Whenever I've repeated a few times, at some point the conversation involves romantic goals. Not between each other but in general, like what makes an ideal partner. Inevitably that leads to a comment like "you would be a great boyfriend". Yes, I realize they're being kind on the clock. But I always respond "you get a much nicer version of me than real life". And that's true. Partly it's because the relationship is always in the honeymoon phase. But in real life I'm a hyper critical person, demanding, impatient, and have terrible crackhead energy. I'm married to my businesses and any woman is just a mistress. And I need a partner who is just as driven as I am or I become very judgemental/resentful. In short I'm a pain in the ass to be with.  

I'm probably much kinder to providers than I am in real life to women. I'm still myself, just the best version of myself. So I do think providers may see me in an unrealistic light, same as we do them.

So to the hobbyist: Do you add to the fantasy (intentionally or not) by being different than you are in real life? Does it add to the experience? (I think I may intentionally behave better because I wish I was like that all the time but realistically know I can only be that person for short periods of time)

To providers: Since many of you are good judges of character and probably are more intuitive about people than psychologists, is this common? Do you play into it? Do you see thru it? Do you care? (I realize I may be asking about trade secrets here lol)

I do some things with escorts I would not try to in real life, because I can get away with it...for an hour.

that their clients often treat them better than their boyfriends. So you’re not the only one who’s kinder to providers than to other women in their lives.

 
As for me, providers don’t get a nicer version of me.  I treat them the same as I’d treat a girlfriend, with the same kindness and respect.

When I'm giving (often to a fault) to my RL partner, I more often than not have nothing to show for it (barring the knowledge that I was a giving sensitive partner). I rarely have my desires fulfilled nor my efforts rewarded and am left feeling like I was hoodwinked into a relationship by a woman who simply isn't interested in being sexually free with me anymore. If she was, I honestly wouldn't engage in the hobby. And because I have to engage in it, I feel that much more grateful that the provider understands me in ways my partner no longer does. So yes, I'm my "better self" with providers.

Completely agree with you.  Last week a provider I met for the first time shared she gave up dating to escort.  Older men were nicer and more experienced, it was not just about the fuck.  Soo, I think you are spot on.

An interesting question back to those providers would be whether they treat their clients better than they do their boyfriends. My guess is yes. But I think it's just the nature of the relationship with a provider, as I said before we're always in the honeymoon stage. I don't necessarily treat them better than a SO but they just only get to see the good.

but they only get me in a limited context. They don't have to nag me to get my pile of papers off the table or get the bathroom faucet fixed, or put up with my bad sense of direction. They don't have to bug me to talk about some relationship issue. They don't have to worry when I'm late coming home and wonder if I'm seeing somebody else. And it goes both ways, of course. If she's an awful driver, spends hours watching bad reality TV, or is terribly insecure and controlling with her boyfriends, that doesn't affect our short time together. Even if you're being your real self and your real self is terrific, it's a lot easier on both sides to have a good experience when it's just an hour or two together behind closed doors.

Providers get the Uncensured version of me! In civvie life I have hangups and boundaries with my significant other that I can ignore when I am with a provider. Is this me better? From my standpoint I think so, at least when I’m doing the limited activities in a session.  However, this is hardly a microcosm of real life as it’s mostly about being in one room exercising my sexual fantasies and desires! For an hour I’m certainly more fun sexually than in my civvie life!

That's basically how I feel. I used to hookup with men from Tinder and after escorting for a while, I realized my clients were way sweeter and more considerate and better in bed. I get so many compliments, flowers and gifts and my time is appreciated. I feel like a goddess when I'm escorting,  I'm never going back to hookups now

Oooook.  That sounds as if one of you guys are falling for the other one and wants to get out of the game.  And If that's the case then you both need to address the issue.

Get real guys… the reason most women become escorts is to make MONEY.  It ain’t about romance or trying to find a boyfriend or to fulfill some fucking fantasy… it’s about making money.  So in most cases, she’s going to tell you whatever she thinks you want to hear if that might get per a bigger paycheck. It’s called business.
Yes, there are exceptions.  Just like there is a winning lottery ticket for some 1 lucky person.
The opinions expressed above are from my girlfriend who was a highly rated and successful provider for 8 years before she retired and for some completely inexplicable reason decided to settle down with me.

The key point here is “as an escort I was being paid.”
Money talks.  BS walks.

I think you missed the point. I'm have no illusions about whether my actions will lead me to start dating a provider, this ain't Pretty Woman. Plus I'm not into the whole "savior" thing.  

The point was whether you yourself play a different character to enhance the fantasy (for yourself, not the provider).

Now whether that is good or bad you'll have to ask the ladies that I've seen

after reading your headline.  Usually, the phrase "what you see is what you get . . . " is followed by a photo.  Lol

and ruin the mystery?  
Never!

Highly doubt I'm impressive enough for any of my regulars to fall in love with me. And me putting my best foot forward has more to do with my feelings toward myself than my feelings to them. Plus I might be an idiot but I'm not dumb.

CDL,  lopaw is a hottie!  

 
You'll just have to trust me on this.  ; _)  

 
Life is good

 
The Cat

a tight skirt showing some leg and curves, high heels with tight calves, and a blouse unbuttoned a little to show some cleavage.  You say "hottie."   Am I close?  Lol

Most, though not all, women want provider mates.  This is why career oriented women who delayed marriage until their late 30's and beyond can't find "acceptable" husbands.  Because they just aren't interested in men who earn less than they do or who have lower social status than they do.  Doesn't matter if these are nice guys, employed guys, good dads.  They are beneath her.  Of course there are richer men out there, but they can and do date and marry much younger women.  So these on-the-shelf women collect cats instead.

their pussies collect dust.  Lol

"It sounds like you want your woman to bring in just as much money as you do, if not go 50/50 and i may be wrong on this presumption."  

Not so much about the actual income but just the drive to be successful at whatever they choose to do. Don't care if she works at McDonald's as long as she busts her ass being the best cashier. Just have the desire to be great and not a lazy fuck. Be a housewife, just be great at it to the point you're proud of it.

My ex wife was a stripper who would fuck the occasional client. I had no issues with it. I grew up around sex work and adult entertainment. I spent years making bank in Afghanistan/Iraq as a contractor doing terrible shit (to terrible people). I'd say escorting is far more morally sound imo. However, my ex would fly to Vegas for a weekend, dance, take 1-2 clients, come back with shit tons of cash and just sit at the pool until she was broke. And then hit me up for money while doing fuck all around the house. Plus she always bitched that she hated the life and wanted to change but never made any effort too. Everyone always assumed it was her job that broke our marriage but it was just her not being driven in life.

I dated one other provider, whom I met as a client. I made her a deal that since she worked ~20 days per month, I'd give her 20x 2hrs per month so she wouldn't have to escort while we'd give our relationship a shot. Turns out we had a great client/ provider relationship, were good friends OTC, but were a terrible couple. She still an escort, I'm no longer her client, but we are still good friends.  

I wouldn't be opposed to dating an escort again but I'm just not looking for a relationship. Typically if I'm looking for a relationship I'll leave the hobby as it's not really the right place to look for that. But who knows what the future will bring.

 
PS in SoCal $350k is maybe the top end of middle class, not trophy wife type money, definitely not "rescue" an escort type money. Shit an Hermes Birkin for your trophy wife is $250k.