleasurable warmth in a female's genital area.

As her arousal increases, so does engorgement as well as most of the changes mentioned above becoming more pronounced. The one area that doesn't follow this pattern is the clitoris. Instead of continually swelling, it actually begins to retract under the clitoral hood and decreases in length by about 50%. This is a sign that orgasm is imminent for most women, as long as optimal stimulation continues.

The orgasm itself begins with strong muscle contractions. These contractions can be finished within four seconds or last up to about 15 seconds. They tend to occur at intervals of 0.8 seconds. Also, the inner two-thirds of the vagina usually open up even more, while the uterus contracts.

During orgasm, skin flushing generally reaches its maximum. Muscles may keep contracting, while blood pressure, heart rate and respiratory rate continue to rise. Some women make sounds reflecting the pleasure they are experiencing.

Signs confirming orgasm

Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the outer third of the vagina, the uterus and anus. The first muscle contractions are the most intense, and occur at a rate of about 1 per second. As the orgasm continues, the contractions become less intense and occur at a more random rate.

   A mild orgasm may have 3 -5 contractions, an intense orgasm 10 -15.

   The "sex flush" (redness) becomes even more pronounced and may cover a greater percentage of the body.

   Muscles throughout the body may contract during orgasm, not just those in the pelvic area.

   Some women will emit or spray some fluid from their urethra during orgasm. This is often called female ejaculation.

   A woman's facial expression may indicate that she is in pain when she is having a pleasurable orgasm.

   At the peak of orgasm the entire body may become momentarily rigid.

   

What does orgasm feel like?

Women who have never experienced orgasm, and women who are not sure if they have, often ask, "What does an orgasm feel like?" This is a hard, if not impossible, question to answer. Imagine trying to explain to someone what it feels like to sneeze or yawn. Not easy to do. How our senses and brain interpret physical stimuli is subjective, that is dependent solely on the individual's perceptions. Subjective reports frequently mention a sensation of tingling in the spine, brain, and genital areas. While some women relay an experience being on the verge of passing out, others report a level of enjoyment only somewhat less than that of "the earth moving". If a woman has experienced some form of nerve damage, she may not be able to tell if she has had an orgasm.

Female sensual receptors

Although it's true that the entire body is in some way involved during climax, the key sensual receptor will always be the clitoris. Without engaging the clitoris directly or indirectly, there can be no prospect of orgasm. It seems difficult, particularly for men to understand that something as diminutive as the clitoris could be so vitally important. How could this tiny, almost external appendage be infinitely more sensitive than the vagina itself?

Intuition would make you believe that the lining or walls of the vagina are somehow more akin to the tip penis. Following that logic these two matching surfaces would engage one another during intercourse... resulting in ultimate mutual pleasure, physically and emotionally. Yet for some reason mother nature has played a trick. During intercourse primarily the emotional element comes into play, as the female creates a physical union with male.

There is a simple but not necessarily well known explanation for this circumstance. Unlike the glands of the penis, the vagina has relatively few sensual receptors. Ironically, the deeper the penetration, the fewer the receptors. The relatively few nerve receptors which do exist in the vagina are actually located to the upper third; which in many women may be only marginally sensitive at best.

For a woman to achieve climax the clitoris  must be stimulated in some fashion. This can be accomplished in two ways, directly or indirectly. With the indirect method the males pubic bone may push up against the clitoris while thrusting during intercourse. Or the penis may rub against the vulva, which because of its proximity to the clitoris, may result in indirect stimulation. Considering these circumstances it should be evident that indirect stimulation of the clitoris is not very efficient. It's actually a testimonial to the clitoris's remarkable sensitivity that indirect stimulation is even sufficient to produce climax for about 30 - 40% of women. Depending on the result of any particular survey.

By most accounts the clitoris is the counterpart of the tip or "glans" of the penis, with three primary differences: a) the urethra does not pass though the clitoris. b) it's smaller in size. 3) it's significantly more sensitive due to the greater number of nerve receptors (per square inch) than those found on the glans of the penis.

In this case it should be fair to assume that it's not possible for the majority of women to reach climax solely as a result of intercourse in the missionary position (face to face).

What might be the alternative?

Any position which allows the male partner easy and unrestricted access to the clitoris. For example: with the male laying on his back, and the female straddling his waist (facing him). In this position it's easily possible for the female to engage in thrusting, while allowing the male to directly stimulate her clitoris with his fingers.

Another alternative... more secure couples may decide to engage in intercourse with the male entering from the rear. With the female positioned in a forward kneeling position, she would have one hand free. This would allow her to stroke her clitoris to the point of full climax in concert with the thrusting action of her partner. The Application of this technique may make it possible for the couple to coordinate their efforts of reaching that elusive and highly prized "simultaneous" orgasm.

I feel like I am in high school. How could someone be that ignorant about female response?

Female orgasm during intercourse is learned. Nearly 100% of women do not have a real orgasm the first time they have intercourse (from intercourse alone), whereas I'm sure close to 100% men have (if they could avoid popping before they got it in). This alone should tell you that male and female orgasms are very, very different experiences. The male orgasm is pretty much automatic from intercourse alone while the female orgasm is not.

On the other hand, many girls start to masturbate at a very young age (even far before puberty) and learn to give themselves clitoral orgasms. But it's not like 9 year old girls have access to dildos or anything else to "practice" having orgasms vaginally. You have to wait until you start having sex.

My husband was my first sex partner. He never lasted more than a minute! So how on earth was I ever going to have a vaginal orgasm from sex alone with him? How many guys can't last long enough for a woman to orgasm even if she did "learn" to achieve one from intercourse alone?

And so far, I'm just talking about men and women in general, not providers.

Most women can cum from oral sex. I have never faked an orgasm. I, too, coach the guy during oral sex until he gets it right. But no guy should expect a woman to have a "real orgasm" from intercourse alone the first time having sex with her (not that it can't happen, you just shouldn't expect it). That's ridiculous!

I don't know where you heard 60%...  it's certainly not 60% of the time of all sexual encounters. Maybe 60% of women have experienced a vaginal orgasm at one time or another. Many NEVER have! I have a number of (non-provider) friends who never have. Even women who do experience it regularly don't EVERY time they have intercourse. You can't with those 60 second guys, and when guys get all excited with a beautiful woman who has just expertly sucked their cock....

THANK YOU WEBSTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The real issue on this board regarding the OP's question is the "insecurity" of so many guys who try and "perform" with a provider.  All you have to do is read any 20 reviews and you will certainly understand why this question is being asked.  So many guys truly (and I don't doubt they absolutely believe she had an O) want to feel "studly" when seeing a provider.  That is why so many gals have expertly conquered the "fake O" routine...it just makes John feel good.

Seriously, if the guys could reverse the roles and play "provider for a day", many more would certainly "get it".  The thought of opening up a door to a "stranger", hoping to God she doesn't reek from sweat, shit and other assorted odors, isn't beligerent or violent.  I would like to see how many guys (and let's at least pretend getting "hard" is not a problem) would achieve an orgasm with this client, let alone with frequency.  Especially in a one hour timeframe, and virtually NO stimulation.  Yea...good luck with that happening

one where she "mails it in?"

Well said! Guys need to understand that a woman's O during intercourse has little to do with his size or action during the act and everything to do with her past experience and sexual response.

Many women who do experience a true "O" during intercourse need clitoral stimulation until they are close then the guy can "do the honors" with his cock (this exactly how I use my dildo vibrator). This involves a lot of timing and understanding eachother's bodies. Very hard to do when you just met like you pointed out.

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The real issue on this board regarding the OP's question is the "insecurity" of so many guys who try and "perform" with a provider.  All you have to do is read any 20 reviews and you will certainly understand why this question is being asked.  So many guys truly (and I don't doubt they absolutely believe she had an O) want to feel "studly" when seeing a provider.  That is why so many gals have expertly conquered the "fake O" routine...it just makes John feel good.

Seriously, if the guys could reverse the roles and play "provider for a day", many more would certainly "get it".  The thought of opening up a door to a "stranger", hoping to God she doesn't reek from sweat, shit and other assorted odors, isn't beligerent or violent.  I would like to see how many guys (and let's at least pretend getting "hard" is not a problem) would achieve an orgasm with this client, let alone with frequency.  Especially in a one hour timeframe, and virtually NO stimulation.  Yea...good luck with that happening

I almost feel sorry for you angelique, LOL. I can't tell you how many women have told me I was the perfect size. Not as a way to make me feel better, but out of appreciation that they have it for the moment to play with. I cant say personally, because I am not female, but I have read about the vagina and do understand that the clitoris and vaginal receptors need stimulation. If a guy has a good size [the right amount of girth more so than length] it is easier to reach and stimulate more pleasure receptors in and around the vagina. Mix that with a little of the right grinding on the clitoris and women can and will reach an orgasm with out the need for toys or a serious connection to the other individual involved.  

If I bring a women to the point of having an orgasm, it may only be a few contractions that last 1-2 seconds as opposed to shaking, squirting or contractions lasting up to 10-15 seconds. I consider that an intense orgasm. Orgasms don't have to be this huge experience the neighbors hear during sex...it could be small and subtle, but there never the less.

I know this because I have taken Cialis and did nothing accept let the lady pleasure herself using me as a boy toy and nothing else. She was able to bring herself to 5 orgasms in an hour and I did nothing but lay there. She did not scream out or anything...she was just serious, not looking at me or anything...just pleasuring herself and using me to do it.

I hope for all women's sake that they find at least one guy in their life who can do this for them so I stop hearing about these terrible stories that they never had one or they guy needs to read a book while she gets herself started with a toy and calls him in when shes close. This is truly a tragedy.

DATY is one way for for all men to help here. If you know where the pleasure receptors are by studying the vagina, you can get the lady wet and the labia to swell up in just a few minutes making her ready for sex. I am NOT an expert, but I know I have brought women to orgasm and admittedly maybe only for 1-2 seconds. The length and severity of a woman's orgasms can be debated to no end, but bringing a women to orgasm can be done with oral and intercourse and I do think size matters. Another problem is most guys just dont last long enough for the women to get there and this is also a problem.

If a guy don't have a desired size [a good length and girth] or you have Peyronie's disease [curvature of the penis] it can be harder to achieve. Am I going to have to take you up on that drink or book an appointment to prove this to you? LOL

A mans work is never done